Search results matching tag 'weight issues'

Re: Feeling stuck on weight issue

gainback — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 07:27:11 GMT

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I've been very reluctant to tap on my weight issues, but have gotten around to it in the past few days because I discovered, to my horror, that I was struggling to fit into my largest pair of jeans. I know I've collapsed some significant issues, but I still feel like there is more to go and that I can't see what else is there to tap on.

Here's what I've tapped on so far:

As per JoAnn's recommendation, my relationship with food - I tapped on feelings of entitlement, deprivation, feeling lonely and empty without it. This worked, and I feel like my relationship with food has definitely shifted.
Feeling unable to do it, feeling like I'm just destined to get fatter and fatter rather than the other way around. This perception of myself has also shifted.
Not liking my body, etc. etc. Also shifted.

I did a lot of work last night, and I feel like I've exhausted all my avenues, but here I am craving something sugary first thing in the morning. Clearly there is something I haven't addressed, but I honestly don't know how to get to it. Can someone please give me some ideas?

I feel like I am definitely eating a lot less these days, and I'm craving sugar much less than I used to - however, paradoxically, I'm about 7 kilos heavier than I used to be.

I look forward to any suggestions and ideas people may have. Thanks :-)

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Hi Chim

You've done some great tapping there all logical stuff to tap on. Here are some questions I get my clients to comment on that may also be holding them back.

1. How long have you been over eating (this will hopefully give you the core issue)

2. Who else in your family is overweight or obsesses about food (this will show you where your habits may have formed)

3. What happened the last time you reached your goal weight? (what was your motivation, what happened that stopped you)

4. What loss/ emptiness are you trying to fill with extra foo? (self explanatory)

5. What would you focus on if you didn't obsess about food anymore?

6. How would you spend your time if you we're overeating or eating the wrong type of food

7. What is the dowside to lossing weight (possibly another core issues)

8. What is the upside of remaining overweight (possibly another core issue)

9. What is the downside to exercising (possibly another core issue)

10. What's the upside of not doing exercises? (Possibly another core issue)

11. What about my body don't I like (possibly another core issue)

12. If I'm fat what kind of person does that make me?

What ever come up for you surrounding these questions write it down, then tap for it.

Hope this helps

breast feeding and weight issues?

Alice Grange — Wed, 20 May 2009 17:44:11 GMT

Hi,

I thought I read a post on the relationship between NOT being breast fed and cravings but when I try to find it I'm unsucessful. If anyone has any info on this I would appreciate it.

Alice

How to effectively use EFT

Sharron Fieber — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 18:16:36 GMT

I've been reading everyone's posts and have found some insights and useful information. I seem to be ballooning up in weight in the last year. Much stress and discontent with my living situation and my career (or lack thereof!). I find I eat out of frustration, boredom and fear for my future. Because I am the primary caregiver for my elderly parents, leaving is not an option. I should add that I am in this situation by choice and would not trade the gift of this time with my parents for anything. BUT - it has it's stresses and conflicts and I seem to be eating my way through them. The other part of this issue is the lack of stimulating work opportunities in this small resort town I live in. I have several good ideas for "work at home" solutions, but I can't seem to move forward on anything. (I sometimes wonder if I have AADD.) I'm not sure how to apply EFT to my situation. I'm a little confused about when to state the problem and when to counter with a positive. Any suggestions would be welcome!

grnwtch

Re: Script for Body Image - Add a Simple SUD's 'Truth Statement'

Karen Nauman — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 22:35:54 GMT

Hi Mirabai,

What a great script and a very valuable contribution to this forum!

I like the way your rounds flow and help to shift or transform the energy. That's the neat thing about EFT - how quickly we can improve our feelings on a emotionally 'heavy' subject like hating our body.

A SUD's Truth Statement would add a nice element to your script.

Here's an example. I took the wording from one of the free scripts on my web site. I just adjusted it a little to fit your topic;

_________________________________________________________

Before the first 'Set Up':

Get a 0 - 10 'truth level' on this statement: "I hate my body and can't accept it", with 0 = not true at all and 10 = very true.

After the last round of tapping:

Take a deep breath... roll your shoulders, stretch, wiggle your toes. Check your 0 -10 'truth' statement level; "I hate my body and can't accept it". How true does it feel now? Compare this to your initial level.

Use the word 'feel' instead of 'think'. It's harder to 'plug' into the issue when we are in our head. Monitoring feelings brings us into our body where we will get a more honest or intuitive answer.

Even if the level of your truth statement only went down a little, change *will* start to happen. Small shifts in attitude and intention can go a long way in helping us make big changes in our life!

________________________________________________________

Thanks for posting such a great script. I am sure it will be helpful to many!

Karen

Karen Nauman C.Ht., EFT III

http://www.tapintoeft.com/eft-scripts/

totally new

Fancy — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 04:47:29 GMT

I have read Mercola for a while now in his newsletters. He talked about EFT.

I don't know a thing about EFT.

I am way overweight and had abuse issues in the past. I was doing better but since I started to take the meds for BP and I can't eat MSG or chemicals in food I gained what I Have lost.

Low carb and walking did best for me.

I am tiread of diets and I see that I roller coaster. Do well then not so well.

I want off the stupd meds they have me on. The memory is bad when I take them.

I live alone and get lonely. I used to talk on low carb sites but since the net is such a mix bag of people I don't post a lot any more and I am so tired of being on the net. The news is always bad. I paint paintings and that is what I should put my attention on instead of news I can't fix.

We will make it though this time of money issues but sometimes I wonder becaue of my weight that I will make it.

I follow a different thought on life. I will admit to be an independent Scientologist. That means not of the church. No way the church for their is an movement out of the church to have the teachings.

I am waiting to work with a person in it be a while till I can so I am looking her for some help. This seems to follow some of the thinking of the teachings but differently.

I take thyroid meds too

Barb

Fancy is my cat.

Newbie--weight question

claire — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 14:35:57 GMT

Hi everyone,

I am not totally new to EFT, but would still consider myself a novice. I have never had any weight issues my whole life, no eating disorders, or issues surrounding eating. I don't have the greatest eating habits, but was always able to eat whatever I wanted and never gained weight. I am 5'5" and hovered around 110 since high school. That is until I hit the magic age of 45 (I'm now 55.) That year I gave birth to my beautiful daughter. I soon was back into my size 8's, was breast feeding, and eating like a horse!

A little over a year later, as she was weaning off, I kept eating like a horse! I started to put on a few pounds. Then, I was diagnosed with Hepatitis C. I went on the chemo regimen, but had to go off because I developed first hyper-thyroid then it flipped and went hypo. (I joke that the next stage is hippo!) At any rate, once they got that regulated, I went back on the chemo and stayed with it. I've been virus free for 3 years now.

In the midst of all this I went through menopause. It wasn't bad at all, thank goodness, but all this has caused (?) me to balloon. I am not severely overweight, but am just beyond the high end of "normal" for my height and age. I want to be back in my size 8's.

So, my question is, how can I use EFT to deal with my thyroid, slowed metabolism, and poor eating habits? Oh, and I also do not drink near enough water. I know all this, and I try to do better, but ...

Thanks for your help.

Working through it all. Any guidance appreciated :o)

Gracey — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 18:29:52 GMT

Hi EFTers!

This forum is great- it’s wonderful to see so much love & support out there. Hence, I’d like to be a part of it.

I have just started EFT and, to be honest, have found it a bit overwhelming in a way. I’ve been watching videos & reading about it & practicing but it has started to get all a bit too noisy in my head when I think about all of it. I thought if I wrote it all out it would help me. Plus, it may offer anyone interested an opportunity to pass on their guidance– especially if you can pick up on something that I haven’t (particularly you NLP lot).

I am by no means overweight, but I am carrying extra pounds- mostly around my stomach. I’m a bit exasperated by it all now because I feel as though the healthier I try and become, the more weight I put on… & the more obsessed with my weight I am! It drives me nuts that I’m constantly thinking about food (I’m aware of the laws of attraction but sometimes I can’t step off the train of thought).

I used to binge a lot & have since given up junk food/sugar/non-foods. Admittedly, I do have more energy & feel better & find that I don’t actually like the taste of junk foods.. it hasn’t stopped me from overeating though & I have just transferred my sugar addiction to a “healthy food” addiction. It’s to the point now where I feel like anything I eat will make me fat. I can’t just eat a meal any more… I analyse it every time.

So, I realized that I needed to figure out what was holding me back. So far I have come up with the following:

I don’t want to lose weight because I wouldn’t know what to do with myself; I’m scared that I still wont be happy (I’m not depressed or anything, but my weight does bug me & I long for the day when it doesn’t!); I’m afraid of failure ie: I don’t think I’ll ever be able to lose the excess weight; I have so much identity caught up in the way I eat that I wouldn’t know who I was & I don’t want to be “wrong” about eating the way I do; I also feel that losing weight is too hard;

I’ve had a think about when it all started & so far I have come up with: After my mum died, I went to live with my dad & step-mum. It wasn’t the best living arrangement & there was hardly ever any food in the house. When there was food, there was always a competition over it because I have two big brothers (whom I love dearly) that would eat everything. I remember at dinner time my dad being proud when the boys ate a lot so I started to do it too. My step-mum also used to by her own food that none of us were allowed to eat. The only time I got to hang out with my dad was when we went to cafes and he would buy me treats- my brothers never came so I think I began to equate it with feeling special.

As living with my dad & step-mum became more strained, they stopped taking me out for meals & providing food for us was always seen as such a burden. So, when I got a part-time job at 15, I remember I used to spend all my money on food. The grief of my mum not being around, the tumultuous home life, & often being home alone led me to fill my time with eating food. It was the only way I knew how to nurture myself at the time (which is another thing I realize I get out of it).

Plus, in the holidays, I spent all my time with my grandma (mum’s mum) & she used to let me eat any food that I wanted! I used to love going there & just eating all the food I never got at home. I think this in particular made a correlation between mothers love (my grandma) & food.

It doesn’t serve me anymore though but I suppose the little girl in me is afraid of letting it go. It offers me a lot of protection. I have even noticed that I always put a pillow to my stomach so that I feel ‘closed in’/ ‘safe’. I’m not sure what will happen when I drop the belief that I need to be chubby to feel protected. What coping mechanism will I use then??? I have reactive hypoglyceamia which means I also don't eat high starch foods & I'm intolerant to lactose. I have noticed though that these sensitivities have gotten worse.

It’s also a bit of a sore spot because my family are fitness freaks! My dad & brothers are all natural athletes & have competed nationally. I on the other hand…. Well, I’m better at knitting… So, I judge myself a lot for not being fitter (not good I know).

I read in a post someone saying that you need to trust yourself around food. That really resonated with me. I’d love to not be thinking about every morsel of food that I eat. To be honest, I don’t want to eat tubs & tubs of ice cream but…. I find the only way to stop binging is to cut it out. I had to otherwise, I fond that one scoop was never enough- if I had a tiny bit, I had to have the whole lot! I look forward to the day that I can eat a piece of chocolate & be satisfied with that.

I just have to keep the faith that EFT will work. I’m going to do tapping on the events that I’ve mentioned. Although, if anyone has some suggestions on how then I’m very open to them. I’ve got an appointment booked with a practitioner but it’s not for 2 more weeks.

For now, I sort of don’t even know where to start! Plus, I’m not sure how long I should do them for & how many events I should tap for each day. I find food obsession a hard topic to test intensity for.

Wow, this is a mega post. At the very least, I hope that it can offer a hand to those who feel the same way- we’re in this together :o)

Thank you to all of you who give some much loving energy to this forum.

Hugs & blessings to you all.

Re: Brick walls...

pattyann2264 — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 23:11:45 GMT

Thanks, Philip, but that's not an option for me. I live in Tallahassee, which is a small town, and as far as I know, we have only one EFT practitioner here, and she treats people who were abandoned or rejected by their mothers. No help for me there. I worked for about 6 months with someone over the phone, but we never got to the root of my compulsive overeating, so I'm not likely to try that again, either. I'm on my own with this one, and that brick wall looms high.

Pat

Brick walls...

pattyann2264 — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 16:23:06 GMT

I would like to start this posting by saying that I am not a therapist. I am what Gary calls a "do it yourselfer". A counselor that I worked with used EFT and taught me the basics. I then purchased the foundational DVDs. I've learned a lot, but it seems that the deeper I get into my own "stuff", the more trees I find in my huge forest.

What I am working on is weight loss. For health reasons it is imperative that I lose quite a bit of weight. As I've started trying to tap away my trees, things like feeling unsafe, high job stress, and feeling like I don't deserve to be slender have come up, but no matter how much I tap, I find that late in the evenings I have a compulsion to eat. No cravings, no specific foods, just a "have to fill the void" kind of thing. I'll lose a little weight, then I'll gain a little. Up and down, with no real progress.

I've also purchased and used Carol Look's CDs of telesessions for weight loss, and Carol Solomon's book on weight loss and cravings, and although they have touched on a number of my own issues, I'm still dealing with the brick wall that I can't see a way around.

I have worked hard, and I have been consistent about daily tapping, but I have no idea how to approach the brick wall that I keep running into, and how to get past the point where I'm medicating myself with food.

Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Pat from Florida

Re: Weight issues - Most Common Weight Loss Issue = Safety

Karen Nauman — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 00:16:52 GMT

Hi Gary,

I have worked with a lot of weight loss clients as a Hypnotherapist, Nlp Practitioner and now as an EFT Practitioner. Hands down the biggest issue around or actually underneath weight... is safety.

By this I mean that a person's subconscious or in particular, the primitive mind is not allowing someone to lose weight because it violates some safety or survival rule. The issue/rule is usually hidden but with the right EFT weight loss tapping approach and questioning, it can be discovered and dealt with.

In these cases, if the safety issue is not found and cleared the person will struggle to lose even the smallest amount of weight or they will yo-yo i.e. go on a diet lose 25 pounds and then gain back 30 pound in 6 months!

Here are some common examples of safety issues;

- "If I lose weight I'll be better than my sister/mother/brother/father and then she/he will be mad at me and may not like/love me anymore."

- "If I lose weight, my husband/wife will think I am trying to be more self empowered or better than them. They won't like it, will feel threatened by me changing and might even leave me!"

- "If I lose weight I'll be attractive and get sexual advances from men. That is not safe because I have a history of physical and sexual abuse."

- "If I lose weight people will expect more from me... to work harder at my career, my health and even relationships! I like things the way they are... people don't expect very much from me."

- "If I lose weight I won't feel like part of the family anymore. Every relative I have is overweight. I don't want to be an outcast. Besides, I won't have fun at family gatherings if I am not eating all of the great food like everybody else is!"

- "If I lose weight I'll no longer be big and bulky. If I am not big I can't protect myself. When I was small I was bullied, picked on and taken advantage by my brothers, sisters and the kids at school!"

- "If I start eating healthier and lose weight I'll prove my mother was right. She tried for all of my childhood to control my diet and I will not be controlled. What I eat and what I weigh is my choice!"

- "If I lose weight I'll probably just put it all back on. I tired of being the failure in the family. Not just in this area but my marriage didn't work either. So I might as well stay this way... its just safer!"

This is not very glamorous stuff I know but, many times these are the kinds of things that are at the root of why a someone can't lose weight, sabotages with snacking/binging/not exercising or constantly yo-yo's.

Discover the Blocks to Your Weight Loss Success Story

Here's what you can do to discover your own weight loss blocks. First take a few moments to ground and access your inner coach.

You might try this 'easy-to-learn' EFT breathing technique; http://www.tapintoeft.com/eft-tap-breathe/

Now, on a piece of paper write... "If I lose weight ___________" Then jot down whatever comes up in your mind no matter how silly it sounds. Do not think about or judge this information. Take your first impressions.

Ask yourself some questions like;

- What makes me feel unsafe or threatened about reaching my ideal weight?
- Who might feel threatened by me losing weight?
- What might be expected of me as a slimmer person that is not expected of me know?
- Who might be jealous or even hate me for slimming up?
- How would I feel if lost and then I started gaining again?

The answers to these questions are the things you tap on to remove the blocks to losing the weight you desire!

EFT is the most powerful tool I've used for helping to shift or dissolve limiting beliefs that can keep a person stuck and over weight.

After dealing with the blocks... *then* the new positive affirmations can be tapped in using EFT.

With an effective EFT weight loss approach, pounds drop off faster and stay off, long term. No will power or dieting is required... what a relief!

I hope this is useful information for you. Thanks for asking such a powerful question!

Karen

Karen Nauman C.Ht, P.Nlp
FREE EFT SCRIPTS Vist:
http://www.tapintoeft.com/eft-scripts/