Search results matching tag 'surrogate tapping'

Re: Surrogate Tapping Tailgaiters

Suzanne — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 11:20:44 GMT

Hi Betty,

Welcome to the EFT forums :-)

I just love this tapping :-D I do it here in South Africa, where the drivers are particularly prone to rage, though I must admit I use it more for me rather than for them. I'll try your blinking lights method next time!

Surrogate EFT - A few clarification needed

divine_seeker — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 09:22:27 GMT

Hello,

My greetings to all the EFT healers. I have learnt and have experiened very good results with EFT with my issue of low intensity but very frequent seizures. I am confident of complete healing very soon.

I have a few doubts about surrogate EFT.

1) What should be the proficieny of the surrogate tapper? Does he/she needs to be a very experienced practitioner?

2) Do we need the concurrence of the person on whom we are going to apply surrogate tapping? Because some folks want to continue that way.

3) If the affected people experience good results, do we need to reveal the reason of EFT.

Recently I have got the complete DVD set of EFT and studying further.

Regards,

A divine seeker

Re: Angry husband refuses to forgive me...

Prathi — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 03:31:48 GMT

Dear ScientistGeorge and other EFT'ians,

I am quite blown away by Ros' situation. She is lucky that her husband stuck around her inspite of all the issues.Unfortunately, I have somewhat similar issues but my husband has neither forgiven and also has applied for divorce. I believe in my heart of hearts that we can make the marriage work. And whatever I am trying to do to make it work is completely from my side, like many have commented here. Ros' case has given a new hope to me. When I saw your words for tapping I liked them. I am new to EFT in a way & see it as my last hope. I am working on various emotional & physical issues this situation has brought about

My questions are:

1. Do we use your tapping words only on the KC point?

2. What words are to be used while tapping on the rest of the points?

3. I also would like to have some guidance on how to go about surrogate tapping.

4. I have blurred vision due to the stress caused by the situation and on top of it, I have uterine fibroids which fortunately are not causing any problem to me. I didn't even know they were there till they were discovered during a off-hand check-up and one of them is nearly 10cm big. Even now I don't have any indication of their presence.

5. There was a miscarriage as well which in itself was a very painful experience for me. I just love kids. I am unable to let go of my baby's memory. Too emotional.

6. How to do tapping to forgive myself & others? I know that I need to forgive all those who have hurt me immensely. But sometimes I can, sometimes I I just cannot. It tears me apart to forgive them for all the injustice they have done to me.

I am grateful for your guidance and support.

Thanks for listening.

God bless u.

Re: Foot pain & swelling

SkyWatcher — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 06:35:58 GMT

Hi,

It is wonderful that you want to help your brother, and I can understand you being upset.

Can your brother tap-either with you in person or on the phone? Just wondering why you are tapping surrogately instead of having him tap?

Your brother has free-will, and there may be a part of him that isn't ready to let his illnesses go...You can tap for him, but you never know what will happen. I find if the person I am working with and I both have a strong INTENT about their well being-we get incredible results. There is a letting go and letting it be. You can't make things happen. You can help clear away blocks-if the person allows it.

A thought that occurred to me is you may be moving a little fast for your brother. I agree with Chim about working on your own feelings that are coming up. Go to the root of your own stuff & release it. You may decide to find a practitioner, or you may be able to do it by yourself. It depends on you.

Re: Strange Happening with Surrogate Tapping

CiaW — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 01:45:17 GMT

The first thing that came to my mind, particularly when you mentioned the suggestion to 'f off' was demonic interference, an attempt to intimidate.

I haven't done much myself in the way of surrogate tapping, but I recently had a client ask about it, your story adds an interesting aspect.

My working theory is that there is a link between the spiritual realm and our emotions, and that EFT can help with the emotional part and thus help reduce the 'hold' of the (dark) spiritual realm.

Hope that helps (?),

Surrogate EFT treatment for NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)

Sigrid Hanser-Ifrah — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 20:35:16 GMT

I continuously apply EFT very successfully on my self and my dog for many reasons. I have truly improved physically, mentally and emotionally a lot since I started to apply EFT to myself. However, I for many years now I experience great difficulties in the interaction with my adult children. I just could not make any sense of their detached and often emotional cruel and abusive behavior towards me and their professional stagnation in spite of their artistic gifts. Not only do I have improved significantly through EFT but also through my spiritual and metaphysical studies and applications. Now, that I feel better than ever in nearly every aspect of my life, my son seems to have great difficulties with ‘relating’ to me and both of my children choose to have no contact with me whatsoever. My son made me even an ultimatum that only if I can proof at least 6 months of psychological therapy will he consider to re-evaluate our relationship! Given the many years of very unsettling, detached, conflicting and unreasonable attitudes towards me and me having been married and divorced to a man with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) (their father) I once again conducted some research and it opened my eyes dramatically. I realize now that both of my children exhibit very clear symptoms of NPD. Not to ‘label’ them but now, with the understanding of NPD everything in our relationship and what has and is happening in their lives, how they deal with conflict or towards others, falls into place and makes perfect sense in that context. NPD is very difficult to treat because one of the symptoms is that they don’t realize or believe that they have that ‘disorder’ and they are very skilled in misleading the therapist, if they ever go to one.

I am well aware of all the psychological undercurrents that are at the core of the issue and I know that NPD can be caused by childhood trauma, by overindulgence and over-compensation (guilt due to divorce) as well as genetically, which were all present in our past family dynamics. I, myself had a very difficult time to survive thouse years and to keep it together the best I could for my children. EFT has helped me tremendously in addressing those issues and to get to a better place.

I want to take the right ‘spiritual’ and metaphysical direction and I have read about the surrogate EFT approach. However, I wonder if anyone has worked with NPD and has any suggestion on how I could go about helping my children and my self to restore a healthy, harmonious, rewarding and mutual respectful relationship and life in general. They are highly intelligent people and they have so much positive potential and so many natural gifsts which are not utilized due to their NPD.

surrogate tapping

mindxb — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 14:38:37 GMT

Hi There

Just wanted to ask the forum if people assume they are the client when doing surrogate tapping using phrases stating 'Even though 'I' have a sore neck...." or whether it is better to tap for the person i.e. saying "Even though Bob has a sore neck etc etc.

I ask because as a Reiki Master I would send healing by distance but never step into someone's energy to 'become' them - even temporarily. Also I would cut the link to them after an attunement or healing session. With that in mind, for those of you that assume the client, do you end your session stating "I am (whoever),," to break the link?

Would appreciate any comments

Thanks so much!

Using Surrogate Tapping AND Borrowing Benefits?

jeffusu — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 13:55:47 GMT

I'm curious if anyone has experience doing surrogate tapping and borrowing benefits at the same time.

I'd like to be able to help my grandfather out, who can move around but has had drinking issues and arthritis for a very long time now.

Borrowing Benefits seems like a good fit, because of it's ease of application and simplicity, yet I'm wondering if it would also work if I did surrogate tapping for my grandfather while using the borrowing benefits idea. I don't see why not, I'm open to some pretty far out ideas.

Any thoughts/experiences?

Re: explaining the part surrogate tapping played

Suzanne — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 16:50:19 GMT

[quote user="Philip Davis"]

To those who beleive, no proof is necessary.

To those who dont beleive, no proof is possible.

[/quote]

I love this! Thank you Philip.

Re: Angina Pain

SkyWatcher — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 07:28:20 GMT

Hi VJ,

How are you doing with all of this? You want to take care of yourself.

PART 1: First, if I were you, I would tap for myself. I would tap on my biggest fear, or strongest emotion. For example, Even though;

I feel terrified that my mother-in-law may die, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself
I am not quite certain what to do, and I want to make sure that whatever I do that I don't make a mistake...
I want to help my mother-in-law so much, and I am feeling some uncertainty (use your own words)...

I am just imagining what you may be feeling... If these phrases don't work for you, tap on the emotions that are there for you. When the intenstiy gets down to around a 3, then start affirming the positive for yourself. Listen to the gifts that your intuition is giving you. Some phrases that you coluld use:

I am whole and complete
I am being guided as what to do and say
I trust my inner knowing
I am calm and at peace
I listen to my heart
(continue to say positive phrases that come from your heart)

Part 2: Tapping surrogately for your mother-in-law.

You don't need to wait. I think that you can do a better job after clearing whatever resistance/blocks that you personally have (like I described in Part 1). Something cool about this, is that you don't even have to with her for it to work. If you happen to be with her, and you can look into her eyes and send love her love. If that isn't possible, that is OK, too.

You may want to imagine what happened to cause your mother-in-laws angina pain. Was there a recent big trauma or loss? What has been upsetting to her? Anotherwords, what strong negative emotions may she have experienced recently? Or has she been carrying around some deep sadness. If you don't know her stories, you may want to ask your partner or her partner...

Here is one way to do it. Say something like: Even though I am (say your mother-in-laws name) and I am doing this for my highest good. Now, you are going to be one with your mother-in-law energetically, and make stuff up.

Even though:

something just happened that caused me severe agina pain (if you have an idea what it was or have a hunch--you can add it here), and I deeply and completely love and accept myself
I have a deep pain in my heart...
my heart is trying to give me a message... (if you hear it, you can tap on it)
(as you are tapping on yourself (for your mother-in-law AS your mother-in-law), pause and listen deeply with your heart--if something comes into your mind/heart--tap on it AS your mother-in-law--in the first person)

Also, remember that we are All Spirit. Be in the moment with this process. Be grateful.

I hope that this helps in some way. VJ, know that you can't do it wrong--trust your own guidance...

Gratefully yours,

JoAnn