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Need help finding right setup...

Karla — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 03:32:40 GMT

I am a very well educated, creative and competent person. I've always got compliments about my work and performance, even when I was a kid at school. But... I feel I don't get what I "deserve"- like recognition in example. Usually other people use my ideas (and get promotions and/or recognition/better opportunities) so for me is like someone else is getting "the ultimate prize". So bottom line is- I am very capable of advancing in life but feel I am not getting the opportunities and it is really frustrating for me. It is affecting my self-confidence tremendously. Any ideas for setup sentences? I really appreciate your help!

PS- English is not my first language so I hope it is clear enough for you all to understand!

Re: Big Audition in a Few Weeks, Looking for Ideas

successfuleft — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 13:28:09 GMT

Hi Gracenote,

I can appreciate the difficulty of your situation and am glad you are reaching out the forums. Using EFT for Peak Performance is one of my favorite uses of this powerful tools. Here's a few things I suggest:

I think I hear in your story what I call "the struggle factor". When everything seems to be difficult, I often find it helpful to explore beliefs around success. One question I like is, "If success could talk to you, what would it say?"
From a Law of Attraction perspective, your story focuses on what you don't want: PA, difficulties in your auditions, not having enough time to practice, etc. I would tap on this. You could use statements like "Even though in the past I've really had the tendency to focus on what's not working, like on my performance anxiety, I'm starting to be curious if maybe there is another way I can approach my education."
As you start to notice the tendency to focus on the difficulties decrease, I would start to tap on opening to new possibilities. What if going to school could be fun? What if I could relax a bit more and enjoy my studies? I wonder how my auditions would go if I were enjoying myself a bit more? I wonder if EFT could help me find my groove a bit more?

A tapping buddy or practitioner can really help in this journey - it's hard to hold a warm and gentle space for ourselves when we're not feeling warm and gentle. TappingBuddies.com is one place to look for a tapping buddy.

With much love,

Paul

Re: Bowling Performance

Karen Nauman — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 00:16:46 GMT

Hi Kathryn,

I don't no why, but this line jumped out at me as something to possibly keep investigating.

[quote user="kathrynhoyt"]to overcome the writing on my walls about bowling better than men[/quote]

Many times we unconsciously hold ourselves back due to safety issues i.e. it is not safe to be successful because...

Maybe ask yourself some questions like;

- If I excelled at bowling, who might be miffed at me or even upset?

- Are there any sibling situations or specific events that this remind me of i.e. being better than another or not being better to hold a family position or expectation?

- Possible father 'stuff' i.e. a successful dad that we can't outdo. Or maybe a brother? Maybe your mother, sister, cousin, friend?

- What would happen in my family/social life if I did excel at this?

- Would someone be jealous, envious, hurt etc?

Some food for thought. Karen :)

Here's a couple of great Carol Look interviews that may help to trigger something:

http://eft-revealed.com/blog/feeling-safe-to-change/

http://eft-revealed.com/blog/how-your-identity-impacts-your-life-with-carol-look/

Re: Can EFT Help Me With This....

successfuleft — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 16:44:45 GMT

Lesley,

Thanks for reaching out to the forums. I can appreciate how important it is to regain your ability to concentrate.

You say, "I also have a problem with concintrating because my mind is over active, its one of the things causing the memory problem." Remember that a basic premise in EFT is that all negative symptoms and emotions are caused by a disruption of the energy system. So, your mind being over active and your difficulties with concentrating and your trouble remembering things are all caused by a disruption. Find the cause of the disruption and you'll likely see significant improvement in the symptoms.

I don't have enough information to help with specific setup phrases. However, some questions that might help get some of these specifics are:

Suppose something was in the way of you concentrating and remembering things. What would that be?
If your memory problems could talk, what would they say?
If there was a time in your life that was connected with your memory problems, what would that be?
If there was a subconcious penalty for you remembering better, what would that be?
Who is better than you and why?
What prevents you from preforming at the next level?
If you had a magic camera that could show your brain when it was trying to remember, what would it show?

Remember that a key to EFT success is being specific. You could try tapping on "these memory problems". However, the results that EFT is known for happens when you do a little detective work and find the underlying core issues. These questions are designed to help in your exploration. Hope they prove helpful to you.

With much love,

Paul

Re: FREE EFT Session for the first 10 People who contact me

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Trainingscamp

eweingarten76 — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 13:23:00 GMT

Dear all,

I am completely new to the forum and relatively new to EFT.

Just last week I was offered the chance to take part in a tennis training camp and work with children - either in a group of approx. 20 for 45 mins. or in 4 groups of 45 mins. each.

I would be delighted to hear from someone who has done something similar and could give me some tips on how to best approach this. Have you found that there are certain general issues that affect most children doing sports?

When I have done groups or talks before it has mostly resulted in the praticipants being very happy with what they have learned and not needing to come back - as well as teaching all their friends. While I am really happy to make EFT available to as many people as possible, this is not really the way to earn a living. I would appreciate thoughts and suggestions on this specific issue, too.

Thanks!

Kind regards, Esther Weingarten (Bonn, Germany)

Re: EFT and Sports Performance

Angelica — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 22:53:04 GMT

Just wanted to share an experience especially with nkp9999 and BPositive, where I used EFT on my own sports performance. I show horses, and have used EFT with really excellent results. I hope you'll forgive the long post, but it helps me when I read very specific descriptions from other people.

Because I don't get to ride and practice very often, mental training and EFT help me advance even with limited practice.

I was at a show recently and had a bad practice ride a few hours before my competition. My trainer gave me one of those very frank "coach" talks about what had gone wrong and what it would take to fix it. When I asked if there was anything I could do in my competition (it's called a "class", although it's the actual competition when you're being judged) he pretty much said, just hang on and try to get through it, we'll have to fix these problems later in practice. This is usually because when a horse goes into a class, he knows he's not likely to get corrected in front of the judge, and will often magnify whatever performance problems he had in the practice ring or indulge in any bad habits he's gotten away with in the ring before.

I went back to my hotel and spent an hour and a half doing EFT. I started by writing down all my negative or limiting beliefs. Before I started tapping, I tried to capture all the aspects that came up for me. Then I methodically tapped on them, one by one, and was careful not to switch aspects in the middle of working on one. Many were similar to Chris's list. They included such things as being nervous, worrying about what others were thinking, not wanting to let my coach down, feeling I didn't deserve to win, and feeling underprepared.

After I tapped on an item, I then tapped on a positive. I used ideas from Gary's Palace of Possibilities, such as, "I accept the possibility that I do deserve to win" or "I accept the possibility that this limiting belief is keeping me from reaching my peak performance." Then I included "I give myself permission to change."

As I finished a limiting belief, I physically crossed it off on the list, as a way to reinforce that I was done with it.

If I found an issue that caused a physical reaction in me, like tightening of the stomach, butterflies, or another manifestation of tension, I spent as much time on it as I needed to bring the level down as far as I could. On one particular statement I used 9 Gamut, collarbone breathing, and the eye roll and never got it to zero! But I got it to a manageable 1.

After I finished all my limiting statements, I surrogate tapped on my horse. I used statements that reflected what he was doing that might go wrong in the class, and finished with "I'm a good horse, I respect my rider, and I know my rider deeply and completely respects me." For human team sports surrogate tapping might be used on a team member.

Once I got to the show grounds and nerves kicked in, I either went off by myself to tap, or tapped my karate chop point as I felt the physical symptoms of nervousness. This kept my nerves down to very manageable level.

I rode into the ring and had a tremendous ride. It was the best ride my horse and I had ever had, and his responsiveness was impressive. We had none of the problems we'd had in my practice ride. I won the class, and also the championship class two days later. My trainer told me he knew the horse was in great show form but had not thought I could "get out of his way" and keep him there, and I had proven him wrong.

As reinforcement after my first ride, I went back and wrote down everything that was right about the ride. In preparing for my championship ride two days later, I used my list of positives and reinforced them with tapping, then I tapped on any nervousness that came up, such as the belief "I can't do it twice in a row" or "I choke when the big prize is on the line".

I also used a technique I'd read in Gary's newsletter, "I love that about myself", in which you begin with a negative, such as "Even though I sabotage myself when the big prize is on the line" then you inject something positive that you know to be true, like "I've succeeded under pressure at other horse shows" and add the positive affirmation "and I love that about myself" said with GREAT enthusiasm!

All of these techniques together were the recipe for success for me, and I hope they give you some ideas that you can adapt to your own sport.

EFT For Tennis

BPositive — Sat, 05 Apr 2008 16:26:44 GMT

I am eager to use EFT to improve my tennis game. Some sort of mental block keeps me from winning matches. During practice sessions I am strong and consistent but have great difficulty winning the game. I can stretch the winning point out for agonizing, long periods of time. WHen every game is a series of Deuce, Add In, Deuce, Add Out, Deuce, Add In....YOu get the point! It MUST be psychological. Has anyone a recommendation for some tennis or sport specific Set-up Phrases? I am generally a high-strung sort of person and have tried the performance anxiety Set-up phrase "Even though I have a mental block to winning at tennis, I deeply and completely accept myself." Somehow that doesn't resonate with me and didn't seem to have any impact. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!! Julie BPositive

Feel it!

jayovee — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 09:05:32 GMT

Hi all,

I read the following on Seth Godin's blog. Seth was paying tribute to Arthur C. Clarke who died recently.

The first is obviously from Arthur C. Clarke and can be said of EFT, while the second is from Seth. It ties in well with a recent post from Steve Wells on the emofree site. I particularly like the last sentence.

What you can learn from Arthur C. Clarke.

“Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic.”

"The most important thing you can take away: Naming things is important. He made magic things real by describing them and talking about them in ways that felt real. Once something feels real, making it real is a lot easier."

Re: Is this forum performing?

philvt — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 19:02:37 GMT

About two years ago, after much thought along the same line as this thread, I had decided on Performance Enhancement Technique, a sub-set of EFT. At this time I was still relatively new to EFT but it was this performance aspect that really caught my eye. I was about to come forth with this whole great segment of EFT focusing on performance, when Master practitioners Lake and Wells from EFT DownUnder announced their version of PET - Provocative Energy Techniques. I saw this as an indication that while Im on the right track, I need to slow down and integrate new data and await further inspiration. But it's certainly input for any name change and continuation of whats seems to have deteriorated into a somewhat inane and overly long discussion on a perhaps insignificant matter - it all comes down to marketing and reception by the market place - There fore I have to say I agree with writergrrrl - seperate sub-forums of this performance forum may well stimulate discussion with specific areas of interest.

athletics/sports - with its own set of subforums

business

learning

arts

relationships

are a few that come to mind for consideration

In fact, that so mant seem to have an aversion to even the simple word itself indicates that that's where we might want to be looking......

Phil