Search results matching tag 'happiness'

Re: Feeling disconnected from myself after successful EFT

judieregler@btinternet.com — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 15:01:02 GMT

Whow!

Well done! I have "lived" in the reverse of what you have done. I have experienced what you are saying from aged 23 to now (57!!!) All I can say is do not investigate anything anymore - just enjoy "the space you are in!"

I was surprised today to find anyone whom had suffered this DP/DR and I have also trained in EFT to Level 2 - I have posted an answer to a guy called Ted who seems to still be suffering. I am rather loathe to refer you to it because I just suggest you continue to enjoy "your new space"

What you have been suffering is Depersonalisation and/or Derealisation - and thank goodness it was only for a short while.

I do not know if my post will be accepted but you are welcome to contact me on email: judieregler@btinternet.com

Kind regards

Judie

Re: EFT for feelings of derealization and depersonalization...

judieregler@btinternet.com — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 14:49:05 GMT

Hello Ted - This is very curious - I have suffered DP/DR since about 1975 - I am now 57 - I agree it is (as I call "a living death!") I have worked with the Maudsley hospital in drug trials to no avail. I have sought many alternative therapies even Shamanic journeying and EFT and Neurolinguistic programming. I think I am a little better than I was early on but as you say it is "the anxiety" of what is happening - have I died - why can I not connect with all my friends/family, I am just an observer to life. I first got DP and then it went onto DR as well. Even looking at a sign post which was for my home town looked so unfamiliar and unreal I am sure you know.

My attempts with the medical profession have resulted in two suicide attempts (drug induced), two episodes of psychosis and 12 rounds of electric shock treatment. I know (on looking back) they were only trying to help but I now realise (sorry for the pun!) derealise! that I was merely a guinea pig.

Shamanism looks at "Soul Loss" and this is what I think DP may be? When a trauma occurs part of the soul leaves because it cannot cope with it so leaves to enable to person to survive. I have had two soul retreivals and shortly after did feel better but it did not last.

EFT - I am qualified to level 2 and I cannot understand why I have not tried it on myself - having read your site and the messages from others I will try. But I wonder if "secondary gain" maybe comes into play - I say this because the only "remedy" I have found is alcohol. I hate myself because I drink every night and make the excuse that it is because I have had such a "shitty day" 'PRETENDING TO EVERYONE THAT I AM FINE AND ENJOYING EVERYTHING .. BUT I GUESS YOU KNOW THAT LIE TOO- This is also very exhausting I think although now I am unable to "feel my own SELF/body and even the lack of energy - something just drives me forward - people think I am fine?

I think the worst thing is that I have owned my horse for 15 years (my husband died the year after I bought him) I obviously love him so much because he has helped me and supported me - even down to just being a reason to get up in the morning but I DO NOT FEEL this affection for him. He must know it is there and the only time I get close to "getting close" to this affection I just burst into tears!

Comment from any other EFT -ers would be appreciated here

NLP - not really any help because again the "connections" (brain wise) are not made?

My only recommendation (apart fromt he alcohol) and really when you think about it - now at my age it is quality rather than quantity of life and having to drop all the "pressures and personal constructs" society has put on us all - is

Please visit www.hearthealing.ca This will introduce you to Jill and Joe - She is an extremely talented lady and psychic beyond all psychics - she can see all the energetic bodies around a person. She sees that back in 1970's my heart was responsible for closing my body down (as in DP/DR because if it had not then I would be dead - overwork, etc. telling myself that my marriage was great (not!). Also I fell from my horse when aged 12 and was in coma (this goes back to the Shamanic training I have done) and part of the soul leaves to cope. She has written a book explaining just how the heart field is far greater than the brain and explains how to swap thinking for feeling!!! I have been fortunate to go on 3 of her workshops - I should not (that is another message in my brain from parents!) have done that because I could not afford to do it but somehow my heart has told me to go - this is how I have learned so much - if only (another rubbish two words) I could have known this 30 years ago!

So I would only encourage you to go if you can afford it - She has one in Glastonbury (which I would love to attend) but I am on benefits and cannot - If you have the funds please enrol because you will learn so much (not necessarily about DP/DR but about yourself. Also she is able to read your energies and will tell you just what she sees and Joe will tell you just what he feels - he is clairsentient and also a brilliant reflexologist. The course only attracts lovely people

I now realise that despite the many theories they are perhaps "the same" and my main problem has always been that I have tried (as I think you have done is to look back as to what "caused it!". I think the main thing is to FORGET that totally because one will never know and just like putting labels on illnesses does it matter. The way forward is to get better. There is only the NOW - past has gone and who knows we could be dead tomorrow. This is where DP/DR is so cruel because I think it does not permit one to be "in the moment" - when discussed and described to others they are unable to understand. I am the first to admit that I would have just said to someone "pull yourself together and get on with your life" had it not happened to myself.

The only upsides of DP are I think - maybe making me a more understanding person but then that is just false because (as above) I am not there to appreciate it. Memory only!!!!! Jill has picked up my "thinking powers" and that they are not good - The Heart serves you far better than the brain - please read her book - it is amazing and illuminating and try to get to the workshops - on workshop one everyone noticed how I changed during the 5 days - Jill is able to "up the energies" by linking all the participants' hearts together and on day two I went out and saw "a real tree"

I think you will appreciate what I mean?!

I will close now and hope:

a) You have recovered

b) Talking is good and it would be good to correspond - my email is judieregler@btinternet.com I live in Lincolnshire England

Best wishes

Judie

Re: The limits of the EFT Discovery Statement

thetappingman — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 08:26:17 GMT

Jo,

You experience might indicate that my assumption that we have to do something extra to experience happiness may be wrong. Maybe, as Buddhism teaches, happiness is our natural state and only our suffering is something we cover it up with. If we remove that suffering we will naturally experience happiness.

Regards,
Rod

Re: childhood abuse vs. discipline

bodhileaf — Sat, 24 Nov 2007 13:29:09 GMT

Hello faith

Something occurs to me from reading your posts and I hope you'll forgive me if it's out of place. You are being very diligent in your use of EFT and gradually tackling an entire lifetime's worth of issues, and I wonder how much room there is in your life at the moment for some fun, happiness, joy, gratitude etc. When we are climbing up a cliff, we only see the rock in front of us and sometimes forget that the sky is blue, the sun is shining, the birds are singing and that the higher we get, the better the view. Joy can be found in tiny things, for a few seconds or minutes at a time, but often it is that that makes our life worth living, not the journey up the cliff. When life seems to be full of , it's worth remembering that flowers grow well in !! I have a quote from Alfred D Souza on my desk to remind myself about this, because I have tended to easily get myself tied in knots over the 'work' on myself that I haven't yet finished, and that there seem to be more negatives in my life than positives at times. I hope it helps you too. "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way. Something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that this was my life. This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way." Gratitude is one of the best ways to raise our vibrational level and I think one of the Abraham-Hicks books has some good gratitude games in it that you might like to try. Wishing you joy and peace