Search results matching tag 'fear'

Question about psychological reversal

shazm1511 — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 00:38:43 GMT

Hi, I am hoping for some insight here, so any input would be greatly appreciated.

I have been tapping recently for several changes I have chosen to make in my life, including resigning from my job. However, I have been and still am experiencing a deep "inner refusal" to accept these changes. I guessed that this might be psych reversal, and so in order to make progress I imagined getting in touch with this part of me that is not being very co-operative.

The image I perceived was that of a little girl completely crushed underneath a collapsed sky scraper- and a really big heavy one at that. "She" is terrified of me doing any more tapping as I have already "collapsed" her world so much so that she can no longer move, and more rubble topples down on her as I tap the old stuff away. Now, I feel like I have done something awful to her , which makes me feel really bad/guilty/ashamed and can't seem to rectify the situation as the fear I feel when tapping is so intense & overwhelming. FYI - I have tried tapping on the fear of the fear and am still not noticing the intensity budging.

I have also tried the more positive approach of asking "I wonder why I am finding it so easy to get over this fear/finding it so easy to let go/finding it easy to relax" just to see if I can get the reticular formation to bring about some insights.

I have been tapping for a couple of years by myself, and I do know the value of getting professional assistance, but you know this time I have the usual excuse of lack of funds (maybe should have thought about that before I quit my job!) as well as not having access to Skype. I would really appreciate some advice on handling this situation. I have often had really good temporary results with EFT, but God knows I need some longer lasting relief.

I really do feel that I can't move on until I have helped this "little girl" to do so first - I think she has had to keep holding me back for a long time now - bless her!

Thanks for reading this post.....

S xx

Re: Fear and reality

Fabienne — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 09:37:35 GMT

Hello Kaljabi,

I find that the question " Is this true/real now?" helps.

The acceptance phrases such as: I choose to feel safe and secure now, I realise that in this precise moment all is well.

The more you entertain the feelings of fear, the more they will appear real, just be aware of who is the "I". It comes back to Eckhart Tolle saying: I cannot live with myself. At this moment, he realised that he could watch his distress. We are not our thoughts and emotions. Tapping on the thoughts and emotions will resolve the gap.

I hope this helps.

Fabienne

Re: Working with intense memories - Use Inner Theater for Fear

Karen Nauman — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:01:43 GMT

Hi Chim,

I have followed this thread on ‘the fear of uncovering a really intense memory’ with great interest because it was such a powerful question you asked. There were some really great suggestions from the folks who responded.

I didn’t think there was anything I could add until I was listening to the recordings for the Inner Theater with EFT 3 part teleclass Batty Moore-Hafter and Jade Barbee conducted back in May.

There were so many gems about working with the Inner Theater process from both Betty and Jade however, a quote about ‘The Fear of Going Deep’ from Jade (inserted below) REALLY stuck out in my mind. I immediately thought of what you wrote when I heard it. Because I have a background in hypnotherapy (Like Betty) I really understand the power of working with images, symbols and characters.

I do not agree that we must always fully associate with the heavy negative energies and feelings (i.e. bring them right into our body) in order to tap on and shift them. If given a chance, our subconscious minds are very powerful at coming up with pain-free, ‘non-abreactive’ ways to help us shift and heal our blocks. Unique ways where we don’t have to deal with uncomfortable or overwhelming feelings and still be able get excellent results in transforming the energy.

It was a long quote so I did get Jade’s approval to insert it here. I hope it helps you.

If you do try this approach i.e getting a visual for the fear and tapping on that, please let us know what your results are. I love hearing about the creative images and solutions our inner mind comes up with to help transform the stuck energy!

Best wishes, Karen

P.S. If you don’t know about Betty and Jade’s 2 free teleclasses + podcast on the Inner Theater Process, you can check out the link at the bottom of this post. It really is awesome stuff and I love how they weave the tapping and powerful phrases into this unique approach. To me, it is not a replacement for EFT, it is an enhancement and a very powerful one at that! Gary C. recently featured one of Jade’s articles on the Inner Theater in the emofree newsletter so, he thinks it’s a pretty cool technique as well!

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THE FEAR OF GOING DEEP

The fear of going there or the fear of going deeper, may also have its own reality that can be addressed visually and I’ve been finding that particularly powerful -- Just the fear of initiating the EFT session, the fear of going deep, the fear of what we may find or may not find.

That fear itself doesn’t’ necessarily need to be analyzed and can take on its own form.

Some questions you might ask;

What form or image might that fear take?
If the fear was something I could draw, what would it look like?
Where does the fear live?
Is it inside my body?
How do I see it?
Does it have a color?
Does it have a shape?

Really follow through with this because, I think, in some way, that fear is present in all of us. Work with the fear visually i.e. fear coming in as smoke, as a mist, a planet of fear, a tangled mass or a fear ball. What a wonderful way to work with fear. To visualize the fear!

What a relief it is that you don’t have to analyze it or go into it. You just allow. Once you are working with it as a visual, you can just allow, just allow it to be.

Allow yourself to sit with it. Allow it to transform before your eyes. As you tap, low and behold - and it may take a little bit, but it will transform. It will change for the better.

So, when dealing with fear this might be a nice place to start. By acknowledging that fear and keeping it as a visual out there. Safely out and away from you - And just tapping on your responses to that fear itself. That might be a really nice safe way of approaching it.

I’ve noticed that people who have safely issues around trauma that’s happened to them, that working with the fear visually, can be really helpful.

~ Jade Barbee
Class 2 (approx. 31 mins.) - slightly modified
Essentials of Inner Theater 3 Part Teleclass
Betty Moore-Hafter and Jade Barbee

Inner Theater Resource Page - 2 Free Teleclass Audios + Free Podcast
http://www.creativeeft.com/Inner_Theater_Resource_Page.php

Breaking Patterns of our dear loved Black Labrador

Anita — Sat, 30 May 2009 15:28:08 GMT

With a very heavy heart, I begin by saying that we lost our beloved Shadow - a Black Labrador who was with us for 17-18 years. The reason why I am putting this up here is that though we lost her, we were actually relived that we were able to break her pattern of leaving this world. Being an animal lover I know how difficult it is for us to face the fact that it is possible that we have to 'put down' our loved one as no other solution is possible.

My sister Sangeeta Bhagwat (serenereflection.com) was the one to introduce us to eft and she is also able to know about past life times. We had done a past life for Shadow as we were certain that this was more than her first life times with us. She had in the past been our horse in various life times. We also recalled that in some of her past lives she had died accidentally or had been ‘put down’ as she had been badly injured.

This time she was very sick, she was suffering very much and we could see the fear in her eyes. The doctor had told us that if she was unable to ‘move on’ on her own then we would have to put her down.! The thought itself was horrifying and I have no idea how we would be actually able to do it.

We turned to all our prayers and mantras. We then used EFT to help her overcome her fear of moving on. We tapped continuously for 2-3 days. We tapped to tell her that no matter where she would be, we would always love her, she would never be forgotten and we would love her in whatever form she was. We tapped to help her leave us. Sangeeta did a lot of TAT procedures too. It occurred to us that she was not knowing that she could leave her body willingly as in most of her past lifes she had been forced/shocked out of it. We tapped to inform her that she had to power to decide, that she would be well taken care off by our relatives (whom she knew). We just tapped and tapped, giving her promises just as we one would give a human relative.

We also prayed from our ‘Krishna Gita’. It helps the soul to move on.

The purpose of writing this is that in the event somebody is sadly faced with the situation of having to put to sleep their beloved one, I earnestly request you to just tap away to break the pattern of being put to sleep and tap to let them know that the power to depart is in the souls hand. Do TATs EFT’s whatever possible so that you too break the pattern of the loved soul.

GOD BLESS U

EFT and Driving

rocinetower — Mon, 25 May 2009 03:39:36 GMT

Hi All,

I have been studying EFT for severa yars. I have a BS in Psychology, Btut I didn't understand people until I became a massage therapist and was lead to learn about EFT. I have been teaching driving for a about 8 years off and on. I would like to work with someone who has been practicing EFT and would like to write a book about the two.

If you would like to talk call me in Dallas Tex 9729183581

or rocinetower@yahoo.com

Fear of Elevators

Angela Maria — Wed, 13 May 2009 17:43:42 GMT

Hi!

I have a HUGE fear of elevator. I live in a 10th floor and the biggest fear is at these elevators. We have 2: a big one and a small one.
I enter in the big one if I'm with someone else. In the small one, no way!

In others elevators, I need to be with someone else too.

I did EFT so many times, alone and with my boyfriend that made the EFT level II too.
I said:
Even thought I have this fear of elevator...
Even thought I have fear to be alone in the elevator...
Even thought I have fear that elevator don't stop at the right floor...
Even thought I have dreams that elevator stop in imaginary floors and I can't find myself safe at home...
Even thought I have fear of being stuck in elevator...
Even thought my heart beats so fast in the elevator...
Even thought I have this tightness in my stomach...

And... nothing...

I'm writing for you because I'm wondering if you can give me some tips.
What am I missing?

Thank you for you attention.

Re: Thank you

gypsyprincess — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 23:16:21 GMT

I am very familiar with EFT and what it can do. Thats why I bought the entire library, because I want to be able to help others release. I do feel better as of now. And as for the issues, unfortunately, I do know all the issues that have caused anxiety. I have a phenominal memory. All the way back until one year old. I can tell you what people were wearing, what they were saying and where they were. It's just crazy. But anyway, do you have any ideas of how I can start of small instead of global? Because that was probably the biggest anxiety attack that I have ever had. But in the "general" sense....my "fear" (global) is pretty much non exsistant.

Thank you for your help.

Maria

HELP!!!

gypsyprincess — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 21:41:24 GMT

Ok, here is the thing. I don't know how to write to Gary directly but I need to know if anyone has experienced this. I have downloaded the book and have known about EFT for about 2 years, I just havn't hardly implimented it until now. I read the book and then ordered the entire library of dvd's.

Well, last night I put my headphones on and began to follow along. It's a very long dvd, so I didnt get all the way through it. Well, here is what happened. After I got through about the first 5 segments of the dvd I got tired and decided to go to bed. We it was aweful. I had night sweats and excuse me for being so blunt, but I went pee every hour on the hour. And this morning I felt like crap. I was crying and just had a meltdown. Still going to the bathroom every hour I was worried. So I called and made an appointment at the doctor tomorrow.

I actually feel better now. Not all the way, but better. I have alot of forest to cut down so does anyone think that it may have been some type of release for me? I was listening to the part of the cd that dealt with the fear of swimming and all the way down to the workshop of fears. Its funny because I just followed along with them and just said "my fear". because I "was" always afraid. now, I cant really remember what I was afraid of. but I still have to work on the anxiety. Lots of tree's. But if someone could give me some input or somehow get this to Gary, I would soooooooo appreciate it.

Thank you

Maria

Fearful Pony

Ginger — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 01:08:40 GMT

My dad has a 41 year old pony that goes absolutely ballistic when the farrier works on her feet. I don't know if she is in pain from having to stand on three legs while the farrier works on the 4th or if she has some fear from a past experience. My dad has had the pony for about 12 years and she has never been abused while in his care. I'd appreciate input with regards to tapping points and verbiage.

Confustion about positive and negative statement

Narendra — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 12:38:48 GMT

Hello friends,

I have one problem, i have very much fear about driving.

In tapping which statement is necessary to repeat means postive or neagative.

Exm 1.

I have very fear about driving i love and accept myself

I will drive very safely , I love and accept myself

And suggest me sequest of statement ( postive , negative)

Narendra