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Re: depression, social anxiety,

TapYourPower — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 17:49:16 GMT

I would actually like to see what kinds of verifiable results you are getting using it. I can't begin to tell you how many people I run across on an almost daily basis who have been doing EFT for some time and they aren't getting the results they should be. The statement I hear most among my first time clients is, "Wow, I had no idea this was the way to do it properly!"

It might be true that many variations work when adapting EFT using other applications but to get 95-98% success rates like I get in my practice then most beginners should stick to the basics because they it does work.

Misinformation abounds in the EFT circles and for someone who is asking advice because they aren't getting anywhere even after using it for a long time like Naomi then I steer them away from all but the fundamentals.

Regards,

Alina Frank, CERT-I

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Re: depression, social anxiety,

TapYourPower — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 16:40:30 GMT

Just wanted to let you know Naomi that this is not standard EFT advice from the previous post. If you want to read my article here on the top 5 reasons why people don't get results you'll see what I mean. You haven't been able to get your SUDs levels down and I suspect it's because of following amorphous instructions like above. Follow the clear instructions on Gary's DVDs or the manual, or work with a quality practitioner.

Blessings,

Alina Frank, CERT-I

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Re: depression, social anxiety,

TapYourPower — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 00:44:12 GMT

You are welcome, Naomi. What do you mean you can't get past a 6? Are you referring to the legs numbing? In and hour and 20 min with a professional practitioner? That's odd. Make sure you ask a potential practitioner what their rate of success is and what their experience level is for starters.

I would ask the above question to get you started as a way to try to unlock the reason why it might be happening and also just simply guess. Guess what might be connected? What's causing you anxiety in your life? Relationship? Love? Money? Work? etc. and then come up with SPECIFIC statements about those situations. Continue to uncover the FEAR behind the anxiety. Fear is always at the root of anxiety.

Hope this helps. And if can come up with some reasons I can help you create some set ups.

Alina Frank, CERT-I

www.tapyourpower.net

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Re: depression, social anxiety,

TapYourPower — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 23:37:14 GMT

Hi Naomi,

To tap on a big giant issue (tabletop or forest metaphor) is fruitless. You need to tap on the individual fears, anxiety, worries that you mentioned in the above post. "Even though I am scare of going out the door" "Even though I am scared to meet people because they might judge me" "Even though I am afraid of ____" BE AS SPECIFIC as humanly possible. "Even though I am afraid to go out the door" is still too general. "Even though I am afraid that the weirdo from next door is going to lurking by my car" is specific.

You might also be finding shifting aspects that appear to look as though EFT is ineffective.

I would advize you to read the manual and watch the DVDs on the emofree site but you might also want to consider working with a skilled EFT practitioner either by phone or in person. The problem may be too big to tackle on your own and many times you just need someone to point you in the right direction.

Alina Frank, CERT-I

www.tapyourpower.net

WomenWise Forum Moderator

Re: Feeling disconnected from myself after successful EFT

judieregler@btinternet.com — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 15:01:02 GMT

Whow!

Well done! I have "lived" in the reverse of what you have done. I have experienced what you are saying from aged 23 to now (57!!!) All I can say is do not investigate anything anymore - just enjoy "the space you are in!"

I was surprised today to find anyone whom had suffered this DP/DR and I have also trained in EFT to Level 2 - I have posted an answer to a guy called Ted who seems to still be suffering. I am rather loathe to refer you to it because I just suggest you continue to enjoy "your new space"

What you have been suffering is Depersonalisation and/or Derealisation - and thank goodness it was only for a short while.

I do not know if my post will be accepted but you are welcome to contact me on email: judieregler@btinternet.com

Kind regards

Judie

Re: EFT for feelings of derealization and depersonalization...

judieregler@btinternet.com — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 14:49:05 GMT

Hello Ted - This is very curious - I have suffered DP/DR since about 1975 - I am now 57 - I agree it is (as I call "a living death!") I have worked with the Maudsley hospital in drug trials to no avail. I have sought many alternative therapies even Shamanic journeying and EFT and Neurolinguistic programming. I think I am a little better than I was early on but as you say it is "the anxiety" of what is happening - have I died - why can I not connect with all my friends/family, I am just an observer to life. I first got DP and then it went onto DR as well. Even looking at a sign post which was for my home town looked so unfamiliar and unreal I am sure you know.

My attempts with the medical profession have resulted in two suicide attempts (drug induced), two episodes of psychosis and 12 rounds of electric shock treatment. I know (on looking back) they were only trying to help but I now realise (sorry for the pun!) derealise! that I was merely a guinea pig.

Shamanism looks at "Soul Loss" and this is what I think DP may be? When a trauma occurs part of the soul leaves because it cannot cope with it so leaves to enable to person to survive. I have had two soul retreivals and shortly after did feel better but it did not last.

EFT - I am qualified to level 2 and I cannot understand why I have not tried it on myself - having read your site and the messages from others I will try. But I wonder if "secondary gain" maybe comes into play - I say this because the only "remedy" I have found is alcohol. I hate myself because I drink every night and make the excuse that it is because I have had such a "shitty day" 'PRETENDING TO EVERYONE THAT I AM FINE AND ENJOYING EVERYTHING .. BUT I GUESS YOU KNOW THAT LIE TOO- This is also very exhausting I think although now I am unable to "feel my own SELF/body and even the lack of energy - something just drives me forward - people think I am fine?

I think the worst thing is that I have owned my horse for 15 years (my husband died the year after I bought him) I obviously love him so much because he has helped me and supported me - even down to just being a reason to get up in the morning but I DO NOT FEEL this affection for him. He must know it is there and the only time I get close to "getting close" to this affection I just burst into tears!

Comment from any other EFT -ers would be appreciated here

NLP - not really any help because again the "connections" (brain wise) are not made?

My only recommendation (apart fromt he alcohol) and really when you think about it - now at my age it is quality rather than quantity of life and having to drop all the "pressures and personal constructs" society has put on us all - is

Please visit www.hearthealing.ca This will introduce you to Jill and Joe - She is an extremely talented lady and psychic beyond all psychics - she can see all the energetic bodies around a person. She sees that back in 1970's my heart was responsible for closing my body down (as in DP/DR because if it had not then I would be dead - overwork, etc. telling myself that my marriage was great (not!). Also I fell from my horse when aged 12 and was in coma (this goes back to the Shamanic training I have done) and part of the soul leaves to cope. She has written a book explaining just how the heart field is far greater than the brain and explains how to swap thinking for feeling!!! I have been fortunate to go on 3 of her workshops - I should not (that is another message in my brain from parents!) have done that because I could not afford to do it but somehow my heart has told me to go - this is how I have learned so much - if only (another rubbish two words) I could have known this 30 years ago!

So I would only encourage you to go if you can afford it - She has one in Glastonbury (which I would love to attend) but I am on benefits and cannot - If you have the funds please enrol because you will learn so much (not necessarily about DP/DR but about yourself. Also she is able to read your energies and will tell you just what she sees and Joe will tell you just what he feels - he is clairsentient and also a brilliant reflexologist. The course only attracts lovely people

I now realise that despite the many theories they are perhaps "the same" and my main problem has always been that I have tried (as I think you have done is to look back as to what "caused it!". I think the main thing is to FORGET that totally because one will never know and just like putting labels on illnesses does it matter. The way forward is to get better. There is only the NOW - past has gone and who knows we could be dead tomorrow. This is where DP/DR is so cruel because I think it does not permit one to be "in the moment" - when discussed and described to others they are unable to understand. I am the first to admit that I would have just said to someone "pull yourself together and get on with your life" had it not happened to myself.

The only upsides of DP are I think - maybe making me a more understanding person but then that is just false because (as above) I am not there to appreciate it. Memory only!!!!! Jill has picked up my "thinking powers" and that they are not good - The Heart serves you far better than the brain - please read her book - it is amazing and illuminating and try to get to the workshops - on workshop one everyone noticed how I changed during the 5 days - Jill is able to "up the energies" by linking all the participants' hearts together and on day two I went out and saw "a real tree"

I think you will appreciate what I mean?!

I will close now and hope:

a) You have recovered

b) Talking is good and it would be good to correspond - my email is judieregler@btinternet.com I live in Lincolnshire England

Best wishes

Judie

Sounds and Sores

Jenipops — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 22:43:37 GMT

Well I am totally new here, I love the sound of this EFT but don't really know how to start or what I am meant to say to myself! I feel like there was some trauma when I was younger but I don't know what it is, my parents can't tell me and I seem to have a mental block on alot of things.

Here's the biggest thing for me though, I have a real issue with sleeping at night, insomnia, and am sensitive to sounds like that of heavy breathing and snoring, ticking clocks, anything repetitive and I feel like I am going crazy, I used to cry myself to sleep sometimes and the lack of sleep nowadays and as I am getting older (38years) it is starting to affect my life. I can't remember ever being any different and struggled when I was child, I avoided camps and staying at friends places as I would never sleep, also at around the age of 8 I started scratching sores on my scalp and I still do this today!! What should I say to myself here, I really need some help as I feel as though if I do it worng I am going to fail myself.

I also have suffered from severe depression every since I was 20, I get very anxious and have lots of panic attacks where I feel I'm going a bit crazy, every night I get anxious and have to get up alot to urinate, this has also been a problem since I was a child, anxious unrinating. WOW what alot when I look at this!

I am married and I really want to resolve this issue as I am giving myself a very hard time about not being able to sleep in the same bed as my husband, I have been searching and searching the internet for some type of help and I so hope this can help me but I must admit I feel like a lost cause.

Please, any help would be much appreciated.

Thanks heaps

Jennifer

Autism and Anxiety?

Lilith70 — Wed, 13 May 2009 15:46:13 GMT

I'm curious if anyone here - practitioner or otherwise - has dealt with anyone who suffers from Asberger's or other forms of autism defined primarily by intense social and emotional anxiety. I have a friend who has benefited - albeit very slowly - from Reiki over the past three years or so, but he's reaching the point where he's plateaued. He's afraid that he'll "never get any better", that he'll always be "a social retard", unable to discipline himself for work, that he'll never have a "real relationship"... but, at the same time, he has an absolute genius when it comes to computer languages and programming, math and pattern recognition, and he's often said that if he had to lose these things in order to be rid of the intense anxiety and emotional handicap, he wouldn't.

So, he slogs his way through feeling completely unconnected to the world around him, vacillating wildly between being empathically overwhelmed and then completely blank, feeling overwhelmed and on the verge of panic at any given time... and still determined to do (almost) whatever it takes to continue living on his own and trying to work towards a "normal life".

In all fairness, a lot of his thinking pattern comes from his parents' issues with his condition. On one hand, they insist that there's nothing wrong with him and that he should be able to perform just as well or better than anyone else - and they punish him for not living up to those standards. On the other hand, they treat him like an invalid who will never amount to anything on his own, and any venture that he makes out on his own is met with derision and constant reminders of how horrifically he's going to fail.

I sent him the manual and he's very skeptical, especially since I was unable to find anything about EFT and autism in a quick search. Has anyone dealt with conditions like his? Do you happen to know of anyone in the Massechusetts area that either already has or would be willing to give it a shot?

I can only do so much for him from afar - I'm in Wyoming right now, and soon moving to Texas again. I have to recognize my limitations and also the boundaries of others. He's a very hands-on kinda guy - wants to see the evidence in person - but I can't provide that for him.

Any good words?

Re: So sad, don't know what to do anymore

Mildred — Mon, 11 May 2009 20:23:02 GMT

Dear John,

Right now the most important person you can actually work on is yourself. You need to get up now and do something to develop your sense of self-esteem. Right now you sound depressed and very low in energy. Start doing EFT for your feelings of helplessness and depression. Include your fears about what has been going on in your marriage and also your fears about where this is ultimately going. Your feelings of failure. Get a job if you don't have one.

My sense about your situation is that the man you once were has left the building. Find a way, starting with EFT, to get your confidence and energy back, and become the man your wife married.

Mildred

So sad, don't know what to do anymore

JWD707 — Mon, 11 May 2009 18:52:07 GMT

Hello,

My name is John and I'm currently going through a painful time with my wife. My wife and I have been married for 8 years and we have 3 beautiful daughters together. Recently, it seems as if all the love she once had for me has disappeared. I can't even tell her how I'm feeling emotionally without her blowing me off or calling me "dramatic". I love my family more than anything!! My wife is beautoufl, smart, and just the perfect soul mate for me. We haven't talked ofr days and I'm really feeling down and depressed. I feel like a total failure who has failed his family. I dont know what to do with my life anymore as my self esteem has diminished and I feel like I've let her down. I'm bluer than blue and I feel like I could crumble at anytime. Sorry for the long read...