Search results matching tag 'anxiety'

Re: Caregiving Job Anxiety

RebeccaJ — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 01:14:52 GMT

Thanks so much, Mildred. I quickly realized she is getting my goat because she's JUST. LIKE. MY. MOTHER. who I only "get along with" by avoiding for long periods of time and seeing for short periods of time.

Sigh:(

I think a lot of this goes back to me not being capable of defending myself, which is something I'm working on, but I appreciate your tapping statements.

Caregiving Job Anxiety

RebeccaJ — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:16:52 GMT

I'm currently working as a caregiver for a woman who is very controlling and argumentative. It's causing me a LOT of anxiety, but I feel I'm not in a position to quit the job because off finances. From the beginning she made it clear she didn't want me there, but her family feels she can't be alone. It bothers me so much because I know I'm not appreciated and she's resenting every penny she has to pay me.

I've tried tapping on the anxiety, and it helped a little, but not much. I also tapped on unworthiness because she made a statement along the lines of "this is not worth what I'm paying you," and that's when my anxiety really kicked in. Again, it only helped a little. I'm replaying negative comments she's made in my head and I hate that I'm doing this.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Re: Angry husband refuses to forgive me...

Prathi — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 03:31:48 GMT

Dear ScientistGeorge and other EFT'ians,

I am quite blown away by Ros' situation. She is lucky that her husband stuck around her inspite of all the issues.Unfortunately, I have somewhat similar issues but my husband has neither forgiven and also has applied for divorce. I believe in my heart of hearts that we can make the marriage work. And whatever I am trying to do to make it work is completely from my side, like many have commented here. Ros' case has given a new hope to me. When I saw your words for tapping I liked them. I am new to EFT in a way & see it as my last hope. I am working on various emotional & physical issues this situation has brought about

My questions are:

1. Do we use your tapping words only on the KC point?

2. What words are to be used while tapping on the rest of the points?

3. I also would like to have some guidance on how to go about surrogate tapping.

4. I have blurred vision due to the stress caused by the situation and on top of it, I have uterine fibroids which fortunately are not causing any problem to me. I didn't even know they were there till they were discovered during a off-hand check-up and one of them is nearly 10cm big. Even now I don't have any indication of their presence.

5. There was a miscarriage as well which in itself was a very painful experience for me. I just love kids. I am unable to let go of my baby's memory. Too emotional.

6. How to do tapping to forgive myself & others? I know that I need to forgive all those who have hurt me immensely. But sometimes I can, sometimes I I just cannot. It tears me apart to forgive them for all the injustice they have done to me.

I am grateful for your guidance and support.

Thanks for listening.

God bless u.

Re: EFT and a dream

Suzanne — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 21:21:34 GMT

[quote user="Jade24"]Could anyone help me out and suggest what I could tap to calm this anxiety I have (that is repressed anxiety as I don’t feel it at all consciously). I don’t know what to do with this dream that actually reveals what my inner child thinks about my father or being in a relationship.[/quote]

Hi Jade,

I favor the simplest approach first. Dreams are a great tappable event, and you do not need to feel a charge on them to tap for them.

Setup

"Even though I have this bear dream feeling, I deeply love and accept myself"

Reminder

"This bear dream"

Tap this until the dream is zero or until half an hour or so has elapsed. Keep a notebook by your bed for when you wake up remembering another such dream. Tap for that too, and any other dreams as they come to you. Dreams are a bit of our past that our unconscious minds feel safe to bring up for healing. How wonderful this gift is!

Success Story and Important Question

JasonT — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 13:18:42 GMT

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Hi All,

Glad to be a part of this forum.

I have known about EFT for about a year (although only been using it really for about 4 months) and have recently started studying the DVDs – about 2 months ago.

Since then, I have had one success story which would like to share. I had to do a presentation at work. About a day before the presentation (the evening before actually) I started getting a little nervous. I also knew that about an hour before the presentation I would range somewhere between 6 and 8 intensity. Now while I never started EFT for improving my public speaking skill, I thought I might as well tap on that and I realised that it may uncover issues related to my real issue (more on this later). Anyway, I must have tapped for about two hour or more on various aspects. These were:

1) Having lots of ppl focus on me for up to an hour (this was the major one and I spent about 50% of my tapping time on this)

2) A feeling that I might go blank and just stand there not knowing what to say (I never had a past experience like this but I had the fear for some reason)

3) The feeling like my throat was blocked and that I wouldn’t get words out.

4) Tension in my stomach

It took about two hour but I got the anxiety down to about a 2 and it got to at most a 3 the next day and during the presentation. The presentation went very well – one of my best ever. Maybe something that others could use – in order to get my anxiety up so that I could tap it way - I didn’t use visualizations as they don’t work too well for me. Instead I stood in one corner of my room and with my eyes open I would think “okay in about 12 hours there will be 5 ppl standing in front of you”, “they will stare a you and expect you to talk for an hour” and I placed them mentally where they would be tomorrow (with eyes open). This worked for me quite well and I managed to get the anxiety up this way before tapping.

I was pretty happy about this and it was nice to get some success.

So now to my question –

The reason I started EFT was really to get over some social anxiety problems I have. I get nervous when I go out or when I meet new people. My intensity varies between 4 and 10 depending on the situation. Why this happened? I don’t really know. I was a very sensitive kid. When I was younger I got bullied and I never defended myself. There are other aspects as well but I would guess that that’s the main contributor.

So to my question (im getting there slowly J ) –

While studying Garys DVDs I noticed that what he repeatedly did was take an problem/movie and get it down to zero, then move to a new problem/movie and get that down to zero and so on...

My problem is, I can never get a specific event down to zero. Here’s what happens:

I take a specific event, such as a time when I was at school and a kid came and called me a moron. I recount the situation out loud and I tap. I get this down to zero quite easily. Then a new aspect comes up...what happens is that I find that I don’t really get intense about the past. Instead I am angry an anxious now about the present. Im angry/anxious because:

1) I feel like if had to go to a shopping centre tomorrow and bump into one if these “kids” (of course they are older now but in my mind they are still kids) and they had to call me a moron again I do not feel like I would be strong enough to defend myself

2) I feel like if I was shot back in time to that moment I still would be strong enough to fight back.

3) I feel like if I met a new person who was rude to me now I wouldn’t be able to defend myself.

4) I feel like if I let this issue go then that means that I should be able to do certain things right now this very second (like go out right now and not feel anxiety) and the thought of doing it right now makes me feel anxious again and I don’t want to go out even more.

This is where I get stuck. I can tap on these four aspects forever, but I never feel like if I had to go out tomorrow and someone tried to hurt me that I would be strong enough to fight back. I’ve tapped on this repeatedly for a whole stack of aspects including specific past events and current events. I have tried to use the movie technique as well and decompose one of these aspects into sub aspects. But always if I test and ask myself “Okay, so if right now that person had to come into the room and insult you, would you stand up for yourself?” my response varies between “no I wouldn’t” and “I don’t think I would”.

What do I do about this? Has anyone with EFT experience ever experienced something like this anf if so, how did you resolve this? Do I just need to be persistent and keep at it. When I see Gary in the DVDs he always seems to take an aspect and collapse it to zero before moving on to a new aspect. But I do not seem to be able to do that here. I get stuck on one of the four and it’s like hitting a brick wall. I then don’t know if I should look deeper or move to another aspect or what? Any advice most appreciated.

Thanks,

Jason

New: Nd Help with Recurring Hip Pain

DixieMom — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:07:42 GMT

I just discovered EFT two weeks ago and am thrilled! I've had chronic hip pain on my RIGHT side, which is actually referred from a herniated disc in my lumbar area, and exaccerbated by degenerative disc disease in the same area. I've had this for nearly four years and have been able to get temporary relief from injections, medications, decompression therapy, chiropractic theapy, etc., but nothing has helped permanently. Over these past 4 years, I go in and out of "episodes" of great pain where I spend much of my time in bed and my life has been greatly limited. A recent MRI has shown that my herniation has actually healed itself by 2/3rds, yet I'm in as much pain as ever.

So when I discovered EFT and it worked to break my latest episode, I was thrilled! Within 24 hours, I had reduced my pain level to be off meds, and am getting much better adjustments at my chiropractor!

That said, however, the pain comes back. And I've identified that my hip is where I hold my stress. Anytime I'm stressed over *anything*, I feel it in my hip first. I've been tap-tap-tapping away on various issues that come up, but there seems to be more. Trip to the bank? Pain. Rush out of the house to (wherever)? Pain. Traffic jam? Pain. Uncomfortable conversation with a friend? Pain.

Some things I'm tapping on are not bothering me anymore and I can certainly start tapping as soon as I feel the pain and it goes away. But it seems that I must be stressed over *everything*! Or at least, I have not figured out how to keep my stress level down.

Any ideas or suggestions would be most welcome. There is not an EFT Practitioner within an hour of me.

God's peace,

Dixie

Re: Diagnosis of Sczophrenia in my 28 year old son has left us devastated. Anyone have experience with mental illness?

debbieg — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 05:16:51 GMT

I wlll try again! this is my first try at forums. I am returning home after staying with him in the hospital. I have used eft befor to great results but he has not, possibly because we were not adressing the core issue, just some random symptoms. I am clearly in over my head but if someone is using eft, ther is hope isn't there. Thankyou for your compassion.

Debbie

Diagnosis of Sczophrenia in my 28 year old son has left us devastated. Anyone have experience with mental illness?

debbieg — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 02:26:52 GMT

Diagnosis of sczophrenia in our 28 year old son has left us devastated. Anyone have experience? He lives in Pasadena Ca

Re: Need help with tapping ideas for 2 emotional problems that are causing candida/anxiety

Gino Gerard — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 21:40:49 GMT

Hi,

I noticed you are using the following words in your text:

" I am not really there - there's a wall there- maybe I’m trying to keep myself safe by not being fully present and not putting myself out there."I would like to ask you if you are in the ability to visualise yourself passed that wall?

The brain subconsience communicate with visual-sound -or feelings.The strongest of the 3 is FEELIbecause without feelings the other two just dont have any influence on us.When we see, or visualize , and dont feel , it dont mean a lot, the influence it can have is not there.

When we here sound or music and we can not feel it or attach feelings to it , it dont have effect on us.

I notice that you feel like you want to saty behind that wall, you feel protected there .For your subconsience this is your COMFORT zone, even when it is wrong, the subconsious dont care about that, because it just follows waht it is programated to do.

Your life experiences have build a believe system inyour subconsious that give you the message , THIS is yur home.Dont get out of here.

It is very significant u use the words -like a wall-

What a wall does? You can hide behind it, protects you against the outside or against attacks from outside.

Like I see it this is the believe system you have build up over the years.People bullying you, the move to other place, your whole world changed drasticly.The experiences in that period created the believe that you are like this, that THIS IS YOU.

I would start adresing that feeling, the feeling that you have to hide yourself or bad things will happen to you.

"Even tough, I feel l am safe behind that wall and i feel protected there i completely accept and forgive and love myself"

"Even tough , that wall is there to keep me safe and protected, I would like to see whats on the other side.Who knows maybe I like it.But in any way, I completely love and accept and forgive myself"

I would start with something like this, and see if after that I am able to visualize myself breaking that wall down and see and feel the freedom on the other side.What if you could imagen the nice and beuatifull things on the other ised happening to you? Can you feel it, to be without fear?

Can you see how you walk around there on the other side.

Try to feel the emotion, smell it, hear it.make it as strong as you can.

Now hold that feeling strongly in your hand and tap this in .

" That feeling, I want to keep and take with me, it is good for me.It allows me to enjoy life, to be free and I accept myself , completely, love muself completely and profoundely.Thank you for having this now"

I hope this can help you a bit.

Also when you tap on yurself , try to listen to waht yur subconsious is giving you from information.A lot of times just words come into your mind or frases.Dont ignore them, go with them , they can lead you to the core isues .You body is not your enemy but your alley against getting sick.Respect whatit wants to say you and you will receive the information you need to work with.

Help overcoming procrastination?

katyelaine — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 19:54:31 GMT

I am new to tapping but experimented after reading the manual and found it to be a cathartic and successful experience. Now, I would like to apply the technique to three addictions that I have and spend much time having internal conversations about why I shouldn't.

My initial response to my excuse making was to phone eft counselors in my state as so that I could have an external motivation for moving forward. I left two messages and neither has gotten back with me, so I thought that I'd try the forum.

I am dependant on wine to fall asleep at night and I feel that this is my most pressing issue. As I am considering and constructing my plans to use eft for this dependecy, I always run into the road block of 'well, what if it works'. I know that sounds incredibly silly because that is, after all, the point, but the fact that it might be effective really scares me. More, the fact that I have had small successes and I believe strongly that this will be effective, really scares me.

I started drinking wine when I was 27 (41 now) specifically to fall asleep after having been prescribed sleeping pills. I thought that the wine was more natural and I didn't like the way the pills made me feel in the morning. I've stopped the wine, breifly, a couple of times but it took a lot of effort and I didn't sleep - once for three days (and nights). After that experience I am more mentally tied to the addiction - I get a little panicky if I don't have wine and plan my day around when I should have my first glass of wine in order to induce sleep based on what I need to do the next day (i.e. sometimes I have to be up at 4:00 am and plan to have my first glass between 6:00 pm and 7:00 pm so that I can fall asleep early enough to get a good nights sleep. I know that alcohol really interrupts my sleep, but that's the reasoning that I use)

I'm really not sure how to push myself through my procrastination. There really isn't any logic to my reasoning, but still there it is.

Any suggestions or advice would really be appreciated.