Search results matching tag 'anger'

Loss of Appetite from Drug Withdrawal

Seb C — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:14:55 GMT

Hi, everyone,

I am a twenty year old man who lost his appetite, initially as a result of withdrawal from Risperdal. It has been going on since last December, and so it has lasted for the better part of a year; so long that by this time, I suspect that drug withdrawal isn't even a factor. I have been to a doctor (also an eft practitioner, by the way) on several occasions, but she doesn't know how to help, and moreover, she hasn't given me specific enough instruction on how to do eft, no matter how many times I begged her to. I have also been to my physician and even a psychologist, both of whom were unable to help. Despite all that, I think I know how to do it, and I have done it for a few emotional traumas I have experienced, and was successful with the pursuit.

To cut to the chase, I have recently noticed that I have some deep seated anger towards people and entities whom I perceive to have wronged me. I don't feel terrible when I think of these things, but I still believe it to be an unhealthy thinking pattern, as it is all I ever think about, and I find that it keeps me from enjoying my life "in the moment." It is very difficult for others to detect, because I have an excellent sense of humor, and I do a good job of not letting my anger manifest itself in a social situation. When I am alone, however, I am always thinking about how "I almost died, because I was chronically overdosed," "The art teacher tattled on me, because she wanted me back on drugs, and she wanted me dead," "The other students at the school were jealous because I finally got off drugs, and was enjoying life, and they would have stopped at nothing to have me back on drugs," etc. These thinking patterns usually take a smug tone, which is masked as gratitude, in that, for instance, when I say to someone, "I'm really happy that I have a second chance at life." what I am thinking is something more along the lines of, "Hah! No one will ever cause me any harm, and it's not like that f***in' b*****d would have ever gotten his way, anyway. I am invincible!"

The only thing that is a potential barrier to the resolution of these issues is that I don't believe that they make me feel bad enough to cause this appetite loss. It is a very sour and sulky way of thinking, I'll admit, but is that alone qualification enough for me to do eft, and get the results that I want?

The other thing that has been hindering me from doing eft is that I have experienced so many traumas in my life, that I don't know where to start the process, and I am also not confident enough to believe that eft will work, because the circumstances revolving around my appetite loss are so equivocal that I am not entirely sure as to whether it was an emotional trauma, or something else.

Any ideas that you may have would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks, and God bless,

S C

Inferiority Complex

Ritman — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:08:46 GMT

Does anyone know of any EFT practitioners, that can help me for free because I'm 17 and don't have any money. I want to get rid of this terrible shame that I feel. I have found alot of core issues, but no matter what I do I can't get myself to stop feeling it. I feel inferior to others all the time and have this feeling that I am hated in soceity. I can't do my studies and nothing and I want to get into university. I have been feelin this shame every since I got bullied in higher kindergarten. I think I have made alot of headway in remembering my past experiences and why I feel this way, but I just can't stop feeling ashamed of everything I do. Whenever someone likes me I find an excuse to why they would.

Re: Angry husband refuses to forgive me...

Prathi — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 03:31:48 GMT

Dear ScientistGeorge and other EFT'ians,

I am quite blown away by Ros' situation. She is lucky that her husband stuck around her inspite of all the issues.Unfortunately, I have somewhat similar issues but my husband has neither forgiven and also has applied for divorce. I believe in my heart of hearts that we can make the marriage work. And whatever I am trying to do to make it work is completely from my side, like many have commented here. Ros' case has given a new hope to me. When I saw your words for tapping I liked them. I am new to EFT in a way & see it as my last hope. I am working on various emotional & physical issues this situation has brought about

My questions are:

1. Do we use your tapping words only on the KC point?

2. What words are to be used while tapping on the rest of the points?

3. I also would like to have some guidance on how to go about surrogate tapping.

4. I have blurred vision due to the stress caused by the situation and on top of it, I have uterine fibroids which fortunately are not causing any problem to me. I didn't even know they were there till they were discovered during a off-hand check-up and one of them is nearly 10cm big. Even now I don't have any indication of their presence.

5. There was a miscarriage as well which in itself was a very painful experience for me. I just love kids. I am unable to let go of my baby's memory. Too emotional.

6. How to do tapping to forgive myself & others? I know that I need to forgive all those who have hurt me immensely. But sometimes I can, sometimes I I just cannot. It tears me apart to forgive them for all the injustice they have done to me.

I am grateful for your guidance and support.

Thanks for listening.

God bless u.

Re: Feeling disconnected from myself after successful EFT

judieregler@btinternet.com — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 15:01:02 GMT

Whow!

Well done! I have "lived" in the reverse of what you have done. I have experienced what you are saying from aged 23 to now (57!!!) All I can say is do not investigate anything anymore - just enjoy "the space you are in!"

I was surprised today to find anyone whom had suffered this DP/DR and I have also trained in EFT to Level 2 - I have posted an answer to a guy called Ted who seems to still be suffering. I am rather loathe to refer you to it because I just suggest you continue to enjoy "your new space"

What you have been suffering is Depersonalisation and/or Derealisation - and thank goodness it was only for a short while.

I do not know if my post will be accepted but you are welcome to contact me on email: judieregler@btinternet.com

Kind regards

Judie

Re: mentural Cramps

Sassy — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 06:06:29 GMT

Hi Sharon,

The Meridian associated with menstrual issues is the Liver (under the breast tapping point) so do your EFT rounds with special emphasis on liver point (stay there for 40 taps each round and vent) it's related to anger and rage (negative) and if you tap using choices then after a few rounds of negative issues replace with compassion (positive)

Here are some other tapping issues to address related to liver meridian:

depression,unhappiness, impatience, short temper,jealousy,insecurity, very opinionated, temper,power issues/control, over ambitious, controlling everything

another liver point is at the base of big toe webbing go one finger width up foot Liv3 point

Good Luck,

Sass

Re: Unwanted results - EFT Anger Help

Karen Nauman — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 15:58:58 GMT

Hi Chim,

Wow.... I love how you've managed to summarize all that we said, so simply and so elegantly i.e. hold the space and complete the trauma.

Good for you, Chim! Karen

P.S. To help with your EFT Matrix Reimprinting adventures (in case you aren't already aware of them all), here are the links that I am currently aware of. (If somebody knows of any other resources, please let us know.)

EFT Matrix Reimprinting Resource List

For future reference to this resource list, you can use this link:

http://eftcommunity.emofree.com/forums/p/4691/26715.aspx#26715

First of all, it is helpful to remember that Matrix Reimprinting, which was developed by EFT Master Karl Dawson, is not a replacement for EFT, it is an enhancement because it is just a variation of the EFT Movie Technique, although a very powerful one I might add! I've been involved in hypnotherapy, NLP and a progressive form of Reiki for over 10 years and have yet to find something as powerful and effective! I am thrilled to have come across EFT and now the "Matrix"!

Doing EFT Matrix Reimprinting by your self, requires having a basic working knowledge of the Emotional Freedom Techniques and at least some experience with intermediate EFT approaches like; the Tearless Trauma, Movie Technique, the Personal Peace Procedure, Tell a Story etc. The more EFT skill, experience and tapping time one has under their belt (especially leading others in doing EFT since the ECHO is the client), the better equipped one will be! Also, working knowledge of some kind of body/energy work i.e. Reiki, Mediation, self hypnosis, focusing etc. is a wonderful bonus!

It is not necessary to go through all of these resources listed below before trying to do some Matrix Reimprinting yourself - however, please make sure you feel safe and secure on all levels (mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually) before proceeding with this technique. It is possible to do it on our own, however having the assistance of an experienced tapping buddy or an EFT practitioner trained in the Matrix approach can be helpful will generally improve the results you get.

Also, please remember that MR is NOT the 'be-all' and 'end-all'. As I mentioned, it is just another EFT Technique, somethign else to put into your self-help tool box. EFT helps to free up/shift stuck emotions and energy blockages it does not magically transform ones life or teach mental and emotional coping and life skills. However, once we become free from heavy emotions and negative energies that have been holding us back, we're more able to go out and create the kind of life that we want for our self! (i.e. health, abundance, career, relationships etc.)

IMPORTANT NOTE: As Karl instructs, tap down any emotional intensity when you are doing the Movie Technique before entering into the 'Matrix'. Also, at any point during the MR process, if you begin to feel yourself becoming associated with your ECHO or 'younger you' and stressful or negative emotions are beginning to rise up in your body then:

1) STOP immediately and apply the Tearless Trauma Technique, Anxiety Constricted Breathing or the Tap and Breathe Technique. Or you might try some Reiki, Heartmath breathing or use some other ‘self-soothing’ technique.

2) Imagine gently placing your ECHO back in the scene or safely outside of your body (disassociate).

3) Ground your energy. I like to imagine big thick energetic tree roots growing from the bottom of my feet and going deep down into the earth.

4) Imagine a protective energy bubble or eggshell around your entire body about an arms length away from you; safe, secure, protected. :) Then, imagine the same thing around your ECHO or the entire scene or setting that the ECHO is in. It is also helpful to imagine a beam of white healing light entering through the top of the bubble, bathing you and your ECHO in an energy of love, peace and total acceptance.

5) Be very conscious about keeping your energy separate from the ECHO when doing the Matrix work. That is, until you are finished with the technique i.e. you have tested your results and feel sure that you are ready to re-integrate the transformed ECHO/’younger you’ into your own personal energy system.

6) Contintue with the technique ONLY when you are completely disassociated and are in a calm, relaxed state. The reason we need to be detached, calm and collected is that it is very difficult to lead a tapping session with our ECHO, if we are associated, emotional (fear, anger, rage, sadness, desair etc.) and in a stress response (fight, flight or freeze) mode. In stress response, our thinking brain naturally gears down and the emotional brain takes over. Not a very resourceful state to be in to successfully guide a tapping session! :)

Resource List

1 - Article - 'The Early Days': This is an article on the Movie Technique that Karl wrote for Gary Craig/emofree.com a few years ago. Likely just before he coined the phrase ‘Matrix Reimprinting’: http://www.emofree.com/Articles2/movie-technique-karl.htm

2 - Article: A good explanation/overview of MR on Karl’s web sites: http://www.eftcoursesuk.com/page/about_matrix_reimprinting or
http://www.efttrainingcourses.net/matrixreimprinting.htm

3 - Multi-Media: Rick Wilkes/Karl Dawson Interview. A short article, a youtube video clip (same as #4) and an MP3 download of an interview of Karl by Rick. Towards the end, Karl does some EFT Matrix tapping with Rick’s associate Cathy Vartuli that is a very good example of using it on one simple, specific issue/memory/event. http://www.thrivingnow.com/for/Health/karl-dawson-matrix-reimprinting/

4 - Video: Matrix Reimprinting Intro and Demo - 10 minutes

YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jin3mOTFiX0&feature=channel_page
AOL - alternative link: http://video.aol.com/video-detail/eft-demonstration-and-matrix-reimprinting/885283045/?icid=VIDURVHOV07

5 - Article: Matrix Reimprinting Instructions + Benefits of Matrix Reimprinting
http://www.eftcoursesuk.com/page/matrix_instructions

6 - Articles by Jo Hainsworth:

Introduction to Matrix Reimprinting
http://www.selfheal4me.com/ArticlesIndex/EFT-Articles.php#IntroMatrix

Tips for Using Matrix Reimprinting - A Powerful Method of Healing
http://www.selfheal4me.com/ArticlesIndex/EFT-Articles.php#TipsMatrix

7 - MP3 Interview: by Gary Williams of EFT Mentoring World (scroll down for the 'Karl D.' interview)
http://emotionalfreedomtechniques.bravehost.com/A.Members_page.php

8 – Article by Karl Dawson – Matrix Reimprinting October 2008
http://theamt.com/modules.php?name=News&file=article&sid=358

9 – Article by Karl Dawson: The Science Behind Matrix Reimprinting – Jan. 20, 2009
http://theamt.com/modules.php?name=News&file=article&sid=374

Other:

- EMOFREE thread on Matrix Enhancement:

http://eftcommunity.emofree.com/forums/p/4754/26922.aspx#26922

- Sasha Allenby: Squidoo Lens: http://www.squidoo.com/matrixreimprinting
- Sasha Allenby: Web Site: http://www.bodymindhealing.co.uk/sasha.html

Re: Unwanted results - EFT Anger Help

Karen Nauman — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 12:34:59 GMT

Hi Chim,

I apologize for the lengthy post above. I was making some great connections and new insights. So hopefully, the ideas will gel a bit more over time and I'll be able to condense my ideas on this topic. ;) Once again, thank you for drawing this from me. :)

[quote user="chim129"]I've also had a long-standing theory that our bad experiences finally catch up with us in old age, manifesting in physical disease.[/quote]

May I add 'unprocessed or unexpressed'?... bad experiences. If you didn't have a chance to watch the videos I posted on the forum with Dr. Robert Scaer (unfortunately the CMN one is now only avail. by subscription). Dr Bob explains the stress/trauma occurrence and stress/trauma release cycle we all go through is a natural process. Keep in mind his definition of trauma is anytime we feel helpless and overwhelmed by something... so this accounts for many small 't' traumas from our past as well. Things we would never figure as adults to be traumatic or stress causing.

Even things like a 9 month old standing in the crib crying out for a parent who ignores them can be trauma causing and create an ECHO or split off part of our self. When you think about it the helpless and overwhelmed aspects definitely fit into this senario. And we don't have to go tap on 100's of ECHO's either, because the neat thing about Matrix work is, that its just a variation of the EFT movie technique so the generalization affect holds true. Tapping with one ECHO can positively shift a whole bunch of old unprocessed hurts/memories.

If we are able to successfully release these energies and associated negative emotions that show up in our adult life as things like feelings of abandonment or disempowerment... we actually become more resilient than those who experience no emotional trauma/stress at all. So, bad experiences are only bad if they remain in our Field as unprocessed experiences... and when they are transformed energetically, they become beneficial to us. Guess this goes with the old saying "What doesn't break us... makes us stronger!" :)

So, these split off parts, these ECHO's, actually make us a stronger more resilient human being when they are reintegrated into our personal energy system. When they are no longer stuck or frozen and floating out in the Field/Matrix. I think Dr. Scaer adds some really good science and fact to this topic and reduces the 'woo-woo' factor of approaches like the EFT Matrix Reimprinting technique.

Here is the 'Scaer' video in case you didn't see it. http://revver.com/video/438226/dr-robert-scaer-on-brain-state-technologies-and-trauma/

[quote user="chim129"]I am of the opinion that this is either me moving up the emotional scale, or uncovering some aspect within my subconscious that has been lying dormant - or perhaps a combination of the two. [/quote]

Sounds like, you are right on here. I have a feeling it will be a combination of the two as you say. When we discover and shift an aspect i.e. successfully reframe, find wisdom in and create a new image to associate with an old event/memory, we automatically change our emotional state and move up the Emotional Guidance Scale (EGS). When we find relief on that topic, we are no longer stuck at the lower vibrations or emotions like anger and blame.

Another idea might be to check out some of the other emotions on the scale that are around anger. If we successfully get in touch with or tune into and are able to shift one of these other emotions related to the 'stuck' issue in our life i.e. abandonment or lack of assertiveness, then there is a good chance we may not have to work with the anger. As I said above, the goal is to baby-step up from the bottom i.e. powerlessness, instead of trying to jump too high up the scale which does not usually stick/last when a trigger comes along.

Consider revenge for example. A somewhat distasteful state/emotion when one first thinks about it, I know! However, there are safe/healthy/harmless ways to express revenge. I remember an Abraham piece where a 70 yr old workshop attendee was explaining how resentful and angry she was at a twin sister for always upstaging her since she was a child. Her sister always had to be the better one and this made her so mad!

After some discussion with Abe about moving up the emo scale and how she might process her feelings she decided to get a photograph of her sister who she hadn't spoken to in over 20 years and draw all over it with black marker. Yes the whole 9 yards, glasses, crossed eyes, mustache... complete with hairy moles on her sister's chin! The attendee laughed so hard at the thought of doing this and secretly getting revenge on her sister that afterwards she couldn't even bring up the anger at her sister.. it was gone - and this work was done in her imagination! No actual picture no marker... our subconscious is very powerful and it does not know the difference between real and imagined, that's the beauty of working in the Field/Matrix, its all based on the power of our imagination. :)

As Dr. Scaer says, in order to release negative energy, we need to complete the trauma cycle and feel as though we stood up for our self (fight) or got away (flight) instead of feeling helpless and overwhelmed (freeze). So, drawing on her sister's picture fulfilled this fight formula, got her out of feeling helpless and disempowered by her sister (freeze) and was very humorous to boot! You may also want to check out Steve Wells work with provocative EFT that uses humour to shift/transform negative feelings/emotions. He is a pretty funny guy and great EFT'er!

Please remember that EFT is not like talk therapy. So, if you do decide to tap on the anger (either alone or with someone i.e. a buddy or practitioner), you don't have to rehash everything. The 2 clients I mentioned above using the EFT Matrix Reimprinting only tapped on the anger for 5 minutes and released it on that particular movie/event and we tested it. My sense is (with the Matrix/ECHO work anyway) that one only needs to acknowledge/visit these feelings briefly and then we can move past them on our way up the emo scale to neutral and beyond!

Below is something I wrote for my weekly EFT Wisdom tip based on a quote from EFT'er 'extraordinaire' Ingrid Dinter. I thought it might add to this idea.

Blessings, Karen

WHY vs THAT IT HURTS

"What I love so much about EFT, is that we don't
talk about why it hurts, but that it hurts.

We don't focus on why we are angry, but that we
are angry - and if we weren't angry any more, then
what happened really wouldn't matter so much.

It would be a life lesson that we learned from."

~ Ingrid Dinter - EFT Professional specializing
in helping Veterans and their families heal.

KAREN'S EFT TAPPING TIP

I think Ingrid does a great job at summing up EFT
in just a few short sentences.

Talk therapists and other counseling and therapy
professionals do some awesome work out there
however, mulling over old hurts can sometimes
act to reinforce instead of transform the negative
emotions and energy and actually prolong suffering!

I've known quite a few individuals who had been
attending therapy sessions for many, many years.
With EFT, these folks were able to work through
their stuck emotions and hurts in just a few months.

Gary Craig, EFT founder is right on when he says;

"With EFT, we can heal in hours and days instead
of months, and in weeks and months instead of years!"

I wish you peace. Karen

How I am getting over debt and abundance issues and many others!

Heather Flanagan — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 17:16:30 GMT

Hi everyone, I wanted to share with you some of my experiences in the hopes that it can help you with whatever issues that you have. I had lived in much misery and despair in dealing with many different issues (including being deeply in debt) for over 20 years, but I am now very much in the healing process!! My life is SO much better already, and I've only been at this since the beginning of the year and I know that I am going to keep getting better! The Law of Attraction and EFT have largely contributed to my success! It would take too long to explain about this process, but I have written all about it on my website if you'd like to take a look there. www.myquestforhealing.com I hope that this will be beneficial!Heather

How I am getting over my Anxiety and many other issues!

Heather Flanagan — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 17:12:38 GMT

Hi everyone, I wanted to share with you some of my experiences in the hopes that it can help you with whatever issues that you have. I had lived in much misery and despair in dealing with many different issues for over 20 years, but I am now very much in the healing process!! My life is SO much better already, and I've only been at this since the beginning of the year and I know that I am going to keep getting better! EFT has largely contributed to my success! It would take too long to explain about this process, but I have written all about it on my website if you'd like to take a look there. I hope that this will be beneficial!

Heather

Determining an aspect?

Barend — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 11:23:36 GMT

How does one determine the underlying aspect(s) to feelings of frustration, moodyness, short temperdness, boredom. I have feelings of all of these and to my thinking they all tie-in but, as I understand it, one can apply EFT to one aspect at a time only. Where and how does one start? It was certainly easy to stop smoking using EFT but the foregoing really has me all confused. Please help!