Search results matching tag 'acceptance'

Re: Script for Body Image - Add a Simple SUD's 'Truth Statement'

SkyWatcher — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 05:27:05 GMT

Teann,

Thank you for sharing your vulnerability.

The focus is on yourself & your body. Discover your stories, beliefs & events that have created triggers. You can either clear them yourself or find a coach that can help direct you.

Here are some set-up phrases that might help trigger the right ones for you.

Even though:
there is a part of me that hates my body, I accept that part of me.
there is another part of me that wants to love my body but_________ I'm not sure how~I accept that part of me
there is a conflict between the part that hates my body with the part that doesn't know how to love my body. I accept that there is this conflict that's been going on forever.
I am a visual person & I have a high standard of beauty. There is a part of me that fears I am ugly, I accept that part.
I believe the inner stuff is the crutch ugly people use, I accept this part of me.
there is a part of me that feels I am ugly, I accept this part.

These phrases are for you to use as a spring board. You can change the words to better suit how you feel or you can read it word for word. Do what works best for you. When you tap, pay attention to the gifts that you subconscious mind is giving you: memories to heal.

Let me know if I can be of any help.

JoAnn

Sounds and Sores

Jenipops — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 22:43:37 GMT

Well I am totally new here, I love the sound of this EFT but don't really know how to start or what I am meant to say to myself! I feel like there was some trauma when I was younger but I don't know what it is, my parents can't tell me and I seem to have a mental block on alot of things.

Here's the biggest thing for me though, I have a real issue with sleeping at night, insomnia, and am sensitive to sounds like that of heavy breathing and snoring, ticking clocks, anything repetitive and I feel like I am going crazy, I used to cry myself to sleep sometimes and the lack of sleep nowadays and as I am getting older (38years) it is starting to affect my life. I can't remember ever being any different and struggled when I was child, I avoided camps and staying at friends places as I would never sleep, also at around the age of 8 I started scratching sores on my scalp and I still do this today!! What should I say to myself here, I really need some help as I feel as though if I do it worng I am going to fail myself.

I also have suffered from severe depression every since I was 20, I get very anxious and have lots of panic attacks where I feel I'm going a bit crazy, every night I get anxious and have to get up alot to urinate, this has also been a problem since I was a child, anxious unrinating. WOW what alot when I look at this!

I am married and I really want to resolve this issue as I am giving myself a very hard time about not being able to sleep in the same bed as my husband, I have been searching and searching the internet for some type of help and I so hope this can help me but I must admit I feel like a lost cause.

Please, any help would be much appreciated.

Thanks heaps

Jennifer

Re: When you can't say "I love and accept myself"

Fabienne — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 14:54:49 GMT

Hello Paul and everyone,

I find that when I experience resistance to love and accept myself, I can transform my reaction by saying "Especially because........, I love and accept myself..."

Also, by adding "just for now" and "without judgement".

Thank you,

Fabienne

Re: How can I stop being super critical about everything

Ted Robinson — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 13:57:01 GMT

Hello Anna,

Just a follow up to what I wrote before and in conjunction with what has been written by others, especially Mildred when she said "welcome to the journey". It triggered the following suggestion: Once you've tapped on being super critical as I earlier suggested, and after you've tapped on guilt for being so unreasonable, etc., then you'll eventually find its time to forgive yourself for being so critical all the time. Many people find this the most difficult thing to do in their lives. Usually, that's because they are still super critical of themselves. You see criticism is ego driven judgment. The ego will judge everything and everybody, including yourself, incessantly - until one day, as happened to you, a part of you wakes up and notices just how critical its being and decides to change it - again, just as you did.

Once you get past the criticalness, guilt and shame for being so critical and whatever else is driving it, the thought will eventually arise that you may want to apologize to all those who you've criticized unjustifiably. You may do this directly to them or you may do it silently within. Eventually, you'll come back to yourself and want to forgive yourself for all the criticism. To do this with EFT, you may wish to use words to the effect of: "Even though I've been so critical of everyone else, I've been even more critical of myself. Yet, I love and accept myself nonetheless." Or "Even though I have been overly critical of everyone, including myself, I love and accept myself anyway." Then, tap each point with "I've been most critical of myself, etc."

Once you get that issue (if it exists within you) down to a zero or close to it, change tapping hands to your non-dominant hand and tap in positive choices, such as: "I now give up the misunderstanding that I had anything to be critical of about myself and choose to change this pattern now." and "I now choose to give up being so critical of myself and others and forgive myself." and "I now give up my old pattern of criticism and forgive myself for being so critical." and "I now see myself as a loving, accepting and compassionate being of God who allows others and myself to be just as they are and love them nonetheless, knowing everything is already perfect." or "I now forgive myself for being so critical in the past and recognize that everything is already perfect and doesn't need my criticism and never did. I see myself and all others as perfect and loving and acceptable."

I suggest that once you forgive yourself and come to recognize that everything is already perfect, things will start to improve dramatically in this area for you. Of course, don't take this entirely word for word. Its more of a general feeling, not a specific one. So if something in your own life needs correction, of course you may still do it, just do it with less intense criticism and use more understanding and compassion as you do it. The journey will be much more pleasant and tolerable that way.

Success & Punishment: tapping on inner dialogue

UHU — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 17:31:57 GMT

Dear EFT users and masters,

I'm fairly new to EFT but I have spent a lot of time in my life working on myself and helping others as well.

A few days ago I started tapping the idea that if I have success I will be punished. I realized through tapping

a lot that this was a major issue for me so I started like this.

KCP

Even though I think that if I have success I will be punished, I completely and deeply love and accept myself

Even though I feel it is not safe to have success,....

Even though I have this idea that my physical safety and well-being will be threatened if I stand out,......

EB

This belief/fear that if I succeed I will be punished....

After one round I started to come in contact with my inner child so I started tapping on the dialogue
that was going on between the adult part of me and the child that was 4 years old and I discovered
a very strong inner conflict between the desire to kill or punish my parents and be an perfect harmless
kind angel that I believed I was at the time.

When I was 4, my parents fought in front of me and I didn't make much difference between my parents and I at the time
so I took the blame for everything. My mom had called me on purpose in the hopes that my father wouldn't
hurt her if I was there as witness. This strategy didn't work and my father started hiting my mom with a table
cloth several times. This is the only event that I remember but it is strong.

What I didn't know is how much I hated my parents for putting me in the middle of all this.
While I was tapping I even said I want to kill them or why did they bring me to life to pour
their hatred inside of me. I don't remember the whole dialog but I felt I could never forgive
them. That they deserved to be punished. I realized then that I decided to be a failure to punish
them out of hatred and resentment. It's a deal I made with myself. The inner child had trouble
letting go of that anger and of that deal. It seemed that the self-inflicted hatred and punishment that the
inner child was keeping alive was also serving as a way to bond with its parents. At that point I had to
stop. It was such a shock to me that I who I believe to be kind and spiritual suffered from this underlying
hatred, resentment and anger for all this years, I became very sick and had to sleep for 3 days in a row.
I kept tapping when I could be awake. I still feel very weak.
I'm in a situation where I can make it happen for me or become bankrupt. I have all the resources, the ideas
but that "secret" deal that caused guilt, shame and self-blame for most of my life has to go.

I'm afraid to let it go as if it was friend, as if it was helping me. I can't accept to imagine myself successful. Ultimately,
I think I'm a bad person who doesn't deserve. It's very hard to let go of that part of me and I'm very scared. I think I used my
anger and my hatred to make me feel safe and protected from physical danger, from harm and injustice. It doesn't work but
my inner child is convinced it does. My father was very judgmental and critized me a lot. He also always kept putting me
in situation where I could never succeed and I felt very humiliated by this. I also used hatred, anger and resentment to
protect me. My hatred almost never got out because I know that ultemately I was born a good an loving person so it
has been extremely painful frustrating and debilitating to walk around with all that hatered and anger.

EFT has clarified all this in less than 3 weeks. I must say though that I did go through therapy for a year and half and
I feel I'm good at being self-aware and I also feel I have very good intuition. Actually, I often feel quite talented but
incapable of succeeding because of an invisible wall that tells me it's not safe and that I'm a bad person and I don't deserve.
Every time I have seen success coming into my life, I have felt sick or sabotaged it.

Can EFT really help me? I have a lot to give to this world. I have felt very frustrated because I never was able to
write books or screenplays or do all the things that truly mattered to me. I feel that I'm not only depriving myself
but the World also of all the good things I can do and give. I came to this world with a strong sense of purpose and love and
I've felt stuck since the age of 4.

Can EFT be so intense often. It really felt like a bomb exploded inside of me when I did the inner child tapping.
I wanted to stop but I didn't because I usually feel relief after a while. I didn't feel relief at all. I just fell out of exhaustion.

Please let me know what you think.

HAVING FUN WITH WEIGHT LOSS SYMBOLS

dianamoore — Sat, 20 Dec 2008 08:56:59 GMT

Here are some symbols that helped me lose weight..The first one is a
Sanjeenvini Healing card that you can put all your food and liquids on
before consuming and the other is just a subconscious symbol to put on
the fridge or cupboard to remind you what you are doing.

http://www.totalcontrolbook.com/freesymbols.html

Kind regards,

Diana Moore

http://www.bowentherapy.homestead.com

Re: EFT and Law of Attraction - In a Nutshell

Angela Maria — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 11:52:46 GMT

Hi Karen,

interesting that i read your post after listening to myself in meditation and accepting that I need to accept where I am right now!!!

At this moment, I did some tapping into it and I felt an incredible peace within!!! It´s fantastic!!!

Thank you for your words and I have to say that I'm a you site's visitor and I love your suggestions!!!!

Good Day!!!

With Love, Joy and Acceptance!!

Ângela

EFT and Law of Attraction - In a Nutshell

Karen Nauman — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 18:56:45 GMT

Hello, For the EFT ‘Wisdom Tip’ that I send out to my email/client list, this week I used a quote from EFT'er Rick Wilkes that I heard on an audio recently. A very simple, yet profound definition of the Law of Attraction. I wanted to share it here.

I wasn't sure what category to post in. However, combining EFT and Law of Attraction appears a lot in the abundance discussion, so I thought it would be a good place.

Blessings, acceptance and relief to all! Karen
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Here’s this weeks ‘Wisdom’ tip:

LOA IN A NUTSHELL

“Accept where you are... and then move yourself in the
direction of relief.”

~ Rick Wilkes - Thriving Now

KAREN'S EFT TAPPING TIP

What a concise and accurate definition of the
Law of Attraction! Very simple, just accept and
reach for relief.

Simple, but not easy for most of us humans! Many
times we resist accepting or surrendering into our
current reality. This resistance is what keeps us
stuck in the very place that we don't want to be!

There's a saying I've heard, "What we resist
persists!"

To surrender does not mean giving up. It means
deciding that we will no longer fight or push against
our current circumstances. The act of surrendering will
actually begin to loosen the energy up, so we *can*
move forward.

Moving in a direction of relief isn't about quantum
leaping or thrusting ourselves towards happy, happy,
bliss, bliss. It's about 'baby stepping' our way
in the direction of where we want to go and more
importantly, how we want to feel!

When it comes to the Law of Attraction, impatience and
our desire to fix things a.s.a.p. can really mess us
up emotionally and get in the way of our progress.

It would be like trying to jump over a wide river all
at once. We'll probably end up falling into the
water, getting wet, crawling home to change and then
starting all over again! A little more disheartened,
worn out and cynical than when we first began.

Moving in the direction of relief is slower and
steadier. It's about pausing here and there and and
using some stepping stones to get across the river.
This approach takes more time and patience -- but

we'll probably get to the other side in one piece, dry
and a lot more optimistic about continuing our journey.

Accept and move towards relief. A simple concept that
in my opinion forms the foundation of EFT i.e. we
say (and mean), "I deeply and completely accept
myself" as we tap, tap, tap -- baby stepping our way
towards less stressful emotions and better feeling
thoughts!

I wish you peace. Karen

P.S. Here's a very helpful article on EFT Emotional Guidance Scale that supports this tip:

http://www.tapintoeft.com/eft-emotional-guidance-scale/default.html

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Re: Am I ill because I want my mother's approval...

Fabienne — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 10:45:51 GMT

Hello Jacky,

I am sorry I have stepped into your thread about my stuff, I guess this is what the Forum does...it bounces ideas and emotions and helps you find what is relevant to you.

Gillian, Marian and Paul have given excellent ideas. I have worked on the questions Paul suggested and that stired things up...

Remember you have to work on what your body feels. When you are ready to introduce positive choices, you will sense it You can go gradually. It is all about your self acceptance and forgiveness of your self and your mother.

Hope this helps.

Fabienne

Re: Am I ill because I want my mother's approval...

Fabienne — Sat, 08 Nov 2008 16:59:30 GMT

Hello Jacky,

Thank you for this thread and contributors...as this is spot on what I am dealing with right now, with work on inner parents...

Today, I worked with a practitioner, and was going around the fear of judgement, what was I scared about? I had to admit that my worse fear was to not love again/ or being loved... where was that coming from? (I have to say that my parents treated me similarly on similar issues, but my father did not speak to me for months) I was subjected to strong judging all my life and what came to me was the fact that my mother was petrified when she discovered she expected me, She nearly died during my brother's birth and the last thing she wanted was to go through that again, I just imagined how she must have felt and how I may have perceived that energy as an unborn baby.

I then tapped on: Even though my mother does not want me, I deeply love and accept myself and her. I forgive her...Even though my mother does not approve of me..........Even though I have to make myself very small..............Even though I have to get myself out of the way..........Even though I can't go because I am going to hurt my mother...............I used I choose to love and accept myself and my mother, I choose to forgive myself and my mother.

After tapping which was intensely emotional, I felt the issue of disapproval dissipate and knew that my mother loved me...

Hope this helps,

Fabienne