Search results matching tag 'abundance'

Looking for financial independency: My inner child has confused gifts with love

UHU — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:13:30 GMT

Hello,

I am going through a very painful breakup. While very actively working on myself I feel stuck not wanting to go back to work and resume my normal daily life. It is even more difficult that I work at home so I do not have any peer pressure to get me going.

I have felt a bit concerned about this and decided to tap. I have discovered recently that I suffer from co-dependency and love addiction. I felt that my inability to resume work as before was not just depression caused by the break-up though so I tapped on

Even though, I don't know why I am having such a hard time getting back to work, I completely love and accept myself....

Very quickly I understood that as a little child the best moments I had with my parents was when I received gifts. I was very excited. I often exactly the gift I had expected. My parents put a lot of love and care in choosing presents for me and Christmas was always a night with no fights where at last I was the center of the attention.

Otherwise, my parents would scream and insult each other. They even got into fights while my mother was calling me to witness the scene. They were asking me to make up for their unhappy childhood and meet all of their different expectations which were more often than not totally incompatible and I just could not measure up. I felt really neglected, abandoned, more like a thing than a human being and very deprived of love and acknowledgement of who I was.

As a young adult I often put myself in situations where I would become financially dependant over and over. I too had very unrealistic expectations of myself, was a perfectionist and had delusions of grandeur without wanting to take the necessary steps. I was trying to prove to my parent my self worth by trying to achieve something impossible and always failed miserably. I guess it had the double hidden benefit of keeping my financially dependent and ridden in low self-esteem

I am really fed up with that situation that repeats itself over and over so I learnt EFT and started therapy to deal with that very subject. I had become partially financially dependent on my boyfriend as well and felt that I had an invisible maximum wage written down somewhere in my soul that said minimum wage accepted is just above the threshold of misery. My couple suffered from that a great deal when I was working more and more hours just to get the same amount of money at the end of the month. I accepted to be abused by my clients who asked for to many things they had not paid for....

Now I understand that my inner child confused Christmas, receiving gifts/money with being loved and being safe. My parents never screamed at me when they offered me gifts. I felt safe. It seems I want my inner child wants to go back to the safe and loving place of being taken care of. My adult self does not. It wants to be able to have enough wealth to make her own Christmas….

I really want to shift that belief (money/gifts= safety and love) so that I can achieve the wealth that is just dying to enter my life.

Please let me know if you have any insights on how to handle this.

Lots of love

Re: Book sales

Ingrid — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 03:21:19 GMT

Hi Samstar,

Congratulations on this wonderful acomplishment! How exciting!

Some thoughts: Instead of "selling my book" maybe you want to think about "helping people in a way only I and my book can".

The book and it's price tag is just the carrier, your thoughts, your passion, the importance you gave it is what counts.

Connect with that and give away as much content as you'd like; when people see what an expert you are in your field, and how true passion and honesty are the driving motor behind it, they will get curious and want to know more..

Good Luck!

Ingrid

Re: Getting up the emotional scale to wealth...

successfuleft — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 16:25:12 GMT

Hi Mitch,

Thanks for sharing this. Like a number of other EFT practitioners (Carol Look, Chip Engelmann, Sejual Shah, Lynne Shaner come to mind), I combine EFT and attraction principles in my work with clients. I find it's a fantastic combination to allow people to attract money and success.

Here's a couple of points I'd make:

1) In your post, you say, "This stuff really is difficult in practice". I encourage you to explore this belief and tap on it. In my experience, it doesn't have to be difficult.

2) Recall that attraction principles teach, like in the work of Ester & Jerry Hicks, it is our consistent feelings and beliefs that make up our experience.

3) It's next to impossible to go in one leap from very low levels on the Emotional Scale to consistently feeling very high vibrations over time.

4) Practitioner Sejual Shah and I call the "work your way up one step at a time" approach The Incremental Approach to Abundance. It's very effective for our clients.

5) I suggest to my clients to print out the Emotional Scale and put it up somewhere visible like your fridge, desk or bathroom mirror. It helps you become more mindful about what your current money emotions are. You can get a copy by clicking here.

6) Like all EFT success, using EFT successfully for abundance requires our ability to find and clear core issues. Here is an article called the EFT for Abundance: The 3 Best Ways to Find Your Blocks.

Hope this is helpful.

With much love,

Paul

Re: Why isn't everyone rich?

successfuleft — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 14:43:43 GMT

Claire,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. One thing I've noticed that happens around the subject of being rich is that it's a charged subject for most people. These intense emotions get in the way of having a clear and centered relationship to creating what we want. I agree that everyone gets to define "rich" for her/himself. At same time, I think it's important to define from a clear intention of knowing what you want instead of reacting from a place of strong emotions. That's where EFT comes in - clear the negative charge and it gets a whole lot easier to create your own rich life.

Blessings,

Paul

Re: Confusion from a Newbie!

successfuleft — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 04:29:22 GMT

Van,

So glad to hear that you're feeling calmer about your approach. Doing a happy calm dance for you ..

Suzanne also has a great point - once you calm your energy, start to explore specific issues that are in way of your abundance goals. If you're not sure what they are, I have a tool I developed to help you find them. It's called Money Matrix and you can read more about it here: http://paulzelizer.com/intro-to-money-matrix/

If you need help figuring out how to apply EFT to the issues that surface in this exercise, feel free to send me a message.

Blessings,

Paul

Re: Help with Gagging when Tapping on Abundance

successfuleft — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 22:22:29 GMT

Thanks for reaching out to the forums.

One of the most common mistakes people make when first using EFT for Abundance is to try and make too big a jump too fast. To me, it sounds like your system can't swallow the "millions and millions of dollars". From the sounds of it, it's to big a jump from where you are. I see this often with clients as do many of colleagues.

EFT practitioner Sejual Shah and I wrote an article called the Incremental Approach to Abundance with EFT and the Law of Attraction. It's available at: http://paulzelizer.com/eft-and-loa-for-abundance-the-incremental-approach/

In general, slow down and take smaller bites is my suggestion.

Blessings,

Paul

Re: What do you think happened?

successfuleft — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 13:23:51 GMT

Hi RBrown,

I can sense your frustration and confusion. Thanks for reaching out.

As a practitioner who specializes in using EFT for Abundance, I work with many people each week on this topic. Your story is not an uncommon one. When it comes to abundance, it takes a bit more skill to use EFT successfully. It's not like a headache where if it's gonna work, you can tell immediately. One of the biggest mistakes I see people make when using EFT for Abundance is not following the EFT success guideline of "Be Specific". People tend to tap on things like wanting more money, wanting to win the lottery and the like.

The first step I recommend is to get a very clear picture of your current energetic relationship with money. To help people do this, I offer a free worksheet and video at http://www.moneymake2.com/images/Healing_Your_Money_Matrix.pdf

Once you know what your current energy blocks with money are, then you tap on them. For instance, one client saw a big pile of money on the other side of a 3" plate glass wall that was just past her nose. When we explored what the plate glass wall was about, it represented a host of limiting beliefs she got from her parents. We tapped on each of these aspects and her business started to steadily increase by about 10% a month. And, she's enjoying her work MUCH more.

The other mistake I see people make is trying to take steps that are to big for them. For instance, a client who was earning about $30,000 a year set the goal of becoming a billionaire. Energetically what happened is that she couldn't feel the pathway from where she was to being a billionaire and she got discouraged. But, she kept pushing herself anyway. When we started working together, we came up with more incremental goals. Her first step was to increase her income to $45,000 and she is on track to do that this year. A 50% increase in one year is something to celebrate and more than pays for the work we do together.

Hope this helps,

Paul

What do you think happened?

RBrown — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 04:16:37 GMT

Hi all,

I'm new to the forums, but not so new to EFT. I found EFT several years ago through a youtube video.

Anyhow, back in the early 90's I came in contact with a book called Science and Health with Key to The Scriptures (Christian Science) by Mary Baker Eddy. I was fascinated to learn what this woman was sharing. In fact her life was fasinating. So, I started applying the princples taught in the book and even took something called Class Instruction that helps individuals learn and apply the principles on a deeper level. My life was wonderful, happy and I was attracting all kinds of stuff all the time. I even had several physical healings. I had a job I was fairly happy with. My sister and I had a gift basket business that was doing REALLY well. But in the late 90's I started to explore other things that seemed to be in line with what I was already involved with. Shortly thereafter, things started to go down hill and seems that my entire life has been spiraling out of control every since.

Although I made some changes in my life, it didn't seem to be enough to create such a negative outcome. My partner and I started a new business that we were passionate about and no matter what we do, we can't seem to make it work out for us.

We both started using EFT for Abundance and even purchased a lot of Carol Look's material. We follow along religiously with her material and tap daily, but nothing seems to change. We work almost around the clock in our business and still don't see not much progress. I can't get to the place of feeling anything using EFT, let alone anything from a 1-10. I simply feel nothing.

I've read so many times that when things are not happening for you, that you have some blocks to overcome, but how do you overcome them, if you don't know what they are? Then you read other places to hire a Practitioner (I did do that once, but still felt nothing). And now I'm to a point where I can't afford to hire a Practitioner. So my question is, what do you think happened? Why was I so successful and happy during the first part of my life? Did I not have the blocks then and acquired them later? And why can't I feel anything while using EFT? Why is EFT not working for me?

Thanks for listening and any advice is welcomed.

RBrown

Re: New into EFT

successfuleft — Fri, 01 May 2009 20:24:26 GMT

Hey Theuns,

Welcome to the EFT community. The process and wording you are describing is correct if you are using "Mechanical EFT". The problem is that neither I nor any reputable EFT coach I know has seen mechanical EFT lead to success with abundance issues. Instead, successfully increasing our income with EFT usually has two parts: 1) finding the limiting beliefs (EFT calls these tail-enders) that are getting in the way of making more money and 2) implementing a clear strategy for attraction more money in our lives.

The process of doing this involves what EFT founder Gary Craig calls "intuitive EFT". I have a whole site with lots of free resources dedicated to learning how to do this. There are others on this forum who do as well such as Practitioner Chip Englemann. Chip has a very extensive free ebook called th Born Loser's Guide to Abundance. His site is www.ChipEFT.com

Good luck on your abundance journey.

With much love,

Paul

Re: Some Help getting the wording right

successfuleft — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 14:54:33 GMT

Hi Mikal,

Thanks for reaching out to the forums. Using EFT for increasing abundance is an art that takes a particular skillset. It's quite a bit different than tapping away a back ache. Good news is that there's lots of free info out there that will help you learn how to do this.

One technique that I like to share with clients new to using EFT in this way is the "Using the Tailender Technique". This technique has four basic steps:

Identify a positive statement of what you want. For instance, "I easily and consistently earn $100,000 per year."
Get in comfortable sitting position and center yourself for a few moments by paying attention to your breath.
Say your positive statement aloud. "I easily and consistently earn $100,000 per year."
Most important step: Notice what happens in your mind and your body when you say this outloud.

Most people find that they have some blocks when it comes to their yet to be achieved abundance goals. In EFT, these blocks are called Tailenders. They often come up as negative self talk ("Yeah right, I'm never gonna make $100,000 per year") or negative feelings in the body (a clenching feeling in the stomach).

After you have identified these blocks, then you tap on them using the words or quality of the feeling in your sequence.

With much love,

Paul