Hi everyone,

  I was wondering what advice some of you had for doing EFT to reduce appetite in a 7 year old child.   It's one of those issues that I hate to talk about with my daughter (because I don't want her to become too overfocused about her eating habits at this age).

  Keep in mind, since she doesn't know what the word "deprivation" means,  its tough to use the verbage   "even though I may feel deprived by not eating as much".  

Any suggestions?

Thanks.
Ed

Hello Ed,

You may also want to post your question on the emofree.com forum EFT4kids (http://eft4kids.emofree.com/) since the moderators, practitioners, and other EFT savvy members/ parents there deal with questions pertaining to children.

Many blessings,

Sunny

use as appropriate 

et i may feel bad if i cant have seconds and thirds

et i love chicken.pasta/icecream/etc

et i like mum's cooking, it feels good

et i like to eat whatever looks nice

et i eat a lot and dad thinks its not healthy

et im in charge of how much i eat - not dad!

et i hate how he's trying to make me thin and dosnt like me as iam

et i hate his stupid eft its just another way to tell me what to do

et i have all these other people in my life telling me what to do all the time

et i hate being fat and people dont like me

eti get hurt easily

et people dont see me for me but as a fatty

et teachers are more mean to cos im fat

et ill never be thin and i think this is a waste of time

Thanks for the replies.  I was considering taking more of a "covert Hypnosis", NLP approach.  But I think I'll take a shot at the EFT too. 

Thanks.
Ed

Hi Ed,

I don't know, yet everytime I hear about a child/parent relationship, what comes up is the importance of tapping on yourself first (the parent) in relationship to how you "feel" about your daughters situation.  I think whether you are saying anything or not at this point, kids are highly sensitive and pick things up on a much deeper level.  She may feel if you have anxiety about it and that can be stressful.

Just a thought, perhaps doing some rounds for yourself first and see what comes up for you.  It can only help her if you are relaxed about it.

A few examples may be:

"ET my daughter is only 7 and she overeats and I feel _____________about it, I accept myself and all my feelings"

"ET I don't know how to approach my daughter regarding this issue, I don't want her to become too overfocused about her eating habits, I just want to help her, I deeply and completely accept myself and all my feelings about this"

"ET I hate the thought of talking about this with my daughter, I accept these are my feelings"

After a few rounds, maybe do some choices statements like "I choose to find ways to help my daughter that are filled with love and respect for her and for myself"

Blessings,

Mirabai

  You're absolutely right Mirabai.  I don't want to show any disappointment or anxiety towards my daughter over this.

 I'll work on that.

Ed

Ed,

You sound like a caring dad.

Many blessings,

Mirabai

heh-heh Ed,

that's exactly the point. she will read your energy even if you believe you don't "show" in your anxiety or disappointment. You can aim through EFT to not HAVE any anxiety or disappointment.

Perhaps your deeper, more helpful feelings will rise instead, like love, unconditional affection, understanding, inner patience.

Kids aren't supposed to have to live our dreams. They're supposed to be able to live their own dreams. sometimes they need parental help to do  this.

i hope this doesn't sound harsh, i'm not living by that standard myself. but it is (currently) my goal.

I hear you Rachel.  But the love, unconditional affection, understanding and inner patience are strong here (for my wife too).

I agree, too many parents hoping their kids will live out their dreams.  That's not an issue here either.  

I'm a lucky person.  I'm one of the few people I know who is truly happy.  I'm living a dream and wouldn't change a single thing about my life.   I just want the best for my daughter  - she can have her own dreams.

  She is perceptive though.  Destined to be a great healer.   <grin>

  Your words are not harsh.  They're keen observations.  We're all in here trying to shine light and trying to help each other.

Thanks. 

Ed