Teann,

I'm sorry.  I think you missed my point entirely.  Let me illustrate by telling a little story.

My sister has masses of beautiful, black, thick, curly hair.  (She says it's "dark ash blond," but whatever.  It's black.  Real black.  Raven.)  I have fine, brown, wavy/straightish hair.  All my life, I have envied my sister's lovely hair.  I used to get mine permed so that I would have curly hair too, but of course it's never the same.

Believe it or not, after we were adults my sister told me that she always envied my hair!  She thinks her hair is too high-maintenance and hard to work with.  She actually thinks my hair is pretty for some reason.

So, you never know who might be looking at your flat chest and thinking they wished they had what you have. 

Actually, in some countries a smaller bustline is quite fashionable.  For example, girls in Brazil get theirs reduced and get their bottoms enlarged.

By the way, I got teased too.  And grabbed.  And assaulted.  Once a boy in school actually ripped my shirt open in the middle of biology class.  So what?  Who cares what they think?  I also got made fun of for being too smart and using big words.  Do you think for a minute that made me want to be dumb?  Why would I listen to the opinion of some grade-school kid about what I should look or act like?  Some people will find anything they can to make fun of you about.  It's not about you.  It's about them, you know.

And why in the world would anyone want to have a mammogram?  Thank God you don't have to have them.

My point is, how you see your body is an inside job.  You are the one who gets to decide how you're going to feel about it.  Some people might not find your body type to be their ideal; others might just love it.  Presumably your husband liked your figure enough to marry you and make kids with you.  But ultimately the only one who can make you be happy about yourself is you.

Teann,

http://www.emofree.com/Articles2/enhance-figure-gillian.htm 

Above is an article by Gillian Wightman and how she increased her breast size, it might be helpful

in discovering historical emotional issues to apply EFT to. She went from a 32 to a 37 and is also

a moderator to the Forums.

Everytime, this subject comes in my mailbox. Carol Look comes to mind, an an EFT exercise,

I post to members of my EFT-Cancer-Group once a month - it is from her Abundance Series......Interestingly!

Wow.  There are lots of great ideas and suggestions here, some of which I have tapped on before.  I guess I really need to know if tapping is just impossible or not.  I mean I've tapped on alot of the same stuff about the breast size issue as Gillian, and got nothing.  So why didn't it work for me, but it worked for her?

 Speaking of not working....I went to the doc for a chronic sore throat, and got no results.  I guess antibiotics don't work either....lol.  I am telling you I spend money and try to get hel plike anyone else and it doesn't work.  I did get better on my own, which I kinda thought I would, but not before a lot of bad days...hmmm.

PS the gratitude statements are fine.  The only one that I don't care about is whether the weekend with the family was loving or not.  I purposely work weekends to avoid them and I am very grateful for every second away and when I am not thinking of them.

PSS...West Virginia Girl.  Yes I guess I do not uderstand.  I don'treally care if there are women out there who want smaller breasts or who envy me.  I know what I want and what I have observed in behavior surrounding the breast issue.  I know I want to give anything close to normal breast size a try.  I would like to be bigger than small average, but i would settle for a cup size....to walk into the underwear department and biy a real live grown up bra that fits!  Wow.  I have been daydreming of it my whole life.

 

I don't know why I would want less.  Its like settling for being ten pounds over weight when you can be perfect or settling for a C when an A is in easy reach.  Why would I want to look at myself and say..."oh its ok to be deformed.  Its ok to be teased and called a les-bian.  Its ok that people think I should do their menial crap because I am not soft and pretty.  Its ok that I don't look good in clothes because of my body type."  Why would I want to love below average?  I can't even comprehend that.

teann: I love your writing. Maybe you don't know that you are a cool writer. Just write a book. Don't think about the big picture or a finished novel. Just write about one character: YOU. I can see in your posts that you have even the plot's seed already. I really think that you can turn all you are saying in a beautiful book or screenplay. You don't have to do it perfect; somebody else can ghost-writing it if you can't. Think about it seriously and go for it. (excuse my english if something is not correct please) rey

Rey...thank you for a very unusual observation (and for interpretting the typos), but it made me smile.  I assume you expect I can spell if I have to:)

Teann - there might be a clue to your the answer to one of your questions in your own writing.  In a previous post you asked:

 

teann:

I guess I really need to know if tapping is just impossible or not.  I mean I've tapped on alot of the same stuff about the breast size issue as Gillian, and got nothing.  So why didn't it work for me, but it worked for her?

and in this post you wrote:

teann:

I don't know why I would want less.  Its like settling for being ten pounds over weight when you can be perfect or settling for a C when an A is in easy reach.  Why would I want to look at myself and say..."oh its ok to be deformed.  Its ok to be teased and called a les-bian.  Its ok that people think I should do their menial crap because I am not soft and pretty.  Its ok that I don't look good in clothes because of my body type."  Why would I want to love below average?  I can't even comprehend that.

Gillian's approach was all around dealing with the beliefs and emotions she had surrounding being female, rather than specifically about breast size.  She tapped to come to accept herself as she was and as she stopped resisting how she was, things started to change.  I seriously suggest doing some tapping around the ideas that you expressed above - you seem to have beliefs that to accept yourself while your body is anything less than what you perceive to be "average" is something you are not able to do.  The power of EFT is in us using the tapping to come to love and accept ourselves AS WE ARE, then change is possible.  It is possible that this is why it worked for Gillian and it hasn't (yet) worked for you.

Just a thought in case of use.

Jo

 Hi Teann,

Your first post in this thread was so close to how I've  thought about my life that I almost could have written it myself.  I was so sick of all the different methods for getting myself to accept what I had or setting my intentions to draw something better that I was going crazy.  Somewhere along the line I realized that they weren't working for me because trying to get myself to accept and like what I already had was like repressing my frustration with life and lying through a smile.  Intending to have a better life didn't work because I was doing it out of all the anger I felt that I didn't already have that life, and that I had had to go through such hard times just to get where I was. 

 Nevertheless, I trudged on and tried every method that came my way.  EFT was a real turning point for me and helped me clear away a huge number of the false beliefs I had had that led to a lot of the misery and pain I felt.  After a year or so, though, I felt that it wasn't as effective for the kinds of things I was working on and I was casting around for something to add to it.  A few months later, something happened in my life that caused me to revisit a healing method I had learned about several years ago.  It's called ho'oponopono and the idea is the same as with EFT but the method is different.  Both seek to cleanse us of false memories, but I've found that EFT is good for certain of my issues, and ho'oponopono is good for the rest.  They both bring peace through uncovering who we really are underneath all the false beliefs we have about ourselves and the world. 

 For me, that was when the final piece of the puzzle fell into place.  I've always known intellectually that peace comes from inside and that no amount of money, vacation time, shoes, or breast tissue can bring that peace.  But I still spent 50 years trying to find it by intending to have all those things, as well as an education and world travel.  A part of me was utterly convinced that that was the way to happiness and peace.  If I could just change my circumstances, then I would be happy.  I did end up changing my circumstances somewhat by clearing away a lot of the false beliefs I had learned about myself in childhood, and I experienced a shift that allowed me to see that it wasn't things outside myself that were bringing me peace; it was that as I became more peaceful, I drew to myself naturally more peaceful circumstances.  Since beginning again to practice ho'oponopono, I've experienced another big shift and become excited daily about cleansing my relationships with people because I've felt it bridge the final gap between me and peace. It's still very hard to convince my ego that I wouldn't be happier just winning the lottery and traveling the world with my husband, daughter, fabulous wardrobe and large breasts, but persistence pays off in redirecting it's focus to what has become far more valuable to me-uncovering the peace that was in my heart all along.

If you want to find out what it's all about, go to www.hooponopono.org and/or check out a book called Zero Limits, by Joe Vitale.  And if you want to get started on larger breasts in the meantime, check out chapter three of a book called Chinese Self-Massage Therapy, by Fan Ya-Li.  

I wish you peace beyond all understanding.

 orenda

LOL...I know...I get so tired of being so self absorbed.  So I forget about it all and focus on other stuff.  Then wham....you realize that it doesn't matter how you've filled your time, what you've accomplished, who you've helped, what you've earned or learned...you are still in the same damn boat you were in last week, last year.

 Hooponopono was a bit too mushy gushy for me.  Also I have found I have revisited my childhood so many times, I have created a monster that just isn't there.  As soon as a practitioner tells me their take on my life, it seems to become just another dismal reality for me whether it really happened that way or not.  I seem to be highly suseptible to their suggestions from a negative point of view, but unable to accept anything positive from them....not that they have many positive things to say.  It seems to be all about blaming and twisting the facts until you feel like they would feel in that situation.  To be quite honest, their are a lot of little things from my childhood that bother me, but usually they are not the things the practitioners/counselors point out.  And of course I tap on all of it.

 I am not about relationships in the loving sort of way and don't want to be in anything but the most superficial way.  I want it all to be a game.  I like it that way.  I want to be admired superficially and respected for my intellect at a distance, and of course...lots of money to live independently would be the greatest thing that ever happened to me, other than those breasts, and an admiring man or two or three.

 

And i wish you all the adventure and excitement in the world:)

LOL...I know...I get so tired of being so self absorbed.  So I forget about it all and focus on other stuff.  Then wham....you realize that it doesn't matter how you've filled your time, what you've accomplished, who you've helped, what you've earned or learned...you are still in the same damn boat you were in last week, last year.

 Hooponopono was a bit too mushy gushy for me.  Also I have found I have revisited my childhood so many times, I have created a monster that just isn't there.  As soon as a practitioner tells me their take on my life, it seems to become just another dismal reality for me whether it really happened that way or not.  I seem to be highly suseptible to their suggestions from a negative point of view, but unable to accept anything positive from them....not that they have many positive things to say.  It seems to be all about blaming and twisting the facts until you feel like they would feel in that situation.  To be quite honest, their are a lot of little things from my childhood that bother me, but usually they are not the things the practitioners/counselors point out.  And of course I tap on all of it.

 I am not about relationships in the loving sort of way and don't want to be in anything but the most superficial way.  I want it all to be a game.  I like it that way.  I want to be admired superficially and respected for my intellect at a distance, and of course...lots of money to live independently would be the greatest thing that ever happened to me, other than those breasts, and an admiring man or two or three.