Hello can i use EFT for thread/spider veins on my face? I got these from picking at my face and squeezing spots especially when i am stressed. I need EFT for helping with these spots too... as i have had them for many years and nothing the doctor has given me has helped very much. I have had oral antibiotics and loads of different creams. The spots are on my chest/ back and on my inside thighs. I read somewhere these spots could mean that someone is getting under my skin so to speak. And yes that is correct as my mother is a big part in this. As i have grown to dislike my mum and her ways and this as been so for alot of years now. For example she winds me up and puts me down in a subtle kind of way...and has not been there for me throughout my growing up life etc. Many thanks in advance for any guidance. Julie.

 Hi Julie,

It sounds like this may be a way of self-mutilation of some sort? I have worked with some clients around the issue of their appearance that was the cause but everyone is different. It sounds like you already know where to begin. Write down specific examples of when your mother got under your skin and especially early memories of that happening. If you still find yourself picking your spots when stressed then you need to be doing EFT to get the stress out first. The compulsive behavior is merely there as a result of not addressing the stress. I would also have you working on the feelings that are associated with how you look. Are you grossed out by your face? Is it frightening that you might not get rid of it? Are you angry that you've tried everything and nothing has work? Sometimes what we feel about the condition is the very thing that keeps it from healing. 

Alina Frank, CERT-I

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Alina you are spot on with your reply. I absolutely hate who i am and how i look...and have done so from around the age of starting school. My feelings of how i feel about myself and how i look have tormented me all these years every single day of my life until the present day. This lead me to having a unhealthy relationship around food. For example not eating/compulsive eating/weighing myself many times a day. My eating only came rite a year ago... after all these years of being at war with food. Although i have lost some weight it refuses to budge anymore and that is making me feel a failure... especially when i am now only eating when i am truly hungry and stop when i am full etc...after following the Paul Mckenna's "I can make you thin". My weight and how i look have destroyed my life... and i cannot remember what it feels like to feel joy and happiness inside. I used to pull my hair out too and abuse alcohol to numb how i was feeling...also obsessions with cleaning. Because of how i look i am too scared to meet a man even though i crave to have the love and affection from one...and miss being part of a couple. I just think i am too ugly and fat that i cannot have the man of my dreams anyway. I don't like sex...maybe because my first boyfriend i slept with abused me sexually and mentally! Sorry i have gone on... but i feel i have so many issues going on and i just do not think i can keep afloat sometimes and fear that i will sink. I am all but an empty shell with only my horrid thoughts to keep me company. I want to feel alive... instead of this heavy load i have carried for so many years. It seems a long lonely road i am travelling and not ever getting to my destination. Thank you for your reply i will try and take on board what you have suggested. Julie.

It shows up more than you'd think. I was working with someone recently who had come to me for several sessions and despite some real progress I had this feeling that we still had not really hit the BIG ONE. I suddenly asked him to look into a mirror and his heart sank as he told me he couldn't do it. It is so basic and yet so true that even if you did nothing else with EFT but really feel congruent with the words, "I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself" you would clear the majority of issues in your life. I would try some statements such as "Even though I feel I have so many issues I don't know where to begin, I am committed to being kind and compassionate as I begin the process" and "Even though I have always hated the way I look and this issue feels too overwhelming, I am okay" Jot down those significant emotional events, be very specific and begin one day at a time. If it does feel too large then I suggest you work with a quality practitioner.

Blessings and hugs,

Alina Frank, CERT-I

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Hi Alina just to let you know where i am at with my problem. I haven't worked on your phrases as of yet and i will tell you why. I was getting myself overwhelmed with all my problems and reading too much instead of doing much tapping. So i took a step back and addressed what was the problems in starting to tap on my issues. The first thing was i was resisting doing EFT so have been working with that first. Then the next step was resistance to change...followed by working on how angry i am at myself for staying in the same place i don't even want to be in. And lastly the working on my negative self-talk. All the above have brought me to a place in my mind where i feel i am NOW able to start to address my other problems. So i will be working on my self image next and take it from there as to what i feel i need to work on next. I will report back to let you know how it is all going. Thank you Alina. Me writing my problem above and for you to take the time to reply kindly was the push i needed to do something about my problem. You see you doing that i do not feel alone on this road to freeing myself from living my life in darkness. I thank you so much for helping me. Julie.

Well done!!! You've done it exactly the right things to get to a place to be able to start working on the issues. Congratulate yourself for persistance! You will be rewarded!

Keep it up,

Alina

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