EFT General Discussion

Bone Fractures from Osteoporisis

Wendy A — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 11:47:39 GMT

Hi All,

I wrote awhile ago about having osteoporosis.Back then I tapped alot and the pain left or so i thought.The pain i get now is Bone fractures and wedge fractures and its from having Osteoporosis cause the bones are so brittle and they break or fracture so easily.I recently got a tummy bug and was vomiting and ended up cracking my rib.The hospital couldnt do a thing.

Recently my back is so sore when I move or sit or lie down or rollover in bed etc. I have to have very strong pain killers like tramal and tablets with codeine.I really hate taking tablets as I have to take alot seeing i had a heart attack afew yrs back.To be able to get on with my work at the farm with my partner i have to be dosed up then i am pain free for a couple of hours.

I am going for another bone density test in a few weeks and having an xray on my spine next week.i have tapped for pain but realize nothing can make my broken bones mend again.I wake up in the mornings and as soon as my feet touch the ground it all starts again and this morning i was in tears as i tried to sit down for my morning coffee.

I do EFT alot on myself for other sorts of pain and have great results for other people, but what can i do or say to help this pain. I am getting to the point i just dred moving out of the chair to do anything as I know what will happen and i get up and move as slowly as i can so i dont irritate it.

EFT is the best thing around but for this I really dont know what or how to do my setup statements.

Being in Pain ALL the time is so hard to cope with and when I am in tears alot and often in secret as My partner has his own issues and doesnt believe in EFT, I am at a loss as to what i can do anymore.

If anyone out there has had the same sort of pain i would gladly love to hear from you and maybe what you may have done and how you coped using EFT.

Please help.I am at my wits end.

Sadly the doctors these days only fill me up with more pain killers and say thats the way you will be so get used to it.

Wendy A

Emotional and Physical need to always tap separately?

arum — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 12:38:28 GMT

When we tap for a physical issue, does it help our emotions? I do know that when we tap for emotions, it can help with the physical. I find myself tapping for the physical, and then saying, "well now I need to tap for an emotionl problem." Although I'm sure we do haft to tap for a "specific" emotonal problem separately, because it needs our undivided attention, without distractions. Thanks, :) Arum

Surrogate EFT - A few clarification needed

divine_seeker — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 09:22:27 GMT

Hello,

My greetings to all the EFT healers. I have learnt and have experiened very good results with EFT with my issue of low intensity but very frequent seizures. I am confident of complete healing very soon.

I have a few doubts about surrogate EFT.

1) What should be the proficieny of the surrogate tapper? Does he/she needs to be a very experienced practitioner?

2) Do we need the concurrence of the person on whom we are going to apply surrogate tapping? Because some folks want to continue that way.

3) If the affected people experience good results, do we need to reveal the reason of EFT.

Recently I have got the complete DVD set of EFT and studying further.

Regards,

A divine seeker

EFTing Oneself of 9/11

Harry Chambers — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 02:26:09 GMT

Hi All,

A few days after 9/11 this odd question came to my mind, it was like some inner voice was asking me if I ever seen some one die before my eyes? And after a brief moment of thought, I said "no". The it seemed that voice asked when I saw the second tower fall even on tv, was I in ways seeing peoples die? Then it hit me that in ways, went I saw that building fall, many lives was exstinguished before my eyes, and that thought did shift me with in. Then a few days later this same inner voice was again coming to me, this time asking me if I needed to do some kind of energy work on myself due to my seeing so many live lost before my eyes, even per tv, to clear myself? To my surprise, in using a energy clearing technique call Deep PEAT, a bit similar to EFT, I could sense say energy being shifted and removed from me.

And it may be that in ways, I am just more sensitive than most, but at times and even now I still wonder how many of our nation and world too still have some kind of trauma due to them more seeing so many lives exstinguished before their eyes, again, even per TV? How many in ways are not fully being able to be to and of themself due to this event?

Say if it be that what I am saying be of some sound merit and value, then should be that for some of you to suggest to each of your clients that you think that it be an good idea that you and them do EFT work to clear them of any energies of 9/11 that in ways may be working that they fall short of being their full self?

In dowsing, for some things, there suppose to be an check list of some things to check for, and I am not sure, but it seems that by now there may be an EFT list of a few things that each practionsner,sp, check their client on to see if some work should be done in certain particular matter?

Harry

Change didn't last?

Ann — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 02:18:05 GMT

In session last week I did EFT on an issue that has been a major problem for me for years. In short, it is related to a statement made to me by my mother when I was really attracted to a young intern when she was a patient in the hospital. She said to me, "....what makes you think anyone would ever give you a second look?" A mother doesn't lie to a daughter so since that time, " I am ugliness personified". For the first time in about 40 years I felt the sting of those words and they brought tears to my eyes so that is why we chose to work on the topic. When I got down to 0 the therapist asked me if I was on one of my highs and I was....really high and feeling absolutely relieved of that issue and she felt the shift in energy. I have a history of highs that are followed by pretty severe depression but thought this time would be different. That evening, looking in the mirrow, I didn't see repulsive ugliness and recognized the person as me. However, 2 days later, the high was gone and the mirror image was once again the ugly person and once again I could not connect to the image as being me which is my usual. It went back to not knowing who that person was. Does anyone know what might have happened to go from such a wonderful feeling back to the reverse of it? I honestly can't even remember the statements that were used and it has only been 6 days since the appt.

Any help will be most appreciated.

Ann

EFT While Walking

Harry Chambers — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 21:39:06 GMT

Hi All,

For some time, I had the urge to do some EFT work on myself on some things that I had getting some poor results on, For one, my right hip. I may as yet tapped on some key things and issues that when tapped on, it may then get better, but a part of my feeling is that some part of it came from over 30 years of working my out doors construction work in all kinds of weather, and I know that I for my own best good, not be too assumptive in my believing that assumption of mine, ok?

So any way last night I decided to do some late night walking in the cleaner and fresher air on this island. I had in mind was to redo work on my hip and few other things, things that a few, was at about 1, on the scale of things, but out walking, for some reason all in all, I was bit surprised that I was able to access more on one matter that in my mind was supposed to be cleared.

Some of the reasons I did EFT and walking, was that some that believe in polarity, that is in walking each feet individually being more incontact to the ground, surges of polarity is sent through the body per like I said, each feet touching the ground with each being of different polarity. Some too believe that healing and energy work done in certain surrounding, more results are attain from the same amount of efforts. Thus the energy of the surrounding cater to what energy work done get better results.

So in short, I did my EFT while walking, and as of today, I do feel that what I did last night was more productive.per on past worked on things. I too see this as like killing two birds with one stone. And today, yeah, my right hip is more than a tad better and I slept better and well? I will for now give this a "so far ,so good" mark.

Yes, I look at this as elements of a few things done together in good setting, the synergy of it all, this could lead to EFT becoming a part of some people walking regiment.

But I am feeling too, what I just said, is noting new under the sun, some other EFTer had done and said this matter already.

Harry

Proxy tapping - no results

Emergo — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 09:37:44 GMT

Hi all,

I've done some proxy tapping on my daughter lately because she was ill. Unfortunately, my impression is that it didn't work. I say impression because the fever subsided but came back later (for a couple days more). I also tapped on her fears (for throwing up, for example) but the fear stayed (and also returned later).

I've read a lot on proxy tapping on this forum, but it feels I am either doing something wrong. As I have CFS and still do a lot of EFT (by myself and regular sessions with a therapist); might I be 'in the way' of EFT being effective on my daughter? Of course I am concerned about her welbeing, although I feel I don't overreact. Might a parent's worry be in the way?

Sometimes I wonder if there are results, but not the results I want or I just don't see it. For example; maybe when I hadn't done some EFT, she might have been ill far worse.

All in all, EFT seems like so much hard work to me. I've been doing it on my CFS for 2 years now and - despite progress - still feel ill. Combined with the things I've mentioned above, I feel doubt creeping up.

Any practical advice is welcome ;-) Thanks very much for your time and effort to read this (and maybe even reply to this).

Best,

Marc

You May Want to Try This?

Harry Chambers — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:01:45 GMT

Hi All,

Ok, some of you may want to try this, do a round of tapping on some matter or issue, then go back do another around but this time tap as lightly as possible ok? For now, I will not try to put some face or reason behind why some you may see the difference, there is say things that suggest if some see some difference between your regular tapping and tapping as light as possible. So any way, this possible reality just came to me this evening ok?

Harry

How do you recover for co-dependency to a fantasy addict and abuse?

UHU — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:25:31 GMT

Hello,

I have written quite a few times to this forum and it seems EFT, this forum and all the help I got helped me get a better understanding of myself and I am grateful for that.

When my almost 9 year boyfriend broke up with me about two months ago I was devastated and I kind put all the blame on me. I tried to look at what was wrong with me. I found that I could not accept love easily and that I had childhood wounds that kept me from receiving love that I had become controlling like my mom. Then I started reading books I had owned for 3 years but had fond too disturbing to read because they would trigger unexplained emotions. I learned about my childhood wounds and my ex childhood wounds. I did a lot of EFT and I was doing much better. I was starting to see a future for myself without my ex but I felt I should get the most of this break-up and understand fully what had happened between us. I bought a book about co-dependency because I intuitively felt that I was a co-dependent person. But I felt there was something else I needed to understand.

I have also had this feeling of being lied too all the time. I mean this feeling was so strong that even though I had desperately wanted to get married, I refused to marry him. I refused to have children with him even though I had begged him. Something always did not sound right and I felt I should not. At first, I felt maybe it is because I was unable to accept marriage but the truth was somewhere else.

I found last Thursday evening about 60 porn DVD in my ex music room. Some seemed violent and one was about a rich woman being raped. Great! He knew I was raped once and how degraded I felt about porn but that did not stop him. I had found pornographic pictures on his computer and few porn DVDs once in a while but nothing this major. Just before my ex broke up with me, I caught him masturbating in front of porn. I did not see the thing but I know that was what he was doing and he did not deny it.

He had some "troubles in the bedroom" with me and he blamed that too on me. He said that I was not being seductive enough. I was not. I was a drained co-dependent exhausted woman. I was trying to run a business and take care of too many things at the same time. That is one of my issues. I know he went to a prostitute once and that she helped him "restore some of his manhood" but he had never cheated on me up until then.

I thought with time, dialogue and honesty we could grow closer. I tried to be more seductive, put make up on but I did not take care of my needs well. I ended up filled with resentment and when he was about to propose I just became bitchy and he got it I did not want it. After that, things got worse.

Porn is just a small aspect of the addiction. I found out that he also was going on the internet clearly hitting on girls while he was at home avoiding me. He has bought internet connection outside the house too. He now has two mobile phone lines. He keeps buying new stuff. He is a big spender and then he says he does not have any money for us. When I ask him what he does with his money, he denies spending so much but I checked everything.

He was never with me, never my boyfriend or fiancé. This was not love. He was just abusing my trust. I believed his lies. He can be very kind and comprising. He told me he was this faithful kind man who kind of wanted to save/fix me from my childhood wounds and offer a safe shelter of love to. Boy I wanted that! I did get some of that but it seems it was another of his character play.

I feel so abused and disgusted. I was trying to work on a relationship based on lies and deception. I abused myself by doing too many things for us and now I feel drained and unable to take care of myself. I let go of my dreams of becoming an artist and I deprived myself from wealth partly because I did not have energy left for my business. Actually, trying to get my business going is what made me come to EFT. I now see him buying new shoes, computer, clothes and I cannot afford it. I hate myself even more.

I did several EFT sessions with myself and I realized I felt like an object and why not a sexual object. I felt like that because my mom called me for help or to shame my father while he was hitting her with a table cloth. I was four at the time. My father did not stop immediately when I arrived and then my mom was glad to say nasty things about my father. I was helpless. I did not matter to them. They were playing among themselves and I was a pawn. That went on for ever.

They used me to get revenge from one another. They did not tell me they were divorcing so when I returned at the age of 8 to my house emptied from my father's belongings after a summer holiday; I did not feel anything but just the pleasure of quietness. At last there would be some quietness but my feelings were hurt so deeply that I would not feel them. I felt like a pawn, an object, something you can use and abuse just like my ex did. I have felt completely trapped in that for years. EFT is my only hope. I need to change my life so that I am no longer an object a toy to be played with but a human being that respects her needs.

Please give me some advice.

Tapping for a shocking movie scene

amidala — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 06:24:07 GMT

Hello! I want to share my recent experience with EFT (just finished tapping a few minutes ago), in hope that this will be useful for someone out there and that maybe someone here can give me a few more advice. You know, sometimes we just happen to watch a movie that has a very scary scene, or is really sad, or wathever... in short, something happens in that movie so it isn't that enjoyable anymore. Today I was drinking some tea late at night and my mother was watching a movie, "The Green Mile". I wasn't even paying attention to the movie, but then I was unlucky enought to watch a shocking scene, an electric chair death that didn't go well. When it got ugly enough, I just went to the kitchen and waited, telling myself "it's just a movie..." while still being able to listen to what was happening. After a while, I decided to tap on this, because I was really really shocked, so much that as soon as I started tapping I couldn't stop the tears. I won't go into too much detail, but the process was something like this: First, I was tapping on the whole horrible scene and how I felt. Sometimes I use the standard phrase in the karate chop "Even though I'm.... I deeply and completely love and accept myself", but sometimes I just tap on what I'm thinking/feeling and add "I deeply and completely love..." I'm not an EFT professional, but it seems to work for me (please, let me know if this isn't a good aproach). So I was tapping on phrases like "this horrible death", "the way he died", etc. Then, I realized there were 2 moments that caused me a bigger reaction. A moment when someone insults him before he dies, and the death itself. So I tapped on both moments as separate. "Even though he was so scared and they were so mean...", "Even though he was scared and died that way..." After that, I noticed that I was actually analizing everything that surely happened on the character's mind and body during those two moments. So I tapped phrases like: "Even though he really felt sorry for what he did...", "Even though he was confident that God would forgive him and they told him that it was all a lie", "Even though he was so scared thinking that there was no hope for him..." and "Even though it must have been horrible to realize that he was going to die in pain..." That took a lot of tears and intense feelings, but I guess it was a very important part of the issue, this analysis. Then, I tapped for my feelings toward that character... he surely did something very bad to get the death penalty, but still I felt sorry for him, I felt so much pity. I tapped "Even though I'm so sorry for him...", "Even though I feel pity for him, even if he's a murderer..." And then, I tapped on my self-pity. Like, I noticed that I was feeling sad (sorry/pity) because I could feel sorry/pity and I felt it was a characteristic nobody really cared about. "Even though I feel sorry for myself...", "Even though I feel so much pity for myself...", "Even though I feel sorry for myself because I can feel this way towards people and nobody appreciates it..." That took a lot out of the way. Then, I did something I read in the forums, imagining myself talking to a practicioner (Gary himself, lol). So Gary was asking me to tell the audience about that movie scene. And I mentally told it to the audience, and no emotions came up for that scene! It was all very matter-of-factly! I even talked about it like it was a boring, cliché thing. Still, I tapped on another issue; I felt a litte like crying, but not because I was sad... instead, I was kindof upset because I had to watch that scene at all, because that scene existed, was created that way at all. "Even though I don't know why do they have to make such horrible scenes...", "Even though I don't get what's the point in creating this", "Even though I don't get why would they waste their imagination in stuff like this..." And that was the end of the "session". I guess I still have to tap on this issue, because now I kindof think of it as "something bad that happened to me". Not very intense, but I feel it is there. I hope someone finds this useful, and if anyone can give me another approach to this issue, or advice or new phrases... or different ways to approach ugly movie scenes while watching them, please, post them here =)!!

Difficult to feel intense emotions

Alen_A — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 20:22:30 GMT

Hi !Glad to be here as a part of eft users !

seems like that events in past don't bother me right now at all as I am awake but when i went to sleep, and as i get into REM phase (i think) i can feel deep and intense emotions for the events that happened into past ( good or bad, doesn't matter), but right now as i am awake i can't feel it with that intensity. And i'm asking here - is it possible to feel those emotions with same intensity while im conscious with some 'brain training' or whatever ?

Too sensitive to other people’s energy

Sarah Jordan — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 10:48:30 GMT

I am sensitive to other people’s energy. This can be an asset as I can tune in to where they are at, but I cannot always protect myself from strong disturbed energy around me. I have been aware for 23 years that not all I feel originates in me- it was a fantastic revelation and explained so much. I have tried many methods to overcome this over the years. Surrounding myself with white light and similar do not help – I cannot ‘see’ things. I am a scientist who has used EFT for several years, and have had many good results. I have found the only way of dealing with this issue is to work on myself and heal the hurt parts of myself that are triggered by the incoming energy. This is what I seem to have been doing full time since I retired and I still sometimes get so overwhelmed by another’s energy that I lose my objectivity and get into a desperate, helpless place. If EFT is not helping with the feeling I then realise it is not actually my energy. I suffered from the energy at my work places for many years (I worked in hospitals) and it manifested in painful tension in my body. Also, when I enter a city I can feel myself picking up the tension. Thus I live in the country. Most people say I need to take responsibility for myself and not to blame others for what I suffer. I have been trying to do this for years- its no use blaming the people around me in a hospital!) but I have not managed to solve this. I am making progress in that I have clearer times lately but I feel very lonely and want to get on with my life.

I’d be very grateful to hear from anyone that identifies with any of this.

Thank you

Sarah

Question about the mechanics of EFT

knucklebrain — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 17:24:34 GMT

This is something that I've been grappling with since I started EFT, a week ago. Well I started it a couple years ago, but figured it did not work on me. I'm one of those difficult cases, or so it seems.

My questions. Take the statement.

"Even though I ( ******* ) I deeply and profoundly accept myself.

Now are we basically trying to remove the charge from beating ourselves up emotionally over the problem? How does this get rid of the problem?

Like for me "even though I smoke, I deeply and profoundly accept myself" By saying this, aren't I reaffirming the very thing I want to be rid of? How does this go about getting rid of the problem?

Also, what if there is no emotional charge to a problem. Like "Even though my father told me I was no good, I deeply and profoundly accept myself"

If there is no emotional charge to it or emotion, then should I assume that the problem is rectified?

Thanks, Kevin

Tapping When I Can

believe — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 12:18:58 GMT

Hi All,

My days are kind of crazy, so I tap whenever I can. If I have to stop tapping on a particular issue, and I haven't gotten to zero, is it okay to go back to the issue another time? I know that's not the best way, but I do what I can :) Thanks, and blessings to you all!

Beth

eft and the subconscious

Shawn1 — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:24:23 GMT

Hi all

From what I understand, part of the reason EFT works is because the activity of tapping distracts the conscious mind and allows momentary access to the sub conscious emotions. Normally the conscious mind, also called the critical faculty, is constantly guarding any untrue statements from enter the subconscious, that is unless it is not working properly, under stress, or distracted. This protection is in place because the subconscious takes everything literally and begins immediately working on whatever is stored there, positive or negative, to bring it into your reality. These are well known facts about the relationship between the conscious and subconscious mind.

Now, the process of how and why EFT works is somewhat hazy to me. If it is indeed true that the motion of tapping opens up the subconscious to suggestibility, wouldn't it be unproductive or even harmful to state and restate your problems and bad feelings to yourself while doing the EFT sequence? Would that be equal to deeply re-imprinting your negative emotions into your subconscious mind?

I understand the theory about energy disruptions and how EFT works to harmonize those, but still, if the tapping distracts the conscious guardian mind I might be a little worried about affirming my negative thoughts and emotions while tapping.

I recently read a book (ebook) called Answer Cancer that talks about the subconscious and what is contained there...supposedly the whole of every experience you have ever had, and it is all still functioning and influencing your thoughts. I would highly recommend this book and any and everyone.

Technique to remeber first negative emotion's occurrence

Ozmosys — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:52:33 GMT

Hi there! I'm very interested in negative emotion's first occurrence! Is there a technique that will permit me to know when I felt for the first time an emotion that is bothering me in the present? Thanks in advance!

Feelings are not facts

valarie — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:27:09 GMT

I have always compartmentalized my emotions. Therefore, though I find EFT outstanding I have trouble identifying emotional issues because of this compartmentalizing technique. My motto has always been - feelings are not facts. How do I get in touch with my emotions in order to identify them? I do feel emotions I just don't know how to identify them.

My EFT Experiment

Harry Chambers — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 04:57:42 GMT

Hi All,

Some of you have of the research done of two groups of persons, one did real exercises and may be running too, and the other group did nothing but sit and imagine them doing what the first group doing, and then at some point, both groups was tested and to the researcher amazement both groups scored about the same. This caught my attention because at the time, I was wonder if thinking and wondering my doing exercises be the same as actually dong it.

So any way over a week ago this same matter came to my mind but this time I wonder if some one could EFT themself in some way per exercise, that this could equate to them doing it? I immediate felt that some program of EFT tapping should work better than one just imagining them doing exercises?

So the idea came to my mind of Yoga pose that require me to bend with both my legs tucked under me and bend back ward till my head and shoulders touch the floor, and for about 7 days now, I been EFT myself in way that in few more days, I will see how far and well that I be able to this pose?

For one, there is this part of me wonder if EFT could be used with good results in this way, I know that deep down, I prefer to 101 do things ala exercise as it suppose to be done, but some of the Yoga poses, I be glad and feel ok in getting the good benefits of Yoga by using EFT as short cut.

So? Will some of you care to join me doing this little experiment of mine?

Aloha,

Harry

Request for a Chinese Translation Manual?

nlee19 — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 00:17:19 GMT

Hi there! I am happy to have stumbled upon EFT and noticed its profound effects on me. I already shared and taught EFT with friends but i have a hard time sharing it to my family due to a semi-language barrier. As a first generation Chinese American, I don't speak Mandarin Chinese as fluently as I speak English and I don't have a lot of time spending with my family due to college.

When I saw that there are other languages besides an English EFT manual, I got excited only to be later disappointed that I did not find a Chinese translation. I read an article about how people in China have practiced one form of EFT but that does not mean that everyone in China or in other parts of the world knows and practices EFT or NeiGong (the Chinese version of EFT). Because of this, I kindly request for a Chinese Translation Manual or if there is one already to please post it up on this site so that even more people can experience EFT and improve their health. I would like to thank Gary for introducing us to EFT, the people in this forums who help others with EFT and of course, the Chinese for their discovery in acupuncture and acupressure which paved the way for EFT. Thanks and God Bless.

-Nick

Emotion : the new science?

Lrdbyron — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 17:55:54 GMT

http://www.boston.com/news/education/higher/articles/2007/04/29/hearts__minds/

This is from 2007 but it has good information.

What Fear of Height?

Harry Chambers — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 18:29:39 GMT

Hi All,

About 4 weeks ago, I changed from Dish tv to Direct tv, but here is a bit how it went, ok? The Direct tv dish is bigger than the Dish plus it needed to be aimed at a different satellite angle and height too, this made it not possible to put it where my Dish antenna was, so in advance I got the my land lord permission to put antenna on the roof.

So when guy got here and he said that we need to put it on the roof, so I went to show him how to get to it, and the only way is one has to first cross over about 3 foot tall railing and grab a rail ladder on the building, One further has to reach about 2 feet over to grab this ladder, and know this, this latter is out side the building in a way, if one was to fall, they be falling from the third floor of the my building to the ground.

When we get to the rail latter to go up, the young service man with no hesitation grabbed it and went up, I stood there knowing that years ago I did go on the roof but I had to force myself to do it. And in my mind too, I was thinking that with my not working contruction for about 6 months, this may too lead more to my fear of going up on the ladder. So I was just standing there with all those thoughts in my head and then it hit me that I did a ton of EFT work on myself for an health issue of mine. Then it was dawning to me that I just many have no fear of going up, and to my surprise, I just did not had no were near the fear that I had in the past, may be on scale of 1 from about 8 or 9 in the past.

So I climb up and go on the roof and we was up there about 5 minutes, and again he went down before me, And to go down was spooky too, but I just grab the rail and went down. Yes, so back on safe standing again, I was thinking on all this and I knew that in my A to Z of EFTing myself of all and any things that may put and set my body in way that it may best be able to heal itself. So I did cover my fear of heights. But too, there is just a few things that I may need to work on, and again, but my fear of height is over and too, there are a few things that I may come to learn when I get tested of my self, I just need the right life situation to show and proove to me that another EFT issue of mine been conqured.

Aloha,

Harry

Positive tail-enders

Ricky — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 09:08:29 GMT

I read the Palace of Possibilities and Gary's thoughts on tail-enders were fascinating. The idea is that an affirmation reinforces the tail-ender, not the spoken affirmation. That was a huge mental shift, and it explained many things to me. That means that repeating an affirmation with a tail-ender over and over makes you feel worse, not better. What a concept.

I've been practicing EFT for a few months now. And the other day something bad happened. And I stopped and said to myself, "Wow. That bad thing just happened."

And a voice echoed in the back of my head, "...but I still deeply and completely accept myself."

And the bad thing suddenly didn't feel so bad any more.

It seems that my brain had created a positive tail-ender. What an idea! That suggests that whenever bad things happen to me, they actually make me feel better, because I reinforce that tail-ender. "This bad thing happened...and I still deeply and completely accept myself. I can handle this. I'm still ok."

Anyone else notice this?

Limiting Beliefs

KathyM — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 01:06:36 GMT

I realize there is a lot of information out there on these forums, but it seems hard to find all the answers you're looking for. I am working on a big global problem at the moment: social anxiety. I have been advised to go back to specific events and tap on them, while tapping for the limiting beliefs you got from those experiences. When we tap for these limiting beliefs what wording should we be using? I have been saying "ET at age 7 I believed I was not good enough because the other kids made fun of me, I deeply and completley accept myself." In present time I still have this limiting belief (I am not good enough), but I am tapping as though the 7 year old believed they were not good enough. Should I do this or tap for my age now i.e. "ET I currently believe I am not good enough because the other kids made fun of me......"

Also, I am having a problem where I get many many limiting beliefs that can show up with one memory. So far I have been addressing each limiting belief, but I am having a very hard time actually collapsing the belief no matter how far I go back. For example, I am also working on anxiety around men. I went back to literally the earliest memory I could think of in terms of where I started to fear men. I tapped on it, in addition to the limiting belief, but I did not collapse anything. In my mind, this must have been the core memory, but I received no relief. Now I am not sure if going onto another similar memory with the same belief will help collpase the limiting belief?

Kathy

Skin problems arise when tapping -- mother connection

avokle — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 08:59:40 GMT

Hello,

One more challenge that I have.

Few weeks ago, I had started developing skin problems -- ekzema on the back of my neck, rash on chest, stomach ... itchiness all over body etc.

At that time I was working, I think, on my core issues .... "be allowed to accept goodness, be happy, and enjoy myself". These feelings are foreign, not normal, it is out of the comfort zone for me. It is connected with my childhood -- goodness, enjoyment, happiness -- were not encouraged, good. A lot was about suffering, hardships, difficult, not good enough ... as per my mothers behaviour although we lived well.

When I tapped on "being open to accept goodness", I had feelings of guilt - "I can not be happy when my mother is unhappy, sad, and is suffering." "How can I enjoy myself when my mother is miserable?"

The skin problem got really bad; had to go to doctor, there was an infection -- had to take antibiotics, use creams etc. It is as if my whole inside protested against this idea of being happy; it was like an uprising inside me.

Now the skin problem subsided. What about this issue? How can I free myself from the guilt? connection with how my mother feels? stop sabotaging myself? allow myself to accept and experience goodness and joy?

Your experienced insights are very appreciated.

Jana

Core Memories

Shanny — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 19:21:29 GMT

I have a question about core memories. I am asking people who have found theirs. Say you were working on some global issue ex. depression or social anxiety, fear of heights, etc. How did you know this was the core memory? Did you feel differently after you tapped for it? In other words, how do you know you were bang on by working on this memory? If so, do you have any recommendations on you found it? Was it easier to tap on other memories after you found the core one?

I have been tapping on what I thought was my core memory, along with the beliefs I acquired. However, I never felt any different after tapping on it. Either I didn't do it correctly, or this wasn't the right memory. Still trying to figure out how to find the core memory.

Shannon