Weight Control General Discussion

Weight control tapping topics

ilanard — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 00:57:34 GMT

Ask yourself WHY you want to shed weight/fat? What are your motivations? Some common reasons are related to self esteem, societal norms, wardrobes, feelings of well being, and health. Write down your reasons, and any associated tailenders. Then just tap, tap, tap...

I don't have a food addiction!

WVgal — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 22:29:01 GMT

Really. I don't.

I'm not saying I'm perfect by any means, of course.

I don't like sweets much. I don't have any food cravings. I probably average 1000 calories per day intake, and I exercise an hour to an hour and a half every day. Not super-exhausting, but a nice steady light workout -- walking mostly. Most of my food I grow myself or buy from other local producers. I just have very little appetite and often forget to eat at all, and often it'll be 7 PM and I realize I haven't eaten anything (or very little) all day.

My big downfall is that I work nights. Sometimes I do end up eating sweets when working nights, because I feel like I need them to stay awake and keep my energy up. Although never a huge amount -- a binge for me might be three to five pieces of candy in an evening, say. I simply can't overeat even a teensy bit or I balloon up like a whale! When I was on days I lost weight, which I promptly regained on nights. Now I work three 3-11 shifts and one 7P-7A, which is better (although I really wish I could eliminate that one night shift). I think it's a cortisol thing or something -- my metabolism is all whacked. Don't tell me to just go back to days, please, as this really would not work for me for a variety of reasons.

I'm seriously overweight. I've always struggled with my weight, but right now I'm heavier than I've ever been and I hate it. I've had my thyroid checked, but supposedly it's okay.

Okay, so I have been tapping on this for a couple of weeks, and nothing. I really don't know what else to do. Any thoughts?

Weight control for child

schicae — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 01:46:16 GMT

Hi everyone,

I was wondering what advice some of you had for doing EFT to reduce appetite in a 7 year old child. It's one of those issues that I hate to talk about with my daughter (because I don't want her to become too overfocused about her eating habits at this age).

Keep in mind, since she doesn't know what the word "deprivation" means, its tough to use the verbage "even though I may feel deprived by not eating as much".

Any suggestions?

Thanks.
Ed

I've been challenged

ilanard — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 13:56:04 GMT

I have felt challenged since returning home from vacation, Sept. 7. Almost every evening since then I've had an activity which took me back out of the house, and this week, it's been not one but two such activities every night. They were all good reasons, birthday celebrations, doctor's visits, regular monthly club meetings, religious holidays, High School annual start up events. Just too much of a good thing for my tastes. I began to feel resentful rather than blessed by the concentration of activity. It took it's tole on my vibration, and thus what I was attracting, and thus my weight reduction plan (I turned to food to comfort myself). I didn't give up on exercise, tapping, or making better food choices, I just didn't find a way to stay as focused on them as I would have liked. So sometimes I ate more of a calorie dense food than was ideal, sometimes I didn't fit exercise or fidigeting or tapping in when I could have (but sometimes I did). Even though all this is true, I forgive myself, and still love and accept myself just the way I am. The net result was my weight stayed the same this week. Nothing gained, nothing lost. Okay. My overly busy schedule has come to it's end, I'm refocused on my blessings, and approaching everything in my life from a position of love. I've already seen dramatic results in what I'm attracting (e.g. this morning, my son, who never speaks to me when I drop him off at school, wished me a good day, when I wished him one) and thus I'm eager to see what this next week brings.

Still stuck on one more bad habit. Advice?

Tabris — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 18:37:48 GMT

I've been successfully using EFT to clean out my old attitudes about food. I'm eating healthy now and I feel really happy that I got my old habits under control. But I'm still having trouble with one thing. Around 2:30 to 4:30 in the afternoon I will get a very strong craving for sweets. Chocolate, always chocolate, and especially chocolate cookies. The craving is SO strong it's like a monster. I've tapped and tapped on the craving but it still ends up the same with me raiding the cupboard and absolutely stuffing myself. I go on total auto pilot and at the end I feel like I'm waking up out of a sleep and I can't believe what I just did.

I hate it because all the calories I burn feels like it's just a waste because I make up for it by binge eating cookies.

Strangely enough this only happens weekdays.

Any advice or tips or... anything? I'm stumped. :(

Portion control

ilanard — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 02:27:54 GMT

Increases in portion size have occurred insidiously over the years in Western societies causing our environment and visual cues to change significantly. We can eat much more than we think. We have lost touch with how much we are actually eating. In some societies, we no longer have an accurate perception of how much food we require to achieve true satiety and maintain a healthy body weight.

So what to do about this? Here are some ideas:

1. Use EFT to help get mindful about serving size. Just because it's seen as a standard portion doesn't mean that it's the correct amount for you. Here's where satiety cues need to be strengthened, since visual cues preempt internal hunger-satiety cues. Use EFT to help yourself 'listen' to your satiety cues.

2. Get educated about portion size in restaurants-especially with regard to how the food environment has changed over the years in some parts of the world, and how difficult it is to visually estimate appropriate sizes in environments where larger portions are expected and considered normal. Use EFT to help with your focus and your resolve.

3. Consider portion control at home:
-reduce plate size (if possible)
-reduce size of serving spoon
-reduce size of eating utensil (if possible)
-keep additional food out of sight
-avoid serving from a super sized package. If it is the most economical to purchase, divide into smaller servings once at home

Script for Body Image

Mirabai — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 20:19:03 GMT

Hi All,

I thought I'd pass along a script I put together for Body Image. I am just now working with it and will pass it on to a small group I have tonight. Check it out and see how it feels/works for you. Your comments are welcome.

Blessings,

Mirabai

(Tapping Karate Chop Point or Rubbing Sore Spot)

Even though I hate my body, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though I just can't seem to accept my body, I deeply and completely accept and love who I am and all my feelings.

Even though it's difficult to even look at myself and the fat, flabby parts of my body, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Inner Eye: I hate my body

Side of Eye: I just can't accept my body

Under Eye: these fat/flabby (arms, stomach) parts

Under nose: I hate them

Chin: I can't accept my body as it is

Collar bone: I don't know if I ever will

Under arm: I hate my body

Top of head: This fat/flabby body

(karate chop or sore spot)

Even though I find it difficult to forgive myself for all I've done over the years to myself and my body, I choose now to open to the possibility that with EFT I can begin to truly forgive and release myself.

Even though it feels too late to begin anew again, I choose to be surprised by how much enthusiasm and joy I generate and feel as I continue my journey of tapping and releasing.

Even though I may never fully accept my body, I choose to be fully delighted by it's acceptance of me....I choose now to be open to loving my body!

Inner Eye: difficult to forgive myself

Side of eye: all I've done over the years to myself and my body

Under Eye: I choose to be surprised by my new enthusiasm and joy

Under nose: I may never accept this body

Chin: I don't know if I can

Collar bone: I choose now to be open to loving my body

Under arm: to truly forgive and release myself

Tope of Head: I choose to be open to release myself from all this emotional turmoil.

(Karate Chop or Sore Spot)

Even though I really don't know if I can do this, I choose to be open to the possibility that I can experience genuine Love, kindness and compassion towards my body and I am opening now to a new way of being.

Even though loving my body seems impossible and extremely hard to do, I choose to have compassion for myself as I learn to take steps to love and accept my body.

Even though I am ashamed at what I really go through with this body, I choose now to forgive all my errors and release myself from the judgements I've so harshly imposed for so long, I am beginning to be willing to free myself now....

Inner Eye: I choose Love and Compassion

Side of Eye: I am opening now to a new way of being

Under Eye: I choose to have compassion with myself as I learn to take new steps

Under Nose: I choose to release myself from all my harsh judgments

Chin: I am beginning to be willing to free myself now

Collar Bone: I now open to a higher vibration of love and acceptance, and my body easily and effortlessly responds in kind

Under Arm: I open myself to the experience of love and forgiveness deep within and share that freely and easily with my body.

Top of Head: I choose emotional freedom....I choose freedom.....I choose Joy....I choose Love~

Temporal (around the ear) tapping

kai — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 07:55:03 GMT

Hi guys, been doing some reading around "temporal tapping" - Gary mentioned he used thisin his own approach to losing weight. I didn't much to read on it; granted it's a simple enough process... tap positives in on the right and negatives on the left some say. But I am confused about the sides... doesn't the left speak to the rightbrain hemisphere and vice versa?

I could't find anything on this.. anyone have any insights for me?

Much love from a glorious winter morning in Cape Town, South Africa : ]

Kai

Finding the emotional reasons for staying overweight

Lyn — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 05:23:08 GMT

Is there a specific way to go about finding if you have emotional reasons for hanging on to extra weight, and what they are? I wonder if I stay overweight so I have something to blame my faliures on. "If only I were thin then things would be different...". and/or an excuse to avoid certain activities. "Oh, I'd love to go to the beach with you guys, but I as fat as I am, I can't wear a swim suit..." And might there be diffrent emotional reasons for storing fat in certain places as opposed to others? Like having relatively thin thighs and a fat stomach, or the other way around?

Feeling stuck on weight issue

chim129 — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 23:05:07 GMT

I've been very reluctant to tap on my weight issues, but have gotten around to it in the past few days because I discovered, to my horror, that I was struggling to fit into my largest pair of jeans. I know I've collapsed some significant issues, but I still feel like there is more to go and that I can't see what else is there to tap on.

Here's what I've tapped on so far:

As per JoAnn's recommendation, my relationship with food - I tapped on feelings of entitlement, deprivation, feeling lonely and empty without it. This worked, and I feel like my relationship with food has definitely shifted.
Feeling unable to do it, feeling like I'm just destined to get fatter and fatter rather than the other way around. This perception of myself has also shifted.
Not liking my body, etc. etc. Also shifted.

I did a lot of work last night, and I feel like I've exhausted all my avenues, but here I am craving something sugary first thing in the morning. Clearly there is something I haven't addressed, but I honestly don't know how to get to it. Can someone please give me some ideas?

I feel like I am definitely eating a lot less these days, and I'm craving sugar much less than I used to - however, paradoxically, I'm about 7 kilos heavier than I used to be.

I look forward to any suggestions and ideas people may have. Thanks :-)

breast feeding and weight issues?

Alice Grange — Wed, 20 May 2009 17:44:11 GMT

Hi,

I thought I read a post on the relationship between NOT being breast fed and cravings but when I try to find it I'm unsucessful. If anyone has any info on this I would appreciate it.

Alice

Weigth Loss- Sabotage-fear

MoNaHa — Mon, 18 May 2009 21:16:59 GMT

Hello AllI have been studying- practicing EFT for over 3 months now. I bought all of Gary’s DVD, read the manual and watched many videos. I have made a list of all my hard memories and rated them 0-10. I have worked a lot on my 10 issues. I do EFT everyday and still feel that I am the same. I have a high sabotaging behavior. I start my day really well, thinking positive, eating healthy, and happy, but at around 3pm all this magic disappears, I start getting anxious, I feel my heart has a big empty hole that hurts and that needs to be calm down, I kinda loose control and just want to eat anything ….. Chocolates are my favorites. I can easily eat 2000 calories of chocolates in 5 minutes. I feel a soothing relieve when I eat them……if i dont have chocolates... i will eat anything.. sometimes even things i dont like.....Yes I have tapped in all this aspects…. In sabotaging, in chocolate craving.. in overeating.. in my heart emptiness… and yes I keep doing it over and over…. I have also tapped on my past experiences; I was actually born overweight and found out years later that my dad wanted a boy not a girl. As a result I am 25 years old now and haven’t had my first period (i guess in my subconscious i dont want to be a girl) plus I have always been overweight. I feel all this are issues to solve with my dad and so I have tapped on these experiences.I would appreciate some feedback or any kind of thoughts that you have. I feel I am powerless with food, I can’t control myself. I lost my mom when I was 18, I lost my dad when I was 22, I fear life sometimes and yes.. I have tapped on all these issues too. Thanks in advance for your helpI look forward in hearing back from you

How to Create a skinny waist with EFT

oneluv78 — Thu, 07 May 2009 13:18:10 GMT

i am having amazing results eliminating my overeating with EFT (I am literally melting before my eyes!!!) and I want to know how I would then start to 'craft' different areas of my body - like creat/mold slender arms and a slender waist.

i can't wait for your solution!

this EFT is amazing.

Repressed Memories

erathsam — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 04:09:18 GMT

Hello All,

I am new to EFT. I purchased the DVD’s in February and have been successful in many areas. I have been able to get my depression under control after 23 years of feeling I would have to live with it my entire life. There is more to do, but I have made more progress in two months than in the past two years I have sought help.

After I had finished watching one of Gary’s videos, I felt a brief surge of emotion and found myself crying “Leave me alone.” This has happened to me 3 times now, once before in the car and once while I was doing laundry. All shortly after I was watching EFT video. I have no clue where this is coming from. In general, I feel alone and have few friends. I am obese so that I cannot have romantic relationships.

Problem I have is that I have no memories as to why I would be feeling this way. We moved around a lot as a child and always lost friends. But this is deeper than that. I am convinced my reactions are repressed memories triggered by the tapping I have done. So, I'm using this set up phrase: Even though I don't remember why I want to be left alone I deeply and completely accept myself. Does anyone have advice on what else I can tap on? Thanks.

Terry

Controling Colosterol Level.

arum — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 09:51:44 GMT

OK guys, this is my experience, I hope you get similar results. My cholesterol level was 333 last year, and now it's 248. That puts a BIG smile on MY face! If I got it down that much lower, it can go down yet lower. I don't want to go on medication My diet was part of the process, but my stress level because of eft has improved 100%. I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO happy!!! :) Arum

EFT & Exercise

RebeccaJ — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 14:28:49 GMT

When I eat well, I seem to sabotage myself by not exercising. When I'm exercising, I sabotage myself by not eating well. I find myself going through periods where I absolutely LOVE exercising and when I absolutely HATE it. It seems like the minute I realize I'm losing weight and feeling better, I ruin it for myself. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks:)

12 step weight loss program conflicting with EFT?

bootrek — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 17:00:21 GMT

I have been tapping with a woman who is in a 12-step program for overeating. She has made excellent progress in the past several years and feels good about life. However, she has an issue, not about overeating, but about compulsively getting up and eating breakfast at 2 AM, going back to bed, and getting up at 5:30 AM for work and not eating again until lunch.

It is making her life "unmanageable" because she interrupts her sleep every night. We tapped on several aspects, and she felt better, like she could overcome this behavior, but for the past few nights she has continued to eat in the middle of the night. We only had one tapping session, and when I checked back with her, I told her to tap on it every day. Tap on it before going to bed, including choice statements about sleeping through the whole night, waking up and eating breakfast at the right time (5:30 or 6:00), and honoring her body for continuing to eat healthy foods in healthy amounts.

I also recommended tapping as soon as she woke up at 2 AM, tapping again when she got up at 5:30 AM, and throughout the day whenever she thought of the issue. She started that yesterday.

It was interesting that when she checked in with her body during the initial tapping session, she felt it in her chest, and described it as "a dark cloud over my peace." The voice in her chest was saying, "Just do it. You know you're going to do it anyway."

It seems like a piece of her is still trying to sabotage the hard work she has done to overcome her negative eating habits over the past several years. Something that just occurred to me is that one of the 12-step phrases may be contributing to this. "I am powerless over my addiction."

If that is true, then she will have to constantly battle the urges, constantly struggle to "do the right thing" and rely on someone else so often as she submits an eating plan and calls someone when she feels like she is slipping. With EFT, she could remove the disruption in her body's energy system that caused the behavior. She could become self-reliant and her behaviors could become naturally healthy if she gave up the belief that she was powerless over this addiction.

What are your thoughts on the psychological reversal of the 12-step phrase "I am powerless over my addiction"?

I don't want to undermine the program that has helped her get her life back (for the most part), but I also think part of the program may be setting her back. Perhaps exploring that phrase during tapping could help and give her some insights on it. Sometimes I like to mix opposite statements when I tap. We could try "I am powerless over this addiction/compulsion/disease", "I am not powerless over this or anything", "I don't have any control", "I am taking control", and so on.

I am interested in hearing your thoughts and experiences on this paradox and how to gently address it.

Sonny

new

Anonymous — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 15:53:48 GMT

Hi all my name is claire,

I am totally new, only heard of EFT last night because a friend recomended this web site.

What i have read so far seems to be very interesting.

with weight loss there seems to be a need to find out why we over eat. And to be honest i dont have a reason, I dont eat because of emotional issues or such like.

In my opinion i am over weight because i eat too much and dont exercise regulaly. I make bad food choices because unhealthy food is quicker and easier to prepare in the busy lifestyle i lead. My will power is non existant.

I want to loose weight because i want to set a good example to my children, i am fed up with being constantly tired, i want to fit into the clothes hanging up in my wardrobe, and i want to feel and look sexy for my husband.

Do you think EFT can work for me??

Claire

Blending Switchwords with EFT

katmiller — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 03:46:50 GMT

Blending Switchwords with EFT
by Kat Miller

What are Switchwords? Switchwords are words that flip
specific "switches" in the subconscious mind using the vibration
of very poignant words. The more the words are repeated, the
more they affect your energy. The more they affect your energy,
the more you draw to you the things those words represent.

One example of a Switchword is COUNT. The Switchword
COUNT is “to make money.” So, why is COUNT the
Switchword for making money? Because COUNT is a
condition that happens every time you come in contact
with money. When you buy something, you count money
to give the cashier. When you receive change back, it is
counted for you. When you see a pile of money on the
counter, you count it. When you check to see how
much money you have on you, you count it.

I have found tapping through EFT using Switchphrases to be
very useful and powerful.

To tap Switchwords and Switchphrases through EFT:

1.
Determine a Switchword or Switchphrase that encompasses your goal for EFT.
Perhaps you wish to decrease the size of your abdomen.
The Switchword TINY is to decrease size.

2.
Tap the Switchword or Switchphrase through EFT. You can use it as
both the setup phrase and reminder phrase.

3.
Or if you prefer you can make a longer Switchphrase to use for the
setup, and tap individual Switchwords from the phrase as reminders
on the EFT points.

For example, try daily tapping “TINY” through EFT with your attention
on your abdomen for a while and see what happens. You could
even tap “TINY-tummy” (or whatever you call your abdomen), if you
prefer.

There are several Switchwords that may be useful for weight loss.
Pick and choose the ones that seem to resonate with you:

ADJUST (create balance)
BE (be at peace and in good health; be unaffected by ridicule)
BOW (dispel arrogance)(a body part taking up more space than it should is arrogant, no?)
CURVE (create beauty)
CUT (for moderation if tempted to excess)
DO (eliminate procrastination)
DONE (keep a resolution)
FIFTY THREE (take responsibility)
GO (end laziness; begin; progress)
HOLE (be attractive, appealing)
OFF (quit an unwanted habit)
PRAISE (be beautiful; stop fault finding)
SAVE (stop drinking alcohol and other unwanted habits)
TINY (reduce size)

If there are other Switchwords that seem to fit what you need, use them.
There are no fast, hard rules with Switchwords.

A few Switchphrases that some have found helpful for weight loss include:
--------------------------
CURVE-PRAISE-HOLE-CHARM
--
This Switchphase means:

CURVE – Create beauty,
PRAISE – be beautiful,
HOLE – be attractive and
CHARM – manifest your heart’s desires.
-------------------------
ELATE-GIGGLE-TINY-LIGHT
--
This Switchphrase means:

ELATE – Turn setbacks into uplifts
GIGGLE – enjoy the task at hand,
TINY – decrease size and
LIGHT – lighten your load (lose weight)
----------------------------
PRAISE-TINY
--
This Switchphrase means:

PRAISE – Be beautiful and
TINY – decrease size.
----------------------------
DIVINE-LIGHT-CURVE-my body-CUT-LIMIT-GUARD-MAGNANIMITY-FORGIVE-LIGHT-NOW--
--
This Switchphrase means:

DIVINE-LIGHT – Brightly focus positivity,
CURVE – create beauty with
my body – my body,
CUT – eat in moderation,
LIMIT – regain control,
GUARD – protect yourself,
MAGNANIMITY – end pettiness,
FORGIVE – eliminate remorse and
LIGHT – lighten your load
NOW – now.
-------------------------
A few other handy Switchphrases that seem to carry great power are:

CRYSTAL-HORSE – for increasing self-confidence and making one feel
good about oneself

CANCEL-CLEAR-CONCEDE-CONFESS – to help stop arguments and
fights and clear the air

TOGETHER-FIGHT – great for team sports

DIVINE-BE-ALONE-NOW-DONE – a great phrase to help in healing

DIVINE-my swollen leg-BE-ALONE NOW-DONE – a targeted healing phrase

GIGGLE-LISTEN-SCHEME-FIND-WITH-COUNT – for enhancing ad-writing skills

Try it. Make up your own Switchphrases. Mix and match.
Blend Switchwords with EFT and see what comes of it.

You will find a number of articles regarding Switchwords at:
http://www.aboutsw.ehdef.com

Overweight 14 Year Old Teenage Girl

Anonymous — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 01:06:11 GMT

My granddaughter is overweight. Several issues have contributed to this problem. She has been chubby lifelong. In the past year, my father, (her great grandfather died, my daughter's husband, her uncle, has metastatic colon cancer and her father, my son, has major depressive disorder and will not go back to the doctor and uses alcohol to self - medicate. I am bringing her to a gym daily. She does not want to talk to a counselor. I am bringing her to an accupuncturist for a 6 week program on nutrition, detox, supplements, carbs and exercising which should start this coming week. Any other suggestions would be very gratefully received. Thank you. Rose

Thank you for your suggestions and encouragement.

Sharron Fieber — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 14:15:16 GMT

I posted early in January - How to effectively use EFT and received several helpful and caring posts. Shortly after my posting, my Dad passed away and I have not gotten back to reading and responding to those who responded to my questions. Thank you for your generosity and willingness to step in and lend your insights and experiences to a total stranger! I am constantly reminded that people are good and I am grateful for your help.

I'm trying to address the weight issue, grieving the loss of my Daddy, adjust to the changes in our living situation as it is just Mom and me now, (with much help from my sister) and move ahead with my "work from home" ideas. A couple of things have changed - I've been listening to Rick Jarow's The Ultimate Anti-Career Guide and I'm really inspired to move ahead with changing career direction in a major way. I'm also reading Career Renegade by Jonathan Fields and this too is hugely helpful in my quest to do what I love. So there is quite a mix of emotions and while much of it involves adjustments born of saddness, there is much love and positive change in the mix too.

However, I'm still fat! :-)))) What I still seem to stumble on is using EFT! I know it's effective, I know it's something I can do for myself and I'm NOT! How do I motivate myself to use a proven tool?

Can EFT help with weight gain?

Magnatolia — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 13:01:19 GMT

Hi all,

I know weight gain isn't normally associated with emotional issues, however I was wondering if tapping and affirmations can be used to gain weight or to decrease the metabolism?

Thanks
Maggz

How to effectively use EFT

Sharron Fieber — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 18:16:36 GMT

I've been reading everyone's posts and have found some insights and useful information. I seem to be ballooning up in weight in the last year. Much stress and discontent with my living situation and my career (or lack thereof!). I find I eat out of frustration, boredom and fear for my future. Because I am the primary caregiver for my elderly parents, leaving is not an option. I should add that I am in this situation by choice and would not trade the gift of this time with my parents for anything. BUT - it has it's stresses and conflicts and I seem to be eating my way through them. The other part of this issue is the lack of stimulating work opportunities in this small resort town I live in. I have several good ideas for "work at home" solutions, but I can't seem to move forward on anything. (I sometimes wonder if I have AADD.) I'm not sure how to apply EFT to my situation. I'm a little confused about when to state the problem and when to counter with a positive. Any suggestions would be welcome!

grnwtch

3 powerful statements for Weight Loss

dianamoore — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 22:58:01 GMT

Hi there everyone...

It is great to see we have a forum for EFT as it a great way to share and support fellow EFT'ers.

I have been using EFT for several years. One area I have been stuck in for over 20 years is Weight Loss. I tried every diet, every EFT sentence I could think of, and then finally it dawned on me. Weight Issues are all about lack of self control. So I tried the following statements and they worked! Weight loss has never been so easy. And the great thing about using the is that you will never put the weight back on, especially if you do a check now and then of the "Intensity" and if it shifts from a zero then just do them again.

The magic three for me and I hope to hear from you that they also work for you are:

Even though I have NO CONTROL over how much I eat

Even though I have NO CONTROL over what I eat

Even though I have NO CONTROL over when I eat

It is as simple as that. Obviously if you have issues with comfort eating etc..you may want to add those in too. But even though I used to comfort eat, I found just those three affirmations worked a treat. I am at my goal weight and have been for over 6 months now.

I would love to hear how these statements work for you.

All the best

Diana Moore (New Zealand)

http://www.totalcontrolbook.com

How to get a sabatoger started?

Anonymous — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 05:18:34 GMT

First, thanks so much to everyone for sharing and/or contributing their suggestions and experience on this board and on your websites. I spent the whole night last night searching for and soaking up and printing out as much as I could about EFT, and am certain that it is the "magic bullet" to help me get out of my own way and finally a) achieve weight loss and b) succeed with my newly-launched business.

See, I know I am in my own way; I am the Self Sabatoge Queen. And lately it has felt like the closer I get to actually finding the tools to clear out the junk that's blocking my energy and/or start truly experiencing success/abundance I get, the more desperately I binge and avoid taking the steps forward with my business that would practically guarantee me the success I am seeking.

Quite honestly, I think my fear of finding the solution is actually more a fear of finally, after 17 years of being treated for depression, bringing to the surface what the core issues truly are. Fear of what it will be; fear of it being scary; fear of it making me feel rage; fear of it making me not perfect ... (check, check, fear of pretty much everything: check) So we've got compulsive overeating due to any NUMBER of the reasons on the checklist, we've got a fear of success and self sabatoge, we've got some sort of anxiety about fixing the problem, we've got definite fear of what might float to the surface, we've got perfectionism happening -- it is truly a host of issues that will keep me tapping for years!

As you can see, I'm introspective and willing to learn. And, I believe this is the solution I have been waiting to find. I dilligently have gone through the various suggestions/ tapping statements, highlighted those that resonated with me -- which, by the way, is an excellent exercise in trying to be your own therapist and go a little deeper into some of the cuases/motivations behind your issues -- and even found videos on YouTube (search for Tapping EFT), specifically one that provides a "tap along" for people who are overwhelmed by the number of issues they need to tap about. I bookmarked it and am thrilled to watch it/ go through it as my first step. And I've studied the diagrams and processes and even organized my plan of tapping priorities onto notecards. I'm going to tap through my fear and sabatoge issues first.

But therein lies the great irony: ask the Self Sabatoge Queen if she's started tapping away yet! Did I do it last night during my hours and hours of research and discovery? No, I planned to do it today once I got all of my notecards organized. Did I do it this morning? No, I was too busy. All day in my head I have been practicing my tapping statements: visualizing myself doing it, memorizing the process, getting ready for tonight when I was definitely going to sit in a quiet place and get started. And believe it or not, feeling just slightly more in control than yesterday as a result. But, I mean, how hilarious is this? I can visualize myself doing it, I can see it working, I am saying it over and over all day long in my head, and I believe that this is going to really help me on so many levels. Yet here I am, writing to all of YOU about the irony of trying to tap past sabatoge when, as a sabatoger, you have no intention of letting the tapping begin, instead of just DOING it myself!

(Interestingly I did notice that today I was far more conscious of my food choices and/or ate less: but I was conscious that I was making the choice, and my conscious battled me to override my subconscious, and tonight I had a huge bowl of ice cream in anticipation of how I would move forward)

I find it hard to believe it means I'm not ready to make the change ... With all of the preparation and anticipation that I have put into preparing to do this? By the way, I have SO voraciously adopted the technique and ways to apply it that I have literally been practicing, in my head, tapping on "even though I don't want to do this ...." as my way to get started. I'm actually rather pleased with myself for coming up with thatone: there's something kind of "do-able" about that one to me, even more so than to say "even though I am avoiding doing this..."

ALL I NEED IS TO START. Yet, I cannot. I mean, I think after I finish this I will ... I hope so. Does anyone have any tips or thoughts on how to get a sabatoger started?