EFT for Women - General Discussion

I think I have hit a break-through

comfort29 — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 18:11:55 GMT

I found EFT over a year ago, and I got curious about it. Last summer I met someone local that did EFT so she showed me more then what I could find in the manual...which was, what it really looked like in person. I have been working my lists/writing on my walls for weight issues and financial issues...and though I know I am destine for great things...nothing was changing. I have been scouring the internet, reading the weekly newsletters from Gary, reading through these forums looking for what I could be doing wrong. I have done set up statements I have created, reworded those statements time and again, I have done them as others have created them...I have printed out and done Carol Looks' newsletters one by one...and nothing. Just recently I found the glory of Youtube.com and have been watching some of the different videos people post on there. I found one today that I started tapping with...and I was doing it along with them and they were saying "let it go....let it go....you are safe" THAT was the key and instantaeous emotional release. Of all the searching I have done..I have never run across the reason being I didn't feel safe....and yet it had me crying (at work no less...but why I was on youtube while at work is another thing all together). To me I felt "safe" in my own cocoon of self denial and inaction., but yet the extra weight will cause health problems...the ignoring the finacial problems won't make them go away...but make them worse...so letting myself know it is safe to come out of that cocoon and address these issues...was like a huge burden release. I have addressed these issues a hundred times with the "fear of change" "fear of action"...and yet it never felt complete.

Has anyone every had that sort of ephipany and then had things move along after?

POOR BODY IMAGE

AJD — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 20:39:39 GMT

Dear EFT forum

I wonder are there any testimonials people have heard that EFT can give you a body image , whereby you really can view yourself in the nude and at least not feel ashamed of your body, or embarrassed? Even when I was in my teens and very slim, and trim, I hated being naked infront of my then boyfriend..now aged 50, and not having had a close physical relationship for a very long time, the thought of the rejection that could occur because of my body not being firm and youthful, really really saddens me, and annoys me and just makes me think ...why do you feel you have to be young and beautiful... I know that men find the visual side very important --so that really puts additional pressure on me..I cannot imagine I will ever be able to have a relationship..just because of this problem ..let alone any other factors!

Jane

Hair: excessive facial and texture questions

kiwi — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 18:22:57 GMT

Hi Everyone,

I'm new to the forum and somewhat new to EFT but excited about it.

I have two questions:

1. Excessive facial hair: would anyone mind sharing some phrases that have helped them with this issue? I realize there can be numerous reasons for this and I'm trying my best to find both the emotional and potentially underlying issues but it is getting discouraging and exhausting. I was even thinking of spending $800 on a home laser kit since I've spent over $2000 already on going to "laser centers" which only made the situation worse. Since $800 is a big amount for me right now (and pretty much all of my meger savings) I instead opted to dedicate 800 mins (if it needed it) of EFT work instead to turning this situation around. So far it's been hard since the daily reality of having so much facial hair and the ingrown hairs/scars resulting from it is very emotionally draining. Even though I'm using the Choices technique I inevitably end up in tears over it all. So any succesful scripts to try out would be very helpful.

2. Hair texture: This may seem like an odd question but can EFT alter one's genetics to the point of changing things like hair texture? I have to use harsh chemicals to deal with the very curly nature of my hair (which I think is beautiful just very difficult to manage) and I would love to have a truly natural and holistic option. I'm not looking to have bone-straight hair but wavy hair vs. tightly curled hair would be wonderful. Is this even possible?

Thank you for your time and input!

Cheers!

Kiwi

EFT for pregnancy related nausea and hyper sensitivity to smells

Evelyn — Sat, 27 Oct 2007 21:07:04 GMT

Hi - I'm relatively new to EFT but have had some great results working on myself and some pretty good results doing surrogate EFT for my daughter. I have a good friend who is pregnant and dealing with severe nausea and hypersensitivity to odors. I've offered to try and help her with this using EFT and she is excited to try. I haven't worked directly with another person before and I'm a bit nervous that I'll "do it wrong" (I'll tap on that before I work with her). I'd be grateful for any set-up phrase suggestions to get me started. I think the hypersensitivity is the first issue she would like to address as it's preventing her from working with her clients (she's a massage therapist) as she is extremely bothered by even normal body odors. All food smells are bothering her, as well - even something as inocuous as a salad, and she's having a hard time eating. For an issue like this, can one bundle the "bad smells" together, or must we deal with each separate odor, which would take forever? I know it's important to be specific, but how specific is it necessary to be?

I also realize there are probably some significant underlying emotional issues which may be contributing to the smell sensitivity as well as the nausea. She carries a lot of sadness and painful memories from her childhood and has a tremendous need to take care of everyone around her and always be in control. Her marriage is also not very happy and she gets little support from her husband. I am really hoping that if we can get the smell sensitivity and nausea under control a bit, she'll be willing to work with an EFT practitioner to help her through the significant issues, as I don't have the skill for that.

We plan to get started on this tomorrow (Sunday, 10/28). Any suggestions would really be appreciated! Thanks!

Also - I am aware of the importance of NOT tapping on the ankle point. If there are any other precautions that people are aware of for pregnancy tapping, I'd be grateful to hear them.

Evelyn

Help, is EFT ok with pregnancy

Hysterp — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 21:29:10 GMT

I wish to know it it would be safe for me to do EFT with my daughter who is expecting her first baby and she is suffering from Hyperemesis. (1 in 300 pregnant women experience this, Hyperemesis which means "excessive vomiting of pregnant women. It is a severe form of morning sickness with unrelenting, excessive pregnancy-related nausea and/or vomiting that prevents adequate intake of food and fluids by definition is the loss of at least 5% of the total body weight).

I thought I had read that EFT was not a good idea with pregnancy, but I have read some post that would differ. I have had EFT consultations and used EFT on myself and it has helped a great deal. But I need to be sure I would not be doing more harm than good.

Best regards

Hysterp

i can't sleep!

marioenchen — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 21:50:23 GMT

hello!

my name is marion and i am a 3 week old newbie to eft. i have spend a lot of hours on the net so far, to get an idea of what i have to do in order to learn and help others to live an emotional life of freedom.

my biggest problem is, that i can't sleep. i am going through menopause, or perimenopause and i know that my hormones are going a little crazy.

i am not sleeping since about 2 years now and i have tried every natural and chemical remedy under the sun, yoga, cardio, relaxing, late evening cardio, no caffeine, no reading at night, no tv, bamboo sheets, sleeping apart from my husband. the sleeping pill ambience works fine, but i can't take it, because i don't want to be addicted to it. it is a dangerous medication and for long term sleep it is not an option for me.

i fall asleep ok most of the time. sometimes not. i wake up most nights between 3-5am. i go to bed between 10:30 and 11:30pm. i pray before i got to sleep and right now i read a book on eft. emotional freedom. i found some instructional videos on insomnia on you tube and i have done them. they work somewhat, but i still don't sleep more than 5-51/2 hours every night. even though this is an improvement from 2-3 hours before, without the eft, it is not enough. my body is tired during the day and i get melancholy and listless, plus i have a hard time coping with my 2 teenager kids. the ambien had always put me back to sleep, but the guilt of taking ambien plus the concern for long term side effects from this medication, made pray for something else and God showed me eft, by a godly coincidence.

i have a wonderful husband, a good life and a lot of trauma in my past. i don't know how to address my individual problem with sleep!

if you have any input for me, or somewhere for me to look, to get me in the right direction, i would be so grateful!

blessings

marion

Client with multiple problems

transformlife — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 02:58:26 GMT

Hello, I am new here. Until recently, I have used EFT & energy medicine to treat clients with a few issues and the success was fast. Now I have a client with multiple issues and I would like to us the seasoned practitioners how do they decide which they would treat first? Phobias, yeast infection (candida), etc. I know it will be what bothers the client most? Then, would you try doing more than one condition at a time. Since I've been such a multi-tasker as a health professional, that is what I had been doing with my previous client - trying to deal with 2 issues in one hour appointment, especially since one issue becomes solved by half an hour! Thanking you in advance!

pregnancy and EFT

aya — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 19:22:57 GMT

hello,

I just wanted to know if there is a problem doing EFT while being pregnent?

Is it safe?

thank you

aya

EFT for infertility

peace — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 15:14:57 GMT

I have practiced EFT on headache,shoulder pain and all other minor things and it worked succesfully for me.

Somehow it seems to be not working for infertility. I was pregnant once naturally and lost pregnancy after 16 weeks, Since then I tried all medication, IVF, etc everything failed leaving side effects. I want to conceive naturally But I want it to happen yesterday, I mean ASAP. I am 36 and I feel I am too old to be preganant as all my friends have much bigger kids.

Please help me with phrases.

Ovarian Cysts & Uterine Fibroid

LJN — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 15:16:07 GMT

Hi there,

I'm wondering what set-up phrases we'd use to get rid of uterine fibroids and ovarian cysts. Louise Hay says these are a result of holding onto past hurts. How would we create set up and release phrases?

Thanks!

LJN

Wrinkles post emotional trauma

Rainbow17 — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 21:51:51 GMT

Hi everyone! :) I'm a new member here! I hope this is the right section of the forum to post my problem...

Recently a very bad thing happened, but first of all I think I have to explain the situation , so I hope someone will be able to help me.

I'm 17 ears old and I've Always had an horrible relationship with my body due to my overweight. But it's not the problem. I've never accepted the way I was looking, but the funny thing is that I used to not realize that. So I started hating me, punishing me, with all the voices in my head saying "You don't deserve anything", "You're such a loser.".

So, I made the mistake to start tapping on body parts I wanted to change,like skin problems, WITHOUT working on these stuff before.

Bad, bad mistake.

So things got soo crazy and my tapping has been so painful with all these blockages and sabotages that I started crying and desperating soooooo much that my skin has been so hurt and traumatized due to all the face contractions. Result? Creases and wrinkles all over. So now I feel so hopeless, even tough people around me don't seem to notice that. I have some hope? Do I have to work on acceptance first?

Many thanks in advance! ^___^

Giulia

depression, social anxiety,

Naomi — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 23:20:48 GMT

I have tried EFT with depression and after 6 rounds I still at am a 9 or 10. What phrases would help me feel better? In the mornings, to get out of bed. Before I go out the door, I spend a good hour tapping and the effect doesn't subside. I then have to force myself to step out the door,a nd it emotionally hurts. I don't want to live a life of fearing everything. I'm scared to go to university to meet the people that know me a little. I don't want then to judge me. I don't have problems with strangers. Just have a hard social anxiety with people I have already met. I have a hard time having conversations, and all day I think abou tthis. I sleep, and wake up, not wanting to wake up. I look forward for night time so I can sleep again. But I realized I have trouble sleeping deeply now, now that this issue is getting worse. Any suggestions? Please. Thank you

Removing a limiting belief

tewkewl6 — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 15:57:12 GMT

I have a limiting belief that I have had my entire life. I tells me that I do not believe that I am deserving and worthy of obtaining happiness in my personal life. I have removed many aspects and am now working on releasing what I believe is the core of this block. This is the phrase that I am currrently using: Eventhough I am still afraid to believe in myself and believe that I am deserving and worthy, I deeply and completely accept myself. I alternate my focus words: still afraid to believe in myself, I am deserving and worthy.

Each time I tap on this I become dizzy and nauseous and do not continue beyond two rounds of tapping. Should I ignore the physical reaction and keep tapping or should I be doing something else such as changing the phrase. I am not afraid of the reaction but want to be gentle with myself. However, I also do not want this to prevent me from clearing this unsupportive belief.

Any suggestions?

Thank you

Is there a new practitioner in the UK I can contact for chat?

SueCarter — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 20:16:30 GMT

Hello everyone, anyone

I think I have just sent this Post to Abundance by mistake!

I am asking if there is any new practitioner in the UK who would be willing for phone contact (I am not a therapist). I started learning EFT shortly before Christmas and am working my way through the Basic and Intermediate Libraries, alongside the wonderfully helpful articles in the EFT Insight Newsletter. I would dearly love someone to chat to about this life-enhancing/changing system . . .

Hoping to hear

Sue

Strange things happening with my body

Coachingrocks — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 21:54:08 GMT

I've been around EFT for several years, although I am the first to admit I don't use it consistently. I am now having some symptoms that worry me and would love to get some feedback. For the past month on and off I have had to urininate frequently, for the most part I am able to pee without burning or pain. I do have pressure in my pelvic area, sometimes on the right side and am occassionally bloated. I had a pelvic and pap exam last month and everything was fine. A few days ago I had some spotting, which is the first time I've ever experienced that between periods. My period isn't due for another week. I am now 46 and I know I am going through perimenopause. For most of my life I have had normal menstruation, paps and few pms symptoms. So that's the physical stuff. Now on to the emotional, stressful issues.

The past year I lost my mom, who was sick for many years and even though I have been healthy most of my life, I have had this fear of getting sick and following in my mom's footsteps. Also because I haven't had children, I worry about developing ovarian cancer. I know it's not healthy for me to entertain these thoughts, but sometimes I feel like I can't help it. I have been struggling (mostly against myself) to build my coaching business. I am also a trainer and took on a full-time contract to supplement my income until my business took off. Unfortunately the contract ended abruptly and I have been unsuccessful in finding another job since. I had to move to a smaller place in order to keep a roof over my head because I am in so much debt--I have been living off of credit cards for way too long. My family has been anything but support and I mean emotionally, in fact they usually make things worst, which is typical for them. Fortunately I do have very supportive friends, yet I still feel all alone in this. I feel like a year an a half ago this black cloud came over me and won't leave. Sometimes I feel the stress is unbearable and I can't take anymore, but in spite of my negativity in this post, I tend to be optimistic. I do believe in the LOA, although I am certainly not putting it to good use! I know my biggest issue is the block I have to tapping and building my business, which I know a lot of it is based on fear and worthiness.

So the questions I have is:
How do I get myself to tap on a consistent basis? I have been trying to look at the payoff for not tapping, but again I'm not consistent.
Has anyone had similar physical symptoms? Given my financial situation, I rather not spend money to see a doctor and want to give EFT a chance, so if anyone has used EFT to relieve these symptoms I would love to hear how you did it.
If anyone has any other suggestions to offer, I would appreciate that too.

Thanks for reading my long post, I just want to get my life back and put myself in a position where I can make a difference.

Cheryl

Thread veins.

SparklyMe2009 — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 07:15:35 GMT

Hello can i use EFT for thread/spider veins on my face? I got these from picking at my face and squeezing spots especially when i am stressed. I need EFT for helping with these spots too... as i have had them for many years and nothing the doctor has given me has helped very much. I have had oral antibiotics and loads of different creams. The spots are on my chest/ back and on my inside thighs. I read somewhere these spots could mean that someone is getting under my skin so to speak. And yes that is correct as my mother is a big part in this. As i have grown to dislike my mum and her ways and this as been so for alot of years now. For example she winds me up and puts me down in a subtle kind of way...and has not been there for me throughout my growing up life etc. Many thanks in advance for any guidance. Julie.

Pregnancy with EFT?

woodstock — Mon, 04 May 2009 13:22:37 GMT

Hi All, i wondered if anyone, who had experienced infertility problems, had used EFT to successfully conceive and if so, how did you go about it? Lots of questions in one but I hope someone who has experience of infertility will know where I am coming from. I can conceive and have one beautiful child but the Gods seem to have decided no more - three miscarriages after our child was born and 2x IVF conceptions and 2x natural conceptions (the natural conceptions have both occurred within a 12 month period of the IVF treatment and we have always been convinced that it is something hormonal within me that is the problem). I'm about to turn 40 and do not want to bring IVF into our lives again and have been using EFT for other things with some success - it's potential seems limitless! I would be really grateful to hear from anyone who feels they might have advice to offer. Many thanks.

IT IS SO WIERD

DeborahBrent — Fri, 22 May 2009 10:40:32 GMT

I'm learning about this and experiementing. I started on Wednesday. Then I didn't tap yesterday to see what would happen. Well, I'll tell ya' I wasn't expecting to still feel the finger taps under my eye like I had just done them. Even this morning I can still feel that spot under my eye. Is this normal?

I feel so lost....

Julia — Mon, 18 May 2009 09:54:51 GMT

Hello,

I live in the United Arab Emirates and I am not able to find an EFT practitioner here. I am currently going through some very distrubing issues and I don't know where to start. I feel it is all related to the pre-menopause / menopause as my monthly cycle stopped at the same time I started having he problems. I have tried numerous self help options (Feng Shui, Chi Gong, Holisync meditation and EFT) but nothing seems to be helping. I have been for a complete physcial check up and my doctor has advised me that I should go on HRT but there is a complication as I have a huge cyst in the Left Pelvic area so I have to have this removed before the treatment can start. I have to wait until end of June to see the Doctor regarding removal of the cyst.

Before these problems started I had a very successful career (20 years with the same Bank) I hold a very senior post but I am on leave now as I just can't cope with going to work. I have basically dropped out of life and I don't know how to get back. My symptoms are:-

Fear of going out (anywhere) in case something happens to me.

Strange feelings in my head (like a hand resting on it).

Palpations

Hot flushes

Sweating

Strange stool.

Lightheadiness

Emotionally blank (no feelings) - this makes doing EFT very hard.

Plus lots of other small discomforts. I basically feel like I am loosing my mind and I don't know where to turn.

Can anyone offer any help.

Thank you.

Julia

I'm New Here

DeborahBrent — Wed, 20 May 2009 17:39:21 GMT

Hi. I'm Deborah from east TN. I've started tapping today. I have a lot of health problems, but right now I'm concentrating on loosing weight. Most of my health problems will be eased with the weight loss. So, my question is how often do you do your tapping? Right now, I'm doing it about every hour. Is that too often? Any tips will be appreciated. Deborah Brent

Lichen Simplus Chronicus

austine73 — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 09:06:33 GMT

Please Can someone tell me how i should EFT for this symptom (LSR) This is a symptom which is persistent scratching of the skin . It could be due to eczema which is its main cause and/ or any other skin disease It occurs in the vulva back of the neck on the eyelids anywhere where the skin overlaps

Mentural Cramps

sharonadams — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 15:54:55 GMT

Hi,

I regularly get quite debilitating period pains on the first/second day of my menstrual cycle and I was wondering whether anyone has any ideas? What points do you find best to tap (and for general pain)? And in any particular succession?

Thanks :)

Increase in Symptoms

C.H. — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 15:33:04 GMT

I used EFT for the first time on Saturday. I used it on two issues. The first round I used on sexual trama I experienced in my early twenties that is when I experienced an increase in peripheral neuropathy that I have in my feet and legs. I'm not sure if it was because just thinking about the subject stresses me out. The second issue I addressed was the peripheral neuropathy itself. Neither of my issues seemed any better. Although it was only the first time I had used EFT.

I have used accupunture twice. The first time I saw an improvement in my constipation symptoms. The second time I went to the accupunturist the symptoms got worse my knees were aching like arthritis, my neuropathy increased and my bowel movements got really loose. I think she increased the intensity of the treatment the second time so that may have contributed. I have also been told I may have a very sensitive chi. I just don't want EFT to cause an increase in symptoms as well.

I have multiple symptoms that I need to address. I developed a peripheral neuropathy after the birth of my son 4 years ago. The doctors tested me for MS and cancer among other things and found nothing. I also have symptoms of IBS, food allergies/intolerances and adrenal issues and I'm getting scared again about the cancer thing especially when I have a 4 year old. At the time one of the neurologist I went to see told me that something would show up in 5 years. That does'nt really give me a warm and fuzzy feeling.

At this point I don't feel I can schedule an appointment with an EFT practioner. My husband lost his job over a year ago and is underemployed at the moment. We just got health insurance back so I am thinking about going back to the doctor for more tests. Any advice about how to go about applying EFT in my circumstance would be appreciated.

Thank you.

Cathy

Small breasts are ruining my life...

Linn — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 23:54:16 GMT

I am tired of feeling inadequate as a woman because of my small chest. I feel that my puberty didn't get complete because I was so underweight in my teens and because of that I didn't develop as I should have. If I'd have a time machine, I'd go back and stuff myself with fat, protein, enzymes and amino acids. So what can I do to make my body as it should have been? Can I make my body continue where it left off in development with the help of EFT? I want to look like a WOMAN. I am over 40 years old and a mother of two. Any advice?

uterine fibroids

majicat — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 18:19:20 GMT

Hi Everyone,

I have been diagnosed with uterine fibroids. The doctor's answer to that is a partial hysterectomy (I can keep my ovaries). Since I'm 46yo. and not going to have any more children that would be my best option. Well, not for me. I've read that 90% of hysterectomies are unnecessary. I could have them removed, but they would probably return. I don't really have any pain from them, but I do get heavy periods and I'm constantly going to the bathroom to urinate because of the pressure on my bladder. I've tapped for the urination part and it hasn't helped. I would like to heal myself. Does anyone have any suggestions on statement set ups? I'm drawing a blank. Thanks in advance for your help.