Performance General Discussion

Successful helping others, not so effective on myself

denimmaterial — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 15:51:44 GMT

Hi everyone I know this is a frequent problem. I have been doing EFT on myself and friends for 10 months. I have Gary's DVDs and have watched them all. I look forward to and read all of the email newsletters and try new ideas, BUT apart from curing myself of hay fever (and even if I never manage to do anything else, this is amazing), I have not been able to make much headway with anything else. I get regular migraines, and have searched my memory to try to identify where they might be coming from. I got my first one when I was 16, during my GCE O level Art exam. This was the one exam I was sure I would get good marks for as I intended to go to art college, so there was no real pressure. Now if it had been physics or chemistry I could have understood it. I also can't see any obvious reason why I get them at one time rather than another. I have even tapped on 'even though I don't know why I get these migraines, I forgive myself for anything I am doing to cause them.' If anyone can help me unravel this problem, I would be very grateful.

EFT for Golf

successfuleft — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 13:35:04 GMT

Hi everyone,

I came across this article about how EFT for Sports Performance specialist Stacey Vornbrock works with golfers using EFT. It's available at: http://www.byebyeblocks.com/files/golfweek_march2006.pdf

I'd love to hear more about how people are using EFT to increase their performance.

Warmly,

Paul

coersive persuation

orangsweden — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 08:49:08 GMT

I have been subjected to CP and wunder how to come out of that loop thinking caused by it?

Need help finding right setup...

Karla — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 03:32:40 GMT

I am a very well educated, creative and competent person. I've always got compliments about my work and performance, even when I was a kid at school. But... I feel I don't get what I "deserve"- like recognition in example. Usually other people use my ideas (and get promotions and/or recognition/better opportunities) so for me is like someone else is getting "the ultimate prize". So bottom line is- I am very capable of advancing in life but feel I am not getting the opportunities and it is really frustrating for me. It is affecting my self-confidence tremendously. Any ideas for setup sentences? I really appreciate your help!

PS- English is not my first language so I hope it is clear enough for you all to understand!

EFT & bodybuilding ?

MilancheEFT — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 19:06:49 GMT

Hi and tnx all who want to help, i want to use eft for faster muscle growth and better gains, some setup phrases will be great..

Thank You !

guitar chords

catlover777 — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 05:55:58 GMT

I have played guitar off an on for many years, but recently took it up again, am taking lessons and practicing regularly.

I keep having trouble with certain chords, or with changing between chords. I've tried, "even though I can't do the X chord, I completely and deeply love and accept myself, " but it doesn't seem to help. I can't think of any trauma involved in playing or not playing chords--any thoughts? My teacher says I need to trust my fingers, but that doesn't help either.

Business & Sports Performance Connections

GBE — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 20:48:22 GMT

Hello, I am looking to connect with practitioners that successfully use EFT in the areas of business and sports performance and/or looking to do so. I am very new to EFT and on the front end of my journey to certification. However, I have been a consultant to business for the past 15 years. Love to hear from you. GBE DrGlenEarl@gemail.com

Is it possible to reach the "highest" level using EFT?

Nameistaken — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 17:44:28 GMT

Hello everyone,

I would like to introduce myself first. I am a 19 year old hockey player from Germany. At the time I am trying to improve my performance in sports. When I think about using EFT to imrpove my performance I like to think that it might be possible to reach any level that i want to reach. I like to think that someday I might be able to play in the highest german league. I fear that even though I might be able to clear all of my beliefs an emotional issues (for example of my childhood when I performed badly in sports) I might stand at a certain point and have reached my limits.. I thought a lot about how important talent might be but then I wonder what talent really is? Is it something we are born with or something that develops during our childhood..I've heard about both theories.

What do you think? Could I be able to develop some kind of talent and eventually become the athlete I want to be? Hope you understand what I want to say :)

Greetings Michael

Fear of Swimming

Sparky Farr — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 03:45:32 GMT

Does anyone have ideas for how to re-introduce anxious clients into deep water? I have a client who was afraid of being in deep water. We have tapped on land and released most aspects down to 1-2. I am concerned about the logistics of locating a beach or pool for us to try out the EFT work in the water. I have seen Gary's work with Dave, but feel there must be more info out there. Anyone?

Sparky

Violinist's left hand finger coordination problem

Rajan — Sun, 31 May 2009 15:34:36 GMT

Hi Friends.. I am new to this forum. I have been reading a lot about EFT for a week now. I also studied the manual and have started practicing. I am a professional violinist from India. About 4 years ago, I developed a coordination problem in my left hand (the fingering hand). Things I used to play effortlessly, started to fade away. The problem was noticed particularly in the index and middle fingers. Somehow they wouldn’t ‘listen ‘to me. I consulted many neurologists/physiotherapist and was told be them that this was a problem called ‘Focal Dystonia’ or ‘Task Specific dystonia’. The thing to note is that there are no spasms, contractions etc. This problem occurs only when I Play the instrument. They are fine when doing other activities. Since the last two years however, the problem started to improve. The reason could be that I started practicing everything very slowly. Now the problem persists (varies around 4-5 in a scale of 0-10). Is there any specific procedure for tapping, which could be most beneficial in my case? Thanks a lot for your help. Rajan

preparing for exams

inchara — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 13:38:25 GMT

hi iam preparing for my exams but i feel very lazy ,not motivated,no will power,lack of concentration.

passing these exams with a very good score is very essential .

just passing is NOT ENOUGH to get in to residency.
please help

Creative Artist seeking EFt Help?

Davy27 — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 15:19:05 GMT

Hey All...

Okay heres my deal. Im an in the closet artist. hehe I sing, Dance, Write, Paint, Act, anything artistic.... But the main catch is, I do all these things by myself. Never sharing it with the world. I know that people will respond saying, This is a deeper issue, find out why. My answer is I dont think Im good enough at those things. But I feel Im good enough, in other ways, but singing, Dancing, Writing, Acting, etc, I always feel like, Not so special. So I dont ever try to do those things. UNLESS Im alone, and no one is around. Im not afraid of other peoples judgments, IM AFRAID OF MY OWN. Im much more creative in being critical then they can ever be..... And its ME, who says, Ahhh Davy you dont sound sooo good, or your not good at it. But when I have showed the very few people my talents, they are shocked, and astonished that I can do it, because I never do in front of others. They say how good Iam, and I should this and I should that.... BUT I DONT FEEL IT.... I DONT FEEL THAT WAY... and I so want to!@!!

I dont want to feel Im gods gift creatively, but I want to be comfortable and supportive of myself enough to finally begin to express my spirit with the world and start a career. This has been a hidden secret. New years is coming...

Any advice>

Big Audition in a Few Weeks, Looking for Ideas

Gracenote — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 14:45:19 GMT

Hello, I just found this forum. I have been practicing EFT for several months now, and it has helped with some of my performance and school issues.

Briefly, I started a full-time university music program a year ago last fall. I thought I was a competent musician, and I was accepted at this competitive music conservatory, but, from day 1, I had to deal with being rejected for the orchestra, not getting into the jazz program, being kicked up of the string program, and had to adjust to where I stand in the so-called pecking order of the university. This has been especially difficult since I am in my 50's and also wonder if there is some age discrimination going on that is limiting my opportunities.

But, I am persistent, and I am especially making progress this semester and in a few weeks I am going to audition for the jazz program for the third time and for the orchestra again and perform for my juries. All this involves preparation and I find myself sometimes being my own worst enemy with procrastinating and anxiety when I should be practicing and studying. I tend to waste time doing things involving less mental effort and there are realistically things I have to take care of and I do wonder well maybe that's healthy, one cannot be "on" all the time. I have made progress this semester in my musical abilities and in lessening my performance anxiety to about a 2. That is great progress, because PA has done a lot to put me in this unhappy position at school. It was not until this semester that I even began to do a audition that approached what I know I am capable of. I have also become much more comfortable with myself about accepting where I am in my development and not overly comparing myself to others. Also, actuall performing situations that occur several times weekly at the university have helped me with PA as well, sometimes doing EFT before the situation.

Any ideas and help on statements and what kind of procedures I could do for my audition and jury the middle of May would be appreciated. This is important to me. I made many sacrifices to attend a university in mid-life, and my original goal was to be a jazz major, this is my 3rd audition for this, and I want to go to my audition and then my classical jury with confidence and knowing I have done my best to prepare for this by putting in the time I should and play my best. My problems seem to be anxiety, PA, not practicng as much as I need to (reasons: other school work, life stuff, and some need to zone out and relax at times, not sure if this is normal or I am fooling myself), and worrying what is going to happen if I am unsuccessful in my auditions once again.

Any feedback appreciated.

"Emergency" EFT during a sporting event

Dr. Robert S. Harris — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 16:53:10 GMT

Good day everyone! I was wondering if someone could help me? I am a naturopathic doctor in private practice in upstate New York, USA. I have been using EFT with athletes for many years with great results, but a situation arose last evening that I have never encountered before. I was at a LaCrosse game at the community college where I teach, and one of the team's stellar players started to play very poorly. His head definititely was not in the game. The coach asked me during the break if there was anything that I could do to help him "get his head back on straight" and help improve his performance for the remainder of the game. I basically just had him tap the first 7 EFT points to see if there was an improvement. I couldnt stay for the remainder of the game so I don't know if it did any good. Was there anything else I should have done?

Thank you so much,

Bob

Bowling Performance

kathrynhoyt — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 19:25:30 GMT

I have tried EFT to improve my bowling with inconsistent results. I have tapped for consistency, for afraid to get strikes, to pick up spares, to not allow the distractions to affect my performance, for focus and concentration, for fun, to overcome the writing on my walls about bowling better than men, and I am at a loss as to where to go from here. My daughter has even used surrogate tapping to assist me with inconsistent results. Today, I bowled a 123, 181, and 109. My average is 140. If anyone has any further suggestions, they would be most appreciated. Thanks.

How can I be better at work, college and my own work?

Elan — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 21:01:51 GMT

Okay, I guess this is my trouble, forgive me if I rant a little it's late.

My life has always felt like a circle, going around in circles, going nowhere, in circles, round and around.

This is with everything I do, interests, dreams, hobbies, work, health, learning, spiritual and emotional attempts of improvement, they all meet timely ends or myself feeling overwhelmed, hopeless and suicidal will impair their progression and I'll find myself back at square one, or not having moved forward, or stuck, or with a lot of failures and unfinished projects and plans on my hands.

It's like I break down but by the time I drag myself out of it I've realised I wasted too much time and so my life is this relentless struggle of trying to catch up.

I've tried everything, a therapist, a nurse, going to a group, excercise, seeing my doctor, positive thinking, eating better, affirmations, EFT etc.

I'm wasting time and everday my dreams get a little further away from me as a consequence of it. Essentially, I live to write, but as I see that prospect slipping further away from me my motivation to keep trying is getting progressively worse. Pretty much my perspective and drive is geared towards creating a life where I can write and produce good books--good grades? To please people??--pah!--don't be silly---as long as it leads me to the fincial support I need to create stories, share my idea's and put across my points, what else matters? I guess this has been my general attitude when I really think about. I'm not very good at living or taking care of myself, eating, drinking, washing, dressing, these have never been automatic to me, they've always required some kind of effort, it's only with my ultimate goal in mind giving living purpose that I've managed to drag myself out of these moods and do these things, (create--which feels more instinctive then combing my hair), and drive myself towards self improvement, to be better than I am. However now I feel simply tired and fed up.

Anyway, I digress. My main problem is that I keep breaking down (or feel overwhelmed and have moods as I describe above) at crucial moments, before it was occasional, now it's out of control and it's ruining me, I failed college, then I tried again and nearing the end had a breakdown (again) and dropped out, this is the third time and I'm self-sabotaging myself AGAIN, I'm concentrating on college because I seriously can not bear to fail it a third time, but this is just a small diemension in the globe that is my incompetance, EVERY TIME I go to work I'm patronised or told off because I keep making mistakes, can anyone imagine how agonising that is when you're doing affirmations and EFT for weeks--feeling rather cheerful--thinking it's working and STILL messing up, messing up is a common feature, that I'm dipsy and clumsy and incompetant is pretty much well known, worse still as recent results show that changing improvement tacts hasn't helped, I'm this way inspite of them, when nothing changes what can I do but feel despondant and withdraw.

I went to see an EFT practioner, he was very nice and explained and showed me the procedure, it's difficult to say to someone what the problem is, when you're actually it. We went over some recent personal events that might be contributing to my present uselessness, but they were so befuddling to me that I think they befuddled him, and I realised that I have such an untypical way of thinking that I have to amass large proportions of back story just to explain the significance of any one small thing, which is largely frustrating when you do it in the moment because it usually results in an ebb and flow of undecided babble, it's only when I'm alone, and I've thought on something new, long enough to understand it, that I can communicate it better, one session, one or two emails, and two phone calls and I'm not sure how good I was at telling him the problem, I mean I don't even know what it is myself, though he did the best he could, tapping on what he felt might help---was relevant and so forth. I haven't been again since, he lowered the price for me but I can't bear to rob him, and I don't even have the money myself to do so even if I wanted to, he said he would e-mail me some phrases but I haven't heard from him since--maybe he wants me to contact him first--in any case I wouldn't know what to say---I'm supposed to try EFT at home but I'm hitting brick walls and I don't want to be a nuisance to him.

All in all, nothings worked. I admit, I feel a little lighter on occasion after EFT. But does that small relief last. No. Am I doing any better, no. My writing, my college work and my work place were the three area's I hoped to progress in, I'm especially in a panic about college (though a somewhat cool one), with few weeks to go and a mountain of work and my education going down the pan. However while people with supposed war memories, complex issues of abuse and cancer are cured within a few minutes to about an hour or two, here I am, with petty little troubles, me with a little moodiness and clumsiness and not even myself and a practioner can help me.

Help

I'm guessing people here are being better versed in EFT, can give me some suggestions about what they think is happening or what might help, what should I do?

stretching and stamina

Felix — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 11:29:47 GMT

I have very toughen (dont know whether it is good word) muscles. Is it possible to do stretching more easier?

And what about stamina ? Can I tap for gain more stamina ? thanks

Using EFT to relieve pre-workout stiffness

successfuleft — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 20:17:36 GMT

Hi everyone,

This morning, I was getting ready to go workout with a friend. While she was excited to workout, her lower back was stiff and slightly painful. It wasn't the kind of pain that would prevent her from working out. But it would have gotten in the way of her having a highly productive and enjoyable workout. I suggested we tap on the stiffness and pain. At first she protested, saying she didn't want to delay me. I suggested that we'd both have a better workout if she wasn't feeling pain and stiffness.

We did some short detective work where we located the pain in her body and found a couple of images that showed up when I asked her about them. Finally, I asked her one of my favorite questions when dealing with pain: "If the pain could talk, what would it say."

Using this information, we did one round of tapping. The pain and stiffness were completely gone. Total time invested was about 5 minutes. We then went had a great workout. I think it was time very well spent.

I continue to explore ways that EFT can support a health and fitness lifestyle. I would love to hear from others who are using EFT this way.

Take care,

Paul

Sports Performance

cecegary — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 16:34:04 GMT

EFT Breakthrough for my 5 year old!

At my daughter's gymnastics class she was told that if she could do a straddle press the following week in class she would get a sucker. This is high motivation for my daughter, who doesn't get candy at home. Every day for the next week my daughter practiced and practiced, but to no avail. For those of you who do not know, a straddle press involves considerable strength and flexibility. It's no easy task!

So, on the day of the next class I asked her if she would like to try some EFT with me for her straddle press. She said, "No, that's boring!" "Ok," I said, "but I know you REALLY want that sucker, so if you change your mind, let me know." "I DO, I DO, I DO!" She said, but still didn't take me up on my offer to tap with her. So about 30 minutes before we were to leave for class that evening, she came to me and said, "Ok, I want to try some EFT."

I should point out that she has been pretty negative about tapping to this point. She often called it "boring" and it never did seem to work for her on the few occassions we tried it. So, I decided to use the Choices approach and taped for,

"Even though I have never done a straddle press, I choose to let my body easily do it now."

So, we tapped a round, and then I asked her to close her eyes and imagine herself doing the straddle press. (I have no idea if she really did, after all she's 5!) She then tried to do the straddle press, but was unable. She says, "See! I CAN'T do it!" I scooped her up, put her in my lap and we tapped for,

"Even though I don't believe this EFT stuff is going to work,..."

Then we tapped on the points (no set-up phrase) for,

"My body has everything it needs to do a straddle press."

Then I told her I had to finish getting ready to go and I heard her go downstairs. A few minutes later I was walking by the top of the stairs and I hear her say from downstairs, "I DID IT! I DID IT!" She comes running up the stairs to tell me and SHOW me her straddle press! She did it 4 more times before her class, and then again for her teacher, earning the much coveted Blow Pop sucker.

I just couldn't resist..."So, does EFT work?" I asked my daughter. "YES!" She said enthusiastically. Not only am I so proud of her for doing the straddle press, I am so happy that she has now had her EFT A-ha! moment!

Constant reminders of failure is inhibiting the process

Barb Orozco — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 05:51:35 GMT

Hi, all:

I'm very new here and hope so much that someone(s) out there can help me, please. My passion and business is helping people organize their photos (digital or traditional) WITH their stories so they have a "secret tool" in their parenting, partnering and friendship relationshiips thereby helping to make real differences in their lives. I'm very good at this and have seen wonderful results for my clients and those they care about. Here's the problem... I am completely blocked in doing this for myself because every time I look at the photos, I'm reminded of all ways I've failed my now adult children as I/we (my husband and I) were raising them. It doesn't help that at 28, 25 & 23, they are making choices in their lives which I believe are directly related to the poor job we did... which also are constant reminders. So, now I'm faced with being a farce with my clients.... knowing what I'm telling them works and they are seeing results yet, if any of them asked to see my albums or StoryBooks, they'd see 2 or 3 things and that's it and then, they'd know that I'm completely inauthentic.

Could someone please help me in using EFT to work with this issue so I CAN be productive in completing items for my family and for me, please?? I know my family must think that they don't matter at all since I've done so little for them in this regard. HELP, PLEASE!! B.

I need some help and advice

Curtis2011 — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:46:35 GMT

Hey there, Curtis here.

Lately I have been experimenting with the "personal peace procedure" with some success.

I was wondering if there is any particular method that you find works best for you, if there is any particular method of visualizing your problems or things that you want to manifest into your life. Is there any specific thing that you have DONE and gotten powerful results?

Please help me out and share your EFT technique with me.

Article on EFT and performance, for your perusal

Anonymous — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 03:11:28 GMT

Hi all,

I have written an article on ETF and stage performance. Would love to get comments from the experts.

http://www.owningthestage.com

Cheers,

Tom

Actor

RedHeadGirl — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 01:49:30 GMT

I am an actor and would love to use EFT to help me book jobs. Does anyone have EFT scripts that could help me? I need all the help I can get.

Thanks

Ten Performance questions

successfuleft — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 15:45:44 GMT

Hi all,

I'm getting a growing number of clients contacting me for performance issues. In doing some research for a particular session, I came across these ten questions that Gary Craig recommends for helping clarify the issues when using EFT for performance. Like Gary, I continue to feel that EFT is vastly underutilized in increasing performance. If you'd like an example of what's possibile, look at the thread titled "Performance Issues with increasing my bowling scores" in this forum. Kathryn's bowling scores increased 23% thanks to EFT.

Here's Gary's 10 questions:

What does that circumstance/competitor remind you of?
What does your coach/trainer wish you could do?
What prevents you from performing to the next level?
If there was a subconscious penalty for performing even better what might it be?
Who is better than you and why?
What aspects of your performance have you let slide and why?
What part of your dreams do you consider out of reach or impossible?
When do you have self-doubts? What are they?
What part of your performance do you dislike?
What aspect of your performance are you required to do that you don't like?

BTW, thanks to adding EFT to my own workout routine, I continue to lose body fat and gain muscle. Last time I was measured, I had less than 7% bodyfat and it's gone down from there. Another reason I am very grateful to EFT.

With much love,

Paul

Performance Issues with increasing my bowling scores

kathrynhoyt — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 13:10:34 GMT

I am new to EFT and believe it works wonders; however, I tried to increase my bowling scores to no avail during league play. I have increased the scores in practice. Can someone help me with the setup phrases?