Hi, everyone,

I am a twenty year old man who lost his appetite, initially as a result of withdrawal from Risperdal. It has been going on since last December, and so it has lasted for the better part of a year; so long that by this time, I suspect that drug withdrawal isn't even a factor. I have been to a doctor (also an eft practitioner, by the way) on several occasions, but she doesn't know how to help, and moreover, she hasn't given me specific enough instruction on how to do eft, no matter how many times I begged her to. I have also been to my physician and even a psychologist, both of whom were unable to help. Despite all that, I think I know how to do it, and I have done it for a few emotional traumas I have experienced, and was successful with the pursuit.

To cut to the chase, I have recently noticed that I have some deep seated anger towards people and entities whom I perceive to have wronged me. I don't feel terrible when I think of these things, but I still believe it to be an unhealthy thinking pattern, as it is all I ever think about, and I find that it keeps me from enjoying my life "in the moment." It is very difficult for others to detect, because I have an excellent sense of humor, and I do a good job of not letting my anger manifest itself in a social situation. When I am alone, however, I am always thinking about how "I almost died, because I was chronically overdosed," "The art teacher tattled on me, because she wanted me back on drugs, and she wanted me dead," "The other students at the school were jealous because I finally got off drugs, and was enjoying life, and they would have stopped at nothing to have me back on drugs," etc. These thinking patterns usually take a smug tone, which is masked as gratitude, in that, for instance, when I say to someone, "I'm really happy that I have a second chance at life." what I am thinking is something more along the lines of, "Hah! No one will ever cause me any harm, and it's not like that f***in' b*****d would have ever gotten his way, anyway. I am invincible!"

The only thing that is a potential barrier to the resolution of these issues is that I don't believe that they make me feel bad enough to cause this appetite loss. It is a very sour and sulky way of thinking, I'll admit, but is that alone qualification enough for me to do eft, and get the results that I want? 

The other thing that has been hindering me from doing eft is that I have experienced so many traumas in my life, that I don't know where to start the process, and I am also not confident enough to believe that eft will work, because the circumstances revolving around my appetite loss are so equivocal that I am not entirely sure as to whether it was an emotional trauma, or something else.

Any ideas that you may have would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks, and God bless,

S C

Hello Seb,

Welcome and well done for getting some results with EFT.

I would recommend that you tap on your beliefs that your anger issues are not the cause of your loss of appetite.  They could be related but your energy system is a whole and you need to address what bothers you the most which seems to be your anger issues, having been wronged... 

The same about your beliefs about eft.  You probably would benefit from looking at how to enjoy life, as much as trying to clear the negative.  Invite and allow the positive feel good factors.

I cannot comment on the use of Risperdal and its withdrawal effects, but you could tap on your loss of appetite, how you feel about food, etc...

Even though I have no appetite, I love and accept all my feelings about food...Even though food feels................, I love and accept myself with my apathy with food... These are examples, you can adapt this to how you feel.

I would recommend that you tap on all your anger issues.  You mention that you have experienced so many traumas in your life, you could make a list going as far back as you can remember, you might find a pattern, have people wronged you from early on?

You could go through the Personal Peace Procedure, which consists in listing every event in your life that causes you a negative emotional charge, start with the most obvious and what seems relevant to you now, although sometimes it is events and memories that don't seem to relate, persevere and tap till you get the intensity as low as you can, if it does not shift, it is probably because you are not addressing the right aspect.

You talk about thoughts preventing you from enjoying life in the moment, practice living in the moment as much as you can and what ever comes to the surface gives you clues  on what to tap on.

There are also questions that could help you: http://www.emofree.com/articles2/ask-right-questions.htm

I hope this helps to make a start,

Best wishes

 Hi,

Thank you so much for that list of questions that you linked to! I have gotten some very valuable information about my problem. I will bring the list to the EFT practitioner I spoke of earlier, and I think she might very well know how to help this time. I will keep all of you posted as to whether or not this has helped.

Seb

Fabienne:

The same about your beliefs about eft.  You probably would benefit from looking at how to enjoy life, as much as trying to clear the negative.  Invite and allow the positive feel good factors.

I have never done it that way before, would you please explain that to me in further detail.  It actually sounds like an interesting concept.

Hi S C,

And first and on a side note here, reading the word "drugs", on a yahoo list, the list moderator will not allow a message to the list with the word "drugs" in it because it per him there are net tracking systems that when one key word is used, the whole message would be sent to a message cipering center, that then may lead to the his list being put under cyber over looking, what he was saying had some truth, but hey this world is big and real too, plus it is a new day. Thus I am rather pleased that your message made it to the list "as is",

Ok, that said, you said entities, then you are speaking of spirits of the deads?  There are some that do EFT are more into entities and too, MPD, multipile personality disorder, the two are dirrentent, but in ways and results, their effects on persons are or seem to be all the same ok?  Thus I suggest you read or google EFT and Entities and EFT and MPDs.

Now to this, is this like some sunday moring God help me letter or message, or too, a bit of sorry for being caught, but not of doing the crime itself?  Sorry but I am just seeking to get you consider like with some it is like they lived their life in ways that they of themself more drove it to the ground and this is versus others that truly wrong things done to them that  landed them on the ground. And the reason that I am saying this, say of you or even of EFT(if it had a mind), which of the two would it help more or most?  The person that drove their own life to the ground or the person that other things did this?  And my experience wise in helping some, it was always easier to help those that had real things that brought their life down, versus those that more of their own undoing did it.

And I have seen a few that did more of their own drove their own life to the ground, they at some point had this life chaning insight or moment that they were able to just see life and the world all so different that they were changed, some it took a near death experience, some it was some other thing. But those that did change, most and all lived their life to cause much greater and bigger than themself.

In your shoes, what I may ask of myself is this, do I or am I seeking EFT to get me out of this say spot I am in, or more help me get rid of some negative things that I may be some kind of beacon to others and this world too?

In the words of JFK, ask not what this country can do for you, but what you can do for it, many times, I more asked what I can do for EFT, but not so much it could do for me. And yes, I wanted it to help me, but help me that I may greater help it, EFT.  This more of my hitching myself to a cause greater than me. 

In the world of sports, some of the past greatest teams, focus was to play each play to it fullest, doing all the little things to the upmost, and wining was the by product, too many team focus too much on just winining, not doing the little things. EFT can help a person to be a bigger and better person themself and the world too, thus brining all the things of wealth, love, health and happiness.

OK, S C, I hope you feel that even though some things that I said to you seemed a bit harsh, being that I not truly know you, but know that I said those things out of care for you, you are young with much of the whole world before you, I said and put some things to you that may allow EFT to better work for you. And I remember, at times years ago, asking this of myself, do I want a temporay fix or life time fix?  My temporary way of looking at things was, like, Lord help me out this mess this one time and monday through saturday was good and well, Came sunday, I was back to what I was doing before, those was years ago.

This list has archives, and on other list like EFT, what I have done was look back to the list or group archives, and look that the names, many came and gone and some sill there, the came and gonners, were some of them seeking a quick fix or lord just help me now? I feel and know that some just was not helped, and just moved on, some may was helped the frst time but not the second time around. this is just my feelings ok?

S C, Namaste, the light with me, bow and acknowledge the light with you.

Harry

Hi Seb,

What were you on Risperdal for (what were you diagnosed with) and what is your current diagnosis and medication? 

 I would prefer not to discuss that on the net.

Hello,

In my experience, I reserve time to tap.  When I am not tapping, I aim to live in the present moment, to fill my life with activities I enjoy.  When I have to do something that  don't enjoy, I do it with acceptance, no resistance, because it has to be done.  I am a follower of Eckhart Tolle and together with EFT, I feel that I have found a good way to be. You might want to do some mega clearing before this makes sense.

Remember that the purpose is to "love and accept yourself", that is with whatever is going on with you. 

I hope this helps.