Hello, everyone I am wondering if it is possible to help me.

I have to get a job, and it is very difficult for me. I have only had two jobs in my life and I am almost 26. I had to quit them both on the first day because I couldn't handle the anxiety.

I must phone places to get an interview and I am even nervous about that. Not phoning I am fine with that, but going and talking to people.

 I have seen many EFT DVD's so I know the procedure I just don't know how to help myself with it.

 Being homeless and starving would definelty be the easier option, but I'd prefer to try and beat this fear.

 Any help is appreciated.

Thank you

Child of the Tao

 Hi,

I think reading this post on the forum about anxiety could really help you, you only need read the first post as it is quite long now.

As you say, there is fear behind it, so try and be kind to yourself about what you're going through.

All the best

Noreen.

 Thank you, I will read it as well as all the links in it. I might as well read the whole thread too I don't have anything to lose, plus while I'm reading I don't dwell on things.

 Thanks again

Child of the Tao

 Hi again. I would like a professional opinion or two on something please.

Throughout out my childhood, I was shunned, well, hated really, by 99% of the people at school from day  one all through to the end, including teachers as well as people who I had never met before (somehow they all new me, where ever I went). Now logically this would be the cause of my problems. However, I remember when I was maybe five years old, my very first day at nursery school, and I felt the same then. My parents stayed with me for a while but when they left I cried all day, basically paralyzed on the spot until they came back.

 Can this be the cause or was it caused before then? I can't remember anything before that.

Can I also get some ideas on some tapping phrases that might help heal that first day of school? I can't feel anything when recalling it, my life has been one constant series of paralyzing traumas (mostly at school) but I can't feel anything from any memories, I can't even bring to mind a single one.

Thank you

EDIT: Matrix reimprinting seems like the way to go for this. I will definitely be trying it later. I have hope, and it kind of makes me not want to do it in case it doesn't work.

You are right to suspect that it probably happened before that. Other kids would not shun you at that age naturally. You would have brought that feeling with you.

There are ways of getting to emotions that happened before your memory, but it would be difficult without a one-on-one dialog. My Light Tapping technique would be good, but to be transparent, it really falls outside what Gary Craig would call pure EFT because it you can have good results without finding the core issues. But certainly there are methods that practitioners use that do fall within the realm of pure EFT. 

It would probably be helpful to find an experienced practitioner to work with. There are some excellent one on this board.

 Hi,

You could try:

Even though I can't feel anything when I remember my first day of school, all I know is that I was paralysed on the spot until my parents came back, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway

Even though when my parents left on my first day of school, I cried all day, I love and accept myself anyway

Even though I feel I've always been hated at school and it started I think on my first day of school, I love and accept myself anyway

Can you remember an earlier time when you had the same feeling not experience?

Even though my life has been a series of parlysing traumas, mostly at school but I can't feel anything from any memories, maybe this is a protection mechanism and I honour it for being there and keeping me safe

Even though I can't recall a single memory, I love and accept myself anyway

All the best

Noreen.

 Hi again thanks for the advice I will do everything you sai. I can't remember anything at all before that incident, nothing visual, and no feelings.

 But I want to ask how to go about healing two things I  have no memory of, but think probably would have been traumatic to me.

The first is when I was in the womb. My dad would play  death metal ( you that thunderous sound with roars instead ofhuman voices) really loudly. He would put the speaker on my mums belly and turn itup. That might have been traumatic I'm not sure.

The next I think most likely was traumatic although I have no memory of it either. When I was really small (not sure how old) my mum would  make a sort of sound like a loud whining sort of sound and move really close to my face and she said my bottom lip would wobble and found it funny. I bet what I felt was paralysed with fear (thanks a bunch mum).

 What could I tap on to heal these?

Thank you.

Dear Child,

Your parents must have been very young to have treated you like that.  That is the kind of behavior one might expect from babies themselves.

Try these phrases with the karate chop point or the sore point:

Even though my parents were both very inexperienced and even clueless, I accept myself.

Even though my dad scared the sh-- out of me while I was still in utero, I accept myself.

Even though my mom was just as crazy as he was, I accept myself.

Even though my parent were bullies (intentionally or not) and created an energy in me that attracted more bullying, I accept myself.

Even though my parents could have been better parents, they did the best they could do at the time and they really did not know any better, so I choose to forgive them, and I accept myself.

Tap a couple rounds repeating each phrase until the issue seems more remote to your emotional thermometer or you feel at some peace. 

Mildred