My sister is taking a cocktail of drugs for brain cancer. I have been trying surrogate tapping on curing or killing the cancer as well as on the side effects from all the medications. This is an aggressive form of cancer so time is of the importance. Without an MRI I can't tell if I'm doing any good on the cancer itself so I go on faith and belief that I can make a difference even if she never knows.  I am very, very new to EFT and see the promise and potential of applying it.  She was intrigued but won't persue it on her own. Right now I would like to get her some significant reduction to the swelling or edema that she is experiencing from taking the steroids. Her dose was increased due to the swelling in her head so she is experiencing more bloating, weight gain, and has puffiness or "moon face" which is a rounded, fullness that is quite recognizable to anyone familiar with steroid use. She is hating how she looks especially in the face because of the steroid side effects. Can this be helped with EFT? How about with surrogate EFT? Most every night as I go to bed I try to work on these issues for her. Can you offer phrasing suggestions as a surrogate so that I can get some results for her? These side effects are common for this drug so it is not just a coincidence that she experiences them. Can I get her body to only respond to the beneficial effects of the drug rather than the harmful ones? Can this be done relatively quickly? I'd rather focus on the disease but fixing or improving her physical appearance would be a great boost for her. Seeing the change on the outside would also give me more hope and confidence that I am helping to improve her healing of the brain cancer, too.

It's great that you are doing all you can to help your sister through this difficult time.  Make sure that you are using EFT to tap on your own emotions and concerns to do with this too - the clearer we can be ourselves the more we can be there for the ones we love.

Yes EFT could help with acceptance of how she looks at the moment.  While it would be optimal if you could work with your sister on it, many people have seen amazing results from tapping for others surrogately.  Rather than looking to others to find phrases, the best thing would be to listen to your sister's language and how she feels and customise the phrases based on her language.  That is the most effective way of getting things to clear.

Tapping for any side effects that your sister is experiencing from the drugs could help to clear her body of them, you really just have to try it on everything and see how things go.  There is no way to say how long something will take, healing is a very individual thing and it is the person who you are tapping for who does the healing - when we tap for someone we simply facilitate their healing.  We can't force someone to heal faster or in a different direction, and as much as we love someone, we don't know what healing is for them.

I've personally found that the less attached I am to the outcome, the more effective any surrogate work I've done is.  The more I can stay clear and honour that the person is on their own healing path and accept that and simply tap to support rather than try to fix, the more effective it seems to be.  I know that might be really difficult given the circumstances, but just thought it important to include.

I'm sure that anything that makes her feel better will contribute to your sister's healing, and if her appearance is what is troubling her the most right now, then it's a good thing to work on.  Also listen to any fears or concerns she is expressing, or any emotions that you sense are trying to surface but she is having difficulty letting them up.  Any tapping in these areas could potentially help her.

Very best wishes,

Jo