I am a very well educated, creative and competent person. I've always got compliments about my work and performance, even when I was a kid at school. But... I feel I don't get what I "deserve"- like recognition in example. Usually other people use my ideas (and get promotions and/or recognition/better opportunities) so for me is like someone else is getting "the ultimate prize". So bottom line is- I am very capable of advancing in life but feel I am not getting the opportunities and it is really frustrating for me. It is affecting my self-confidence tremendously. Any ideas for setup sentences? I really appreciate your help!

PS- English is not my first language so I hope it is clear enough for you all to understand! 

Your English is excellent. There are two issues here as I see it.

1. Getting opportunities

2. Being recognised for them

Have you always felt you didn't get the opportunities or is that a recent thing? i.e. you not putting yourself forward anymore because of a lack of self confidence? When you were a child in school and got compliments, did you feel you were getting proper recognition then? How did the other children respond when you were praised? Were you left out because of it?

When other people use your ideas, what do you say to them? Do you speak up? When did this sense of unfairness first appear in your life?

Try tapping on:

Even though I feel I don't get what I deserve, I deeply and completely accept myself

Even though I really want to be recognised and acknowledged, but don't feel I am, I deeply and completely accept myself

Even though other people use my ideas, get the promotion and better opportunities and that makes me feel_________, I deeply and completely accept myself

Even though it feels like others are getting the 'ultimate prize', I deeply and completely accept myself

What is the ultimate prize? Recognition for who you are?

Even though I'm really frustrated by all this, I deeply and completely accept myself

Even though it's affecting my self confidence tremendously, I deeply and completely accept myself

Thank you very much for your answer!

This situation is recurring, has been happening my entire life but I was not tired enough to deal with it as I am now.

I never stood up for myself in any situation since I was child. I let my mom "walk over me" because I felt sorry for her. She was a single mother, always crying, depressed. My father was an alcoholic so they got a divorce when I was 4. I was always thinking how to be a good daugther. I never talked back, complained of anything, asked for things we couldn't have. I felt sorry for both my parents and don't know why I thought I could handle any frustration because I was "strong"...but I did.

At early stages of my adult life I was doing very well- seemed that far from my family people were recognizing my value. Now I see I was wrong... My immediate bosses usually got mad at me because of my work being recognized by their bosses. The first time that happened I left the job and my former boss told a friend of mine that I was the very best employee she ever had (she didn't know I was friend of this person)... Seemed they were competing with me and I never wanted to compete with anyone, just work together. (Maybe because I would lose..) So I got promotions, got some recognition... Seemed to me now that I was "allowed" to a certain point but not further... Let me tell you- I could easily be a high end executive by now but I messed up because I couldn't stand up for myself. I lost "friends" at workplace- read "stabbed in the back" with projects, was made fun in meetings with some creative idea just to someone else to present the exact same idea later and be the hit of the century. I never said a word about it and yes, I was always left out. Except when something was going wrong- then they would come back to me to solve the problem.

I know it is a long email but I need to tell you few situations. I was working for a huge american company in my home country (I was one of the managers) and other managers were hiring interns who did not speak a word in English. In one meeting they were talking about it and I said that if "we" hired them, they were working more than a year for us we should hire an English teacher and pay 50% as tuition. They almost dropped from their chairs saying it was an absurd. Months later my VP was recognized as "THE man" from the HDQ because they implemented... tuition for the interns! What a man of vision investing in the new talents for the company! (their words). Another time they were complaining about one of the interns that was working as receptionist. I said she was graduating in College to be a professional in our field and not a receptionist so was not right to keep her in a position where she couldn't use her skills and didn't serve the objectives of her internship, that all interns should work for all departments to learn more, etc.  Managers dropping dead again, few months later ...kudos to the VP who had the amazing idea of implementing a "career plan" for interns and got "the man of the year" status for his deep respect and consideration for the young professionals! This VP fired me later. Another time co-workers in the same position in our region asked me to be the "creative" person, helping them with their work and tactics. I was surprised but said ok I could help, no problem. And that was it- I didn't say anything to anyone else. Days later I received an email from another VP saying I was trying to "show off"... And that was the same VP who told me if the company had more people like me we would be invincible... I faced moral harassment in that company for more than 3 years and still have nightmares with them (9 years have passed). Never said a word.

So... should I tap.."even though I was born...."? LOL

Sorry for the long email but I am sooo frustrated with my life...I am a chicken...

Hi Karla,

What I suggest to you is that you tap on yourself on statement based on this line of idea, Even though I know that can do ..... and ...., some parts parts of me is not ready for the success that I am hoping to attain.  The purpose of this statement is try and determine if some parts of you do not want or is ready for the success that you fell you are ready for and deserve.

So all in all what I tried to do is give you a statement to tap on that my reveal that some parts or your being is working against you. So the key may be if you tap on that statement and you feel something energy wise, this may indicat that this statement is true, and if be true, then you need to try and link into what part of your being that may feel and thnk that you are not ready.  What you may too may want to consider is this, think of your past.  Could you think of some one that was important to you or very influential in your life, that they seemed to had felt that you may never be good enough to acheive things in your life?

What I tried to do is give you an idea that just may help you, that per se as it is, a bit not of the norm, but what you need to do is leave no stones unturned ok?  That is not over look aspects of things that could be at play in what been happening to you.

Hoping You the Best,

Harry

Hi Karla,

I think you've found where all this came from, so well done. Tap on exactly what you have written here. Eg:

Even though I have never stood up for myself in any situation since I was child, I let my mom "walk over me" because I felt sorry for her, I love and accept myself anyway

Even though I was always thinking how to be a good daughter, I never talked back, complained of anything, asked for things we couldn't have. I felt sorry for both my parents and don't know why I thought I could handle any frustration because I was "strong"...but I did, I love and accept myself anyway

Rate the truth of these statements too and add them to your tapping:

1. I have to be strong

2. I am a chicken/coward (pick the word that has the most charge)

3. I have to be the good girl

4. I have to do/be_________to be recognised

5. Who I am is not enough

6. Life is not fair

7. My needs will never be met

Draw table tops for each, each leg is equivalent to a specific event. So the "have to be strong" table may have 50 events supporting it. Tap on the ones with the biggest charge, other smaller legs may collapse due to the generalisation effect. Put what you have written above on the table top 'theme' that it matches and tap.

All the best

Noreen.

Thank you VERY much! Wow...So I have lot's of work to do! But I am confident with EFT I will have this solved right away!

Thanks again, Noreen!

Karla