adult female, ever since childhood, when ever I feel under stress and am scred of peopel, not things, my fight or flight mechanism kicks in, takes over and I wet myself. it's as if my subconscious takes over and I have no control over my bladder. it's horrendous, and can happen in situations that everyone else would just shrug off (if some one questions my actions, is sharp with me, raises an eyebrow at my decisions). It's made me very scared of life though my friends allthink I'm a strong outgoing person.

investigating eft, i so need something to break through my mad mind and body. any thoughts anyone please?

 One of the things that happens when we are afraid is our body voids to allow flight.  this is obviously useful if we are in extreme danger.  I would imagine that at some point when you were much younger you felt very vulnerable in such a situation and your body has remembered that feeling.

Our subconcious has a record of everything that has happened and we remember the feeling of the time, perhaps not the event, and can be triggered in later life but have no idea why.  In EFT we look for the memories contributing to this reaction, and clear any remaining emotional intensity.  It is sometimes not possible to actually conciously remember at first especially before the age of 6 but an EFT therapist could assist you in this.

Your not mad, your just holding on to some old strong feelings and need help to discharge them for good!

Gill

Gill Wightman:

One of the things that happens when we are afraid is our body voids to allow flight.  this is obviously useful if we are in extreme danger.  I would imagine that at some point when you were much younger you felt very vulnerable in such a situation and your body has remembered that feeling.

I agree with Gill.  I also agree about finding an EFT practitioner to work with.  If for any reason, you cannot do this, here are some pointers:

• Sit down for each session, allowing yourself about 60-90 minutes of tapping. 
• Find one incident in your life where you felt fear.  Whatever comes to you is the right one.
• Tap for this incident till the fear is down to zero.
• Repeat with another incident.
• Find a recent incident where you wet yourself.
• Tap for this incident till, when you think about it, you don't feel like wetting yourself.
  
• Congratulate yourself for coming this far.

Do the above tapping for as many days, weeks, or months you need to overcome the issue. A side-effect is that you can feel calmer and happier overall once you have gone through this procedure  :-)

Happy Tapping! 

I think rather than focusing on the problem of wetting yourself when you panic, rather try focusing on relaxation techniques to keep yourself calm. Solve the panic and anxiety, solve the wetting issue.

I am new here, but this website looks like an excellent resource. Thanks for being brave and sharing.