Hello,

Admittedly, I am in desperate need of help.

It's been quite a while since I last visited this forum. So far EFT only has worked on short-term an I am in need of some heavy changes in attitude. Quite some time ago I made a post about my loss of hearing. Unfortunately, regardless to the many efforts I've made deal with it, I'm very much struggling to manage, both socially and academicly.

I've also came to know myself as one who manipulates and lies. I haven't experienced any form of happiness since highschool, tried to find some professional help but it seems I've been able to trick, fool and misguide anyone in order to avoid some real confrontations. Sitting down with my dad for a man-to-man talk made me realise this.

I think this is also why I can't say for myself that I have a boomin' social life. Because of my loss of hearing, I'm too scared to enter and actively engage in a conversation, simply because I don't know how to seize and hold control of it. I've always been able to wrap any conversation around my finger, to win sympathy, knowledge and respect. And no, I don't believe I did this in an harmful way.

I cannot, or don't know how to use EFT to help me rid of my deafness. In a way, I don't think I should aim for that until I have learned to put my own needs in conversation aside. Tapping on just the thought of liking and loving myself, I'm flooded with thoughts why I don't like myself, why it's not worth getting to know me.

Friends and family (mostly family) that are very close to me, ensured me I was definately worth loving and liking. In a way, I believe them, but I'm just too scared to "try it out".

I'm sorry for this very impulsive post, but I'm in real need of advise. I am too affraid to find professional help, or too eager to then misguide them too. I hope someone can find the time and energy to reply.

Thanks

-S

Hi Swamoe,

It's great that you still want to perservere.  Have you been tapping regularly?

I sense some initial tappable issues for starters -  ET I don't like myself .........

                                                                        ET it's not worth getting to know me...............

                                                                        ET I'm afraid to find professional help..................

                                                                        ET I'm afraid of what I might reveal about myself..................

Also be aware of body sensations while exploring these statements - e.g. tightness of chest, pressure in the head, etc, as these can be cues as well.  Any thought flashes (listen to that little voice)  while tapping could mean further exploration of them with tapping may be beneficial. Really listen to the cues of the small talk!

Persistency and one step at a time.

Showers of love and peace to  you,

Claire

Hi Swamoe,

It is important to understand that EFT may or may not help you hear again, as it is not magic.  It just takes away the emotional blocks in your path.  However, EFT can help you with the anxieties.

Part of anxiety is to worry about the anxiety.  I have also found that people who are prone to having anxiety for long periods of time are not very connected with their feelings.  That in itself is not a bad thing at all.  But what it means is that there is no awareness of how much progress has been made, so it is all negated.  The result is that the anxious person beats themselves up about "not getting any better", whereas they have made real progress but are simply not aware of it.

This is where it is essential to keep a written record of your progress.  Buy a special diary to use specifically for your EFT tapping.  Work on specific incidents and write down the SUDS as you went along, all the way to zero.   Do this every day for three months, then look at your records again.  You will see how much progress you have made.  This in itself will encourage you to keep going until you get the end-result you want.  However, please do not aim for the end-result of perfect hearing.  Rather, aim to reduce social anxiety by 20%.  This way, if your hearing also improves, it will be a wonderful bonus!

I will be doing a series of free written treatments over the next few months about this, so if you are interested, just email me and I'll happily send you the details.  You can also get help from many EFT practitioners over Skype video and written messages, over over Messenger or AIM, so there are plenty of possibilities to work with a practitioner if you can.

 Hello again,

 Thanks! It was only a day after I had a talk with a dear friend of mine, who spoke of the exact same thing you do, Suzanne. I know I have been stuck at focussing on the bad things (deafness, my attitude towards others and the controlling me). It didn't hit me until a week ago that I've gone through so much in the last 3 years, and the progress I've made with it.

But somethign HUGE happened a few days ago, or a week now!

My hearing in my right ear has COMPLETELY RESTORED! It was after I visited my therapist that I occasionally met whenever I needed her and whenever she could help me.

This time she learned about a new technique called NMT, Neuro Modulair Technique. According to her, it's mainly aimed to clean up bits of faulty information (or something) that can apparantly block and disrupt a good flow of energy.

So, in short, after a well 3 and a half year of being close to completely deaf, my hearing suddenly started coming back. Within only a few days I lost the need of an earplug to follow conversations and college classes. I opened up completely, been socializing, had full length conversations with those that have never left my side! All around me people notice me being much more talkative (not being able to hear has really isolated me, it really has shut my up),

 I simply cannot put into words how HUGE this is without sounding like a forum trolling retard! I can really thank EFT, as it really helped push through this!

 Thank you all! I finally feel like I have more to give!

Well done you!  How wonderful!!!!