I've been around EFT for several years, although I am the first to admit I don't use it consistently.  I am now having some symptoms that worry me and would love to get some feedback.  For the past month on and off I have had to urininate frequently, for the most part I am able to pee without burning or pain.  I do have pressure in my pelvic area, sometimes on the right side and am occassionally bloated.  I had a pelvic and pap exam last month and everything was fine.  A few days ago I had some spotting, which is the first time I've ever experienced that between periods.  My period isn't due for another week.  I am now 46 and I know I am going through perimenopause.  For most of my life I have had normal menstruation, paps and few pms symptoms.  So that's the physical stuff.  Now on to the emotional, stressful issues.

The past year I lost my mom, who was sick for many years and even though I have been healthy most of my life, I have had this fear of getting sick and following in my mom's footsteps.  Also because I haven't had children, I worry about developing ovarian cancer.  I know it's not healthy for me to entertain these thoughts, but sometimes I feel like I can't help it.  I have been struggling (mostly against myself) to build my coaching business.  I am also a trainer and took on a full-time contract to supplement my income until my business took off.  Unfortunately the contract ended abruptly and I have been unsuccessful in finding another job since.  I had to move to a smaller place in order to keep a roof over my head because I am in so much debt--I have been living off of credit cards for way too long.  My family has been anything but support and I mean emotionally, in fact they usually make things worst, which is typical for them.  Fortunately I do have very supportive friends, yet I still feel all alone in this.  I feel like a year an a half ago this black cloud came over me and won't leave.  Sometimes I feel the stress is unbearable and I can't take anymore, but in spite of my negativity in this post, I tend to be optimistic.  I do believe in the LOA, although I am certainly not putting it to good use!  I know my biggest issue is the block I have to tapping and building my business, which I know a lot of it is based on fear and worthiness.   

So the questions I have is:
How do I get myself to tap on a consistent basis?  I have been trying to look at the payoff for not tapping, but again I'm not consistent.
Has anyone had similar physical symptoms?  Given my financial situation, I rather not spend money to see a doctor and want to give EFT a chance, so if anyone has used EFT to relieve these symptoms I would love to hear how you did it.
If anyone has any other suggestions to offer, I would appreciate that too.

Thanks for reading my long post, I just want to get my life back and put myself in a position where I can make a difference.

Cheryl   

Thanks for reaching out. Have you been to see a doctor? This is the first thing I would suggest you do Cheryl. It will put your mind at ease because the worst thing can be our fears. Your intuition is speaking to you so my advice is to follow it and get checked out.

Losing your mother was a shock and often we can store this trauma as a freeze response, we don't know what to do and we don't know how to feel those painful feelings so they become frozen in our bodies. The energy starts to stagnate in the area affected (look at the site http://www.germannewmedicine.ca for more information on how shock can affect our bodies) and can sometimes lead to dis-ease. The good news is, once healing starts; the shock is resolved the energy starts to flow again and healing is restored. So EFT is ideal for this.

You could try tapping on your fear of becoming sick and following in your mother's footsteps, or you can start with your reluctance to tap and your fears of what it might bring up?:

Even though I don't want to tap because I don't feel safe going back to those painful feelings, they are just too painful and I don't want to feel them, I deeply and completely accept myself

Even though I am terrified of getting sick and following in my mom's footsteps, I deeply and completely accept myself. Repeat "this terror" on the points or whatever phrase best fits for you.

Even though I haven't had children, I worry about developing ovarian cancer, I deeply and completely accept myself. Repeat "this cancer worry".

Even though I know it's not healthy for me to entertain these thoughts, but sometimes I feel like I can't help it, I deeply and completely accept myself

Even though my family has been anything but supportive and I mean emotionally, in fact they usually make things worse, which is typical for them, I deeply and completely accept myself. This is a big one Cheryl, can you find specific events that support this? You can then start tapping on them.

Even though I feel the stress is unbearable and I can't take anymore, but in spite of my negativity in this post, I tend to be optimistic, I deeply and completely accept myself. Maybe there is some internal conflict here? That can be exhausting.

Even though I know my biggest issue is the block I have to tapping and building my business, which I know a lot of it is based on fear and worthiness, I deeply and completely accept myself. Maybe this is one of your core issues? Can you find events that support this belief you have of yourself?

I hope this helps Cheryl, please keep us updated and best of luck

Noreen,

Thank you so much for responding to my post.  You are so right on in many areas.  

I woke up this morning and decided to call a doctor because the worrying was getting to me.  I guess I'm just concerned that they may want to run a lot expensive test which will only put me further in debt.  I decided to just do it because I have to take care of myself and trust that the money will come.

I will check out the website you listed about shock over the loss of my mom, I know there is still a lot that I haven't dealt with in regards to my mom, tap, tap, tap.  

I do have a lot of internal conflict and yes, it is exhausting!  I know I am my own worst enemy when it comes to using or in my case not using EFT.  When I have used it, I do feel better and I do believe it works, but I think I have a belief that I have way too many issues and it won't work for me on the big stuff.  Sometimes I feel overwhelmed when it comes to deciding which issues I should tap on first.  I also know there is some huge payoff in me not improving situation and this keeps me from using EFT, growing my coaching business or doing anything else that improves my situation.  It does have to do a lot with fear and worthiness.  These are core issues for me, although I am sure there are others.  Unfortunately I do have a lot of events to support these beliefs and most of it does have to do with my family.  

One problem I have when tapping is that I have a hard time tuning into my emotions.  I can be very emotional with other things, but not with these events.  I'm sure EFT will still work, although it may take more rounds.   

I almost feel like I am in a self-imposed prison and the door is open and I can just walk out, yet I just sit there inside the cell.  It's the same thing with my coaching business.  I am so passionate about coaching others and from the feedback I have received from clients I am good at it, but it is so hard for me to put myself out there and market my coaching services.  So my business flounders, instead of growing.   It's very frustrating. 

Thanks for the scripts, I will tap on them.  I know EFT is such a wonderful tool and I just need to stop fighting myself and use it.  I will tap on some of the blocks I have to using EFT.  If you have any other suggestions that would help me be more consistent, I would really appreciate it.

Thanks again for your help.

 Cheryl

Have you finished the grieving process over the loss of your mom? Grief is a powerfull sometimes frightening emotion and when we short circuit finishing it we suffer. It can be hard to "go there" because we can feel out of control. Remember EFT can be your lifeline and friend.

 Dear Cheryl

My answer will be a slight bit different, but Gosh.. You could be me...like a mirror.. So how does this land with you?

Your family has a tradition...focusing on negative...givin their dramas first priority...They dont even realise it themselves.

You, the One that helps or constantly tries to save your family /mum/ trying so hard to hold it all together...Why?

Family sucks all your energy and gives nothing back, kind of cold and loveless, just no support, they are lost in theirown dramas.

Its hard to brake a tradition, it separates you and makes you disloyal to your family /mum/

Giving in your family was, is full of conditions? I only see you/ love you when you give etc...??

Was your mum the dominant part that had everyone dancing around to help and serv her negativity/ drama???

Did she ever give you a chanse to clear what you feelt about your relationship etc. when she lived, or did she leave everything unsolved???

You might be feeling tired of giving, hense getting sucked, therefore your bussines becomes negative..and your body protects you??? 

I sense a big protest in you, just the same that I have... you want out somehow, feeling trapped..

It could be that you are ignoring/ hense not feeling/ the emotion that was, is forbidden in your family, especially for you....ANGER, protest

What feelings/ emotions have been forbidden in your family culture?? 

I hope this will help you to see more clearly, Im really taking a chanse here, I could be totally wrong,,, but...

 From Maria with One Dearstanding

I really hope you succed.. 

You might want to examine the times that things were going well in your life and what happened that screwed things up again. Many times it's those circumstances and pain from past failures that prevent us from really trying now.

Alina Frank, CERT-I

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