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EFT was originally developed to reduce the therapy process from months/years down to minutes/hours. As emotional problems faded, both physical health and personal performance improved (often dramatically). As a result, EFT is spreading quickly among the healing community. It is an emotional version of acupressure wherein certain meridian release points are gently stimulated by tapping on them with the fingertips.







Protecting the practitioners energy field

Last post 02-25-2009 10:21 AM by LJC. 4 replies.
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  • 02-08-2009 4:24 PM

    • LJC
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    Protecting the practitioners energy field

    Hi.

    I've been learning EFT for the last 10 months, using it for myself and family and friends. I have been through many of the DVDs but not all of them. And I have no previous experience in energy work or healing.

    I have heard that some people who use other energy techniques need to "ground" themselves to make sure they don't absorb their clients' issues and take them on themselves, thus harming themselves in the process. I don't see anything written on this in regard to EFT. In some cases, it seems like it's the opposite, for examnple when borrowing benefits. Has there been any talk about this issue and EFT? Is the experience different if you are tapping directly on the client versus having them tap themselves while you tap on yourself, versus surrogate tapping?

    I have a friend with Multiple Sclerosis who would like me to work with her a bit and I would like to help bring EFT into her life. If she can afford an experienced practitioner, I am going to suggest that first. But I suspect she doesn't have the money right now. I'd like to help her, but I want to make sure I am protecting myself as well--maybe with EFT setups for myself before and after I work with her. Does anyone have any advice they can offer? Is this a necessary step?

    Thanks so much for your help.

    Leslie

  • 02-08-2009 6:19 PM In reply to

    Re: Protecting the practitioners energy field

    There was some discussion on this on the forum recently, you can find the thread at http://eftcommunity.emofree.com/forums/t/3790.aspx  There are lots of different views!  At the end of the day I think the best thing is to tap on any concerns you have and find your own answers to this issue.

    Very best wishes,

    Jo

    Detailed Book "You CAN Heal with EFT" available FREE from: www.selfheal4me.com
  • 02-08-2009 11:23 PM In reply to

    Re: Protecting the practitioners energy field

    Hi Leslie,

    It CAN BE a problem, but not in the way you think.

    EFT doesn't really address negative energy. There's just energy that is flowing and energy that is stuck. If stuck, or blocked, it causes damage, pain, psychological, or physical. If flowing, one is healthy. Of course, there may be some areas or aspects in which energy is flowing and others in which energy is stuck. The stuck energy is stuck because of one's thoughts and beliefs. Even if a trauma happened, and that caused a person's energy to be stuck, it's more to do with the way the person processed the trauma in his brain and thinking, than the direct results of the trauma. That's why you can have individuals who may have missing limbs, or serious illnesses, but they are very healthy in that their energy is flowing. Perhaps their illness was caused by a time in the past when their energy wasn't flowing, or perhaps it's just the best thing for the person. In EFT one doesn't usually say "physical health is good, physical disability is bad". Either of these can be good, or bad. Whether one does EFT for a physical issue or doesn't depends on how much the person is disturbed by their situation, which indicates how their thinking is out of sync with reality. When doing EFT, sometimes the physical issues are resolved, and sometimes the brain patterns are resolved. We are not Healers, for we can't create Physical health, however, we do try to be healers who help others have Emotional Health, and the physical health or solutions to support that. Emotional Health is often in our power - although for many, it is a long journey indeed - while physical health is not in human hands alone.

    Having said all that, beliefs are infectious! So if you do EFT for a friend with a negative mindset, and you don't know how to address their thoughts with EFT, then you might absorb some of their negative beliefs. At this point, you can choose to live in turmoil :-) or you can EFT the conflict you feel. It can be very liberating to learn about others' beliefs. Even if it causes inner conflict. Because that way you grow.

    Many of us have enough inner conflicts already, and we would prefer to work with more of our own issues first, because it seems gentler. But if you feel drawn to work with her issues, then perhaps it's part of your learning curve. The question of absorbing her negative beliefs will arise if she is very angry, or doesn't trust you, or EFT, or doesn't want you discussing her private beliefs and lifestyle or thoughts. So basically, if you are very non-intrusive in your offer, and don't insist that you EFT help is something that she NEEDS, then she might choose to take you up on it, and it may be a wonderful healing experience for both of you. While if there isn't trust, either in you, or in EFT being helpful, or if she has no intention of tackling any of her beliefs in order to alleviate her pains, then you might be disappointed. Which might activate all sorts of negative thoughts in you that you never knew about, and you'll have to deal with them! That's the sort of negative energy that gets transmitted. Either because the two of you have different goals, or because one of you is pushing too hard to transform the physical aspects of the problem, or because you lack the skills to help transform the emotional issues in a Pleasant and Gentle and Safe fashion, or because you don't feel safe with letting her express and accept certain emotions or memories. Remember that acceptance preceedes change.

    But if you can both give it a good try. She because she wants to, and you with good reason to believe that you can help her with the myriad issues usually involved in a complex life disorder like MS, then it might work very well. Or, alternately, if you and she both have a goal to just try to relieve her distress to a certain acceptable degree, "taking the edge off", and you are both comfortable with your ability to do this, then I could imagine that you would both be very happy with the results. (unless you have a fear of success, in which case you'll have to work on that too!)

    I thought I'll just mention that the other 'type' of negative beliefs that are so prevalent are intergenerational ones, in which the person has 'inherited' cultural ideas which are so much a part of their lives that they don't know to challenge them. I wonder how much these play a part in 'genetic' illnesses. So you have to be a detective to find and deal with this sort of negative beliefs without getting 'infected' by them. There's also thought patterns like "depression is a good way of avoiding things" which can be very tricky to handle. But if you are OK with steering clear of these issues, and only deal with what you understand and are comfortable with, you can definitely get her to a new level of comfort. Don't be scared to say "I don't know about that". None of us have experience in everything, and it's OK to be able to help in certain areas, but not in others.

    I hope that this helps!

    Rachel

     

     

  • 02-23-2009 10:35 AM In reply to

    • Leigha
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    Re: Protecting the practitioners energy field

     Excellent post Rachel!!

     - Leigha

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  • 02-25-2009 10:21 AM In reply to

    • LJC
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    Re: Protecting the practitioners energy field

    Dear Rachel,

    Thank you so much for your post. It is incredibly helpful. I apologize for taking so long to respond, but I needed time to absorb what you were saying, and then I was away last week. Now I'm back and rereading your post and it makes so much sense.  I've gained a lot of clarity since my initial post, and responses from you and Jo and Leigha have helped lead me there. Here's what's been going on. Perhaps it will be helpful to other newcomers to hear.

    --When I wrote the initial post, I didn't feel like the time was right for me to take "MS" on yet. I was still working on my own issues and still learning the "art of delivery" by working with a different friend. But I also felt led to bring EFT to my MS friend NOW as opposed to later. I didn't understand the conflict and it was creating fear. More on this later.

    --For several months, I had been working with a friend who has Usher's disease (blindness and hearing loss), and I was sensing discouragement on his part. Although things were moving in the right direction, he was hoping for more miraculous progress. And although I knew something this serious--he's got lots of damaged cells in his retina-- would take a long time to heal, it was bringing up my own doubts and fears. The truth is, we don't know how much he can heal--but I am open to it being a possibility. He had also shifted to just wanting to maintain his current vision, as opposed to opening up to the possibility that he may regain some or all of his sight. Once I realized what was going on, he and I could talk about it and tap on it, and we're both in a better, more joyful place now when we get together. One other side note--during this time, he was getting very bloodshot eyes and everyone was getting anxious around him. We didn't know why and it was worrisome.  It turned out he was having an allergic reaction to the eye drops he was taking for glaucoma, but it took a month or so to figure this out. Now he's off the drops and doing fine. (His eye doctor told him to stop taking the drops.) These bloodshot eyes were contributing--perhaps even the biggest contributor--to his discouragement.

    -- I realized that I am very susceptible to my sister's fears and I had to tap a bunch on that. (She's the one who first asked about how I was going to "protect" myself and was worried about me getting ill.) Fear is one of the things we inherited from my mother, and this is part of the process I have to go through to get closer to emotional freedom.

     -- I spent some time thinking about how I felt whenever I finished an EFT session with my "Usher" friend. And all but once, I've felt at peace and relaxed and rested. It seems to me THAT is a pretty good indicator. The only time I didn't feel this was the first time we ventured away from his symptoms and into some childhood stresses of his. But the reason I felt different was because I was anxious about how he would feel about continuing to go in this direction. It took him a while to come on board because he's buried this stuff so long. And also, because--as you mentioned-- of the cultural norms he inherited. (He grew up in India where intense school pressure for the brightest students was just a way of life).

    --  I had a dream that clarified for me why I was drawn to my MS friend despite not feeling ready. In the dream, I went to open the door for her and let her in. She was in her wheelchair and was being pushed by her husband. When I opened the door, she couldn't get in because there was a big step up. I said "no problem, just go around the other way and I'll let you in the other entrance."When I got to the other entrance, she had already come in and was fully engaged in the room.  I thought to myself, "Oh, I guess she doesn't need my help, she found her own way in."

    Interesting. I am giving my MS friend space right now to find her path. I dropped off the "Try it on Everything" DVD a little more than a week ago. I'm going to let a few weeks pass before I call her. And then we'll see. I think I may have already done what I was called to do. Perhaps I'll be called to do more later, perhaps not. I''ll just try to remain open to both possibilities.

    So, that's my story.

    Thanks so much for your thoughtful advice. It is greatly appreciated!

    Leslie

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