Hi everyone!

 A while ago I read an article on the EFT site which indicated that if you are going to tap on another persons behalf, you should first protect yourself from picking up the other persons energy patterns. My son has anger issues and I want to surrogate tap for him, (that way I don't have to make him consciously aware of things that I suspect are the root causes).

Does anyone know what I should do in order to protect my energy field before surrogate tapping?

Thanks alot

Tapalot  

I have a slightly different view ....

I do a lot of surrogate tapping for children and don't feel the need to protect myself.  With children, I'd venture to say if anything, they would need protection from us.

 (With adults, there are other times where I feel uncomfortable with another's energy impacting me and then take appropriate steps to take care of myself.  Normally this means just sensing whether appropriate or not to surrogate tap and if not, then not doing it.)

I have the intention that I will only do good and that only information that is appropriate for me to have will come to me.

With children, sometimes I will go to surrogate tap with the parents and I will get a very clear NO, this is not the time.

To state the obvious, when tapping for children, I strongly encourage mothers to clear any and all reactions they  have to their child's issue first.

I think this also helps with keeping energy and intention clear. 

In my opinion and experience, parents and children are connected so you aleady are carrying his energy patterna and vice versa.

All the best and I just love it that you are using EFT to help your son and family,

Deborah

I agree with Deborah - I do surrogate EFT for my children all the time without picking up energies I don't aready have.  I think it is different than if you were working with an outside client where you might need to protect your energy field and also check for permission.  I feel  that within families permission is implied 

Hi Deborah,

Thankyou for responding to my question. In fact I tapped my son a couple of hours ago (not surrogately), and we made some really good head way. He's not normally very good at expressing his true emotions, but today was different. The first two rounds did'nt make much difference, so on the third round I used negative phrases first, followed by positive phrases after the Gamut. I asked him how he felt again and he said "How old am I now...nine......this is the first time in about seven years I havn't felt so angry....still a bit angry, but not as bad".

So I'm going to go ahead and tap surrogately for things that I believe are contributing to this anger. We are both feeling happy and excited about what has happened, and now have alot more hope for the future.

Thankyou again for giving your time to answer my question.

Regards

Tapalot 

Hello

Being the parent the most important thing would be to separate your energies so that there is no confusion between the two and the boundaries because unlike the other responders, I know first hand that you can pass along your energies to them as well as them passing along their's to you and of course I'm speaking of negative energies that shouldn't be shared but rather released.

Of course the age of the child will make a difference as far as any negative 'stuff' that they have picked up along the way of their journey in this lifetime, keeping in mind that we are not with them 24:7 and also if they have come here with any past life issues or negative energies that could also become part of the obstacles.

Simply speak to your Higher Self as you would in any conversation with a person. Be specific and clear and then allow a shower of healing white light to wash over the two of you SEPARATELY and then put up a bubble of protection around each of your physical bodies. As you do this simply say something to the effect of 'separating my energy from any and all other energies' and picture in your imagination as you are putting up this bubble of white light and protection 'stuff' bouncing off the outside of the bubble to allow you to visualize that you are indeed protected from others energies and your energy is staying intact, not escaping.

Enjoy and if you have any questions about what I have mentioned here, please feel free to ask.

Peace, Kathleen

Hello again,

I am so glad to hear that you chose to allow him the opportunity to be part of his own healing and guidance. Children are much more aware than many of us give them credit!

All I would say to you here is be careful how you word your phrasing because you don't want to 'create' something that isn't. Using 'may or may not be ...' would be my suggestion to you when deciding for someone else what is the underlying issue or cause and especially as the mom because you may or may not be too close to the subject and reading into things that are or aren't there. You may also be tapping on your own issues but using your son as the being and transferring your own issues on to him ... is that making sense?

There may be things from your own childhood that you need to release and this is an excellent way to help both of you for sure ... to tap on your self prior to or instead of tapping surrogately on or for your son [just a thought]. Also make sure that you release any angers that you personally have because again, whatever you focus on may actually be your own anger issues and not his at all.

Since he has already worked with you in using EFT it seems to me that you have opened the door of opportunity for great work going forward with his input and participation. That to me is the best way to find success. You can do story telling, make believe, use a 3rd person way of tapping, what if's ...

Good for you to take this challenge and help guide your loved one.

Peace, Kathleen

Hi Kirsten,

Thankyou for your reply. How would I go about protecting my energy in a client/aquaintance setting though? This is a topic that I havn't found much information on when I was searching through articles on the main EFT site. It could be handy (and interesting) to know.

Thanks

Regards

Tapalot

Thankyou Kathleen,

I just saw your post and I will definatley put to use the technique you gave me.

Regards

Tapalot

Tapalot:

In fact I tapped my son a couple of hours ago (not surrogately), and we made some really good head way. He's not normally very good at expressing his true emotions, but today was different. The first two rounds did'nt make much difference, so on the third round I used negative phrases first, followed by positive phrases after the Gamut. I asked him how he felt again and he said "How old am I now...nine......this is the first time in about seven years I havn't felt so angry....still a bit angry, but not as bad".

So I'm going to go ahead and tap surrogately for things that I believe are contributing to this anger. We are both feeling happy and excited about what has happened, and now have alot more hope for the future.

Tapalot,

That's so great to hear.  Way to go!

Hi Kathleen,

I just recieved your second response. Wow, there's some great advice and food for thought there. I think I'm going to read that a couple of times! Brilliant!

Thanks

Tapalot 

You are so very welcome. Sometimes I have a good connection and thought about healing and guidance hehehe!

I'm glad you were able to use it and enjoy it's message. Blessed be, Kathleen

Hi Tap

I have a completely different view People that are brought to us as family friends or acquaintances tend to mirror us in some way, I think that if you are being affected by some thing from someone else it’s because it’s a part of them that is actually a problem for you and somehow it’s trying to get itself noticed but the energy is actually your own.

Kimberly

Tapalot, even though you may not need it in the circumstances you describe, :) here is a simple and effective way to protect your energies, from Donna Eden, called the zip-up:

Place your hands at the bottom of your torso, just above your pubic bone.  Slowly, and with an intention to close your energy field, draw your hands up your body to the chin point, just like closing a zipper.  Do this three times, then imagine you are locking the zipper there at the chin point (I imagine a lock and make a little clicking noise).

You can make fairly natural looking gestures in public and accomplish the zipup covertly.  :)  You can even do it mentally, as you can tapping.  Try it and see how it works for you.

 Amy

Hi Kimberly,

One thing that I have become aware of from posting on this thread, is that I really must start working on my own anger issues. Most of my anger is suppressed, and it's taken a bit contemplating to realise that it's even really there! How's that for denial!

Thanks for your comment. It seems that there is not really a definate answer about protecting your energy pattern, as everyone seems to have a slightly different take on it. Which leads me to think that maybe we must just trust our intuition. So if we feel uncomfotable with someone, that might be when we should use the technique that Kathleen suggested. I know of a couple of people that I don't even want to be in the same room as, and if I had to tap for them, I certainly wouldn't want to pick up their energy patterning. Although I suppose you could always EFT it away!

Regards

Tapalot

I tend to align myself more with Kimberley's views. Since we are vibrational beings, when you talk of "picking up" someone else's energy, it might be that those very energy patterns exist within you and exposure to similar but stronger patterns causes a resonance and amplifies your weak energy patterns, thus making it appear that you have "picked up" the other's energy pattern.

It has been observed that women rooming together tend to menstruate at around the same time. Their differing individual cycles change over a very short period of time. This is probably the physical symptom of vibrational resonance.