I am new here, but not to EFT. I have attempted to use EFT over the years with no real results. This is mostly due to me not seeing results right away and giving up. What I am realizing is that I may not be tapping on the correct statements for my problemn at the time. Right now I have a horrific muscle spasm in my right shoulder blade area. It hurts to breathe, move just about do anything. I am also currently almost 9 months pregnant and have MANY emotions/concerns/worries/fears you name it about being a first time mother and giving birth so I know in my heart this is emotional in nature. I have tried several rounds of tapping, both for the pain and for the underlying emotions and have found no relief. Not even a drop in intensity level and am once again feeling frustrated. This time instead of giving up, I figured Id get some advice.....any would be appreciated!!!

Hello Marnica,

I am so glad that you haven't given up on EFT. You are correct in realizing that you have given up too quickly in the past. Even though you haven't seen results, you have been practicing. Not it is time to get to the bottom of things and get some results that you can see.

According to Louise Hay, the shoulder represents our ability to carry out experiences in life joyously. It sounds like your fears about birth are really pulling on you strongly. I would use EFT to deal with those emotions, and as you see the intensity of those emotions drop, my hunch is that your shoulder pain will dissapate. Also, you want to get to your biggest fear that you may even be a afraid to verbalize (but your subconscious is running with these thoughts and feelings). Here are some set-up phrases that you can use for starters...

Even though:

• I don't think EFT will work for me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself

• I am terrified of giving birth...

• I am afraid that my labor is going to be horrific, and that I won't be able to handle the pain...

• I don't know what is going to happen during the birth, and that scares the (cuss word) out of me...

• I don't know what to do with EFT...

• I am scared shitless about giving birth...

These are just a start. After you start tapping on the above statements about your fears about all of the pain and what could go wrong with the BIRTH, and you feel that you have exhausted it all, then you can go on to another issue, for example, your concerns about being a first time mother.

It is so important to get to what is UNDER the issue. I worked with a mom-to-be for an hour on her fear of giving birth for the first time. In that hour we dealt with her fear of home birth, of going to the hospital, of it being a long birth, etc. After an hour, I realized that we hadn't really gotten to the bottom of it all. Her BIGGEST fear was of having a fucked up baby. Since I knew that she was OK with cussing, and that terminology was a good fit for her, it easily brought down the intensity that she had. Every time that she tapped and said fucked up baby  as a reminder phrase—she cracked up with laughter. She ended up having her first baby at home in 6 hours without any fear.

I honor you for not giving up.

Please keep me posted.

Gratefully yours,

JoAnn

I think Skywatcher is taking the right approach, but since you describe the pain as more in the shoulder blade, I would suggest it might have more to do with guilt associated with not doing enough financially--like maybe the baby is keeping you from working and you really need two incomes, but you really want to spend time with the baby--hence a guilt-ridden conflict.

Skywatcher could be right on the money. Look at both and see what rings true.