Hello everyone,

Based on my many years experience as a caregiver, I have written two books for chronic disease management - "It's Your Life -  A Practical Handbook for Chronic Ailments" and "The Caregiver's Manual".  These are freely available at my website - www.soulspeakindia.com .  While these books were written before I started practising EFT, the highlighted topics may provide good guidance for issues that the patient and caregiver would need tapping on.  

Frequently, both are exhausted.  Daily tapping, on a few of the issues listed in these books, could be done without taking too much trouble in identifying the problems. 

I would be happy to help anyone with framing their setups, if so required.  

I notice that while there are frequently a large number of viewers on the forums and subscribers to the EFT newsletter, a relatively less number of people appear to post on these boards.  I would like to urge anyone reading this to actively participate and avail of the great support that is available in these forums.  You can retain your anonymity and yet find people who are or have been in similar situations.  Such interaction may provide invaluable guidance that can bring about a significant improvement in your wellbeing.

Best Wishes,

Sangeeta

Sangeeta,

Would you post your website, please in the body of a message to make it easier to access your manuals, that

would be very helpful. Thank you for offering them! Also, thank you for your encouragement for others to take

advantage of the wonderful resource this Forum is!

Blessings,

Sylvia

Sylvia S Ross EFT-ADV

Co-Moderator Carer/Caregiving

Dear Sangeeta,

Thank you so much for sharing your books that are freely available on your web site.

To follow up regarding  set up phrases is a practical help and look forward to your input and importantly, expertise.

Your encouragement to others to join our forums is welcomed , as they can then only truly see how much help there is available for them through caring people like yourselves,

Warmest wishes,

Marie

Thanks to you both, Sylvia and Marie.

I have added my website link to my post, as per Sylvia's suggestion.

Warm Regards,

Sangeeta 

Sangeeta,

Thank you so much for sharing, For anyone who receives their Forum messages in their e-mail, here is the connection

http://www.soulspeakindia.com/index.php?pr=Downloads

Both, the Caregiver's Manual and the Patient's Manual are excellent, well thought out, and cover a wealth of detail. Please, everyone take the time to read and save them to your files.

As, I read the Caregiver Manual, there are so many instances EFT is applicable to the scenerio, maybe, if you added PR Statements, Sangeeta, Gary would post in his newsletter and archives.

I would like your permission to post to EFT-Cancer-Support-Study-Group@YahooGroups.com in my files and to forward the information to participants who submit a Cancer Survey. Thank you again for sharing this wealth of knowledge from your experience.

Blessings,

Sylvia

Sylvia S Ross EFT-ADV

Co-Moderator ~ Carer/Caregiving Forum

www.naturalforcesforhealth.com

 Sylvia,

 Thanks again, for your endorsement.

 You are most welcome to post to your yahoo group and survey participants.  In fact, I welcome the sharing of my books in any form.  All I request is that the content and credits remain unchanged.  

 I am considering writing an accompanying EFT workbook, detailing PR statements.  Once it is ready, I will let you know.

Warm Regards,

Sangeeta 

Thank you for sharing this resource. I have a client who can definetly use this.

Hi,

I've been a caregiver for close to 20 years now to my hubby who is totally disabled as a result of a workplace accident.  I am going through a very difficult bump right now and I'm glad I found this forum.  Thank you for the link to your manual Sangeeta.  It will be helpful to me I know. 

I'm having so much anxiety for a lot of different reasons.  When I get overwhelmed, my grief feelings come back.  They are so painful that I don't want to "go" there again, and that is where the anxiety comes in I think.  The difficulty lays in not getting swamped and mired in grief. I still have to function.  It is hard to figure out how to take care of myself.  I should be good at it by now but...  . I get the impression that EFT can be useful even when a situation is ongoing, but I don't really know how to figure out what to tap on.  I tap on 'this anxiety' ' doing everything myself' etc as well as addressing the physical feelings like 'this knot in my tummy' 'this tightness in my throat'.  I don't seem to get too far and actually the anxiety feels like it's going up.  

If you (or anyone) have  some thoughts, I would sure appreciate some help.

Soobie,

    Our hearts and prayers are with you. Blood sugar balance or off balance maybe a problem in hindering clearence and keeping your anxiety high. Chronic dehydration also is an influence, as well as lack of sleep.

    Have you tapped on the accident, itself? Putting it into movie form?  If you haven't, I would clear those memories, being gentle with yourself and anything that comes up. When, you get into overwhelm with grief feelings tapping on your Gamut Point, is very benefitial, for calming. "Even though, I am afraid if I let this grief out/surface I may get swamped and totally non-functionally mired in it, I completely love, honor & forgive myself and anyone else who may have contributed."

    Grief has other attributes and they are acceptable emotions having nothing to do with how much you care for your husband.

          1. ANGER - a "Tappy Bear" is great for this or something similiar. Find a quiet place and tell him your story tapping as you tell. Tap hard if you have the urge, scream and yell, it is OK! Let it out! Many of us are brought up, that is isn't OK, to let it out? So, we stuff, stuff, stuff and that creates more problems with our own health!

That is a start, if you give us some feedback, we'll see what other suggestions we can give.

Love & blessings to you and your family

Sylvia

Hi Sangeeta,

Thank you! This is great and am sure very useful. I have been a care giver for a couple of decades and I know how that can be!

I would like to link it my e-support forum as well..

Warmly,

Jasmine

 Hello Soobie,

 I do hope that my manual gives you some help. 

In addition to Sylvia's very useful suggestions, here are a few more:

1.  Even if the anxiety seems to go up, please keep tapping.  A few more quick rounds usually start having a calming effect, even after an initial upswng in anxiety.

2.  I would suggest tapping using "Even though I may have difficulty in believing that something as simple as EFT can actually make a significant improvement in my life, I choose to give EFT a fair chance anyway."  After 20 years of your situation, whether consciously or unconsciously, it may be hard to believe that EFT can help in "this particular situation".

3. There are a lot of good suggestions on how to address issues without "going there" in  this thread.

4. Though we are supposed to stay focused on EFT in these forums, TAT is demonstrated in the videos, so I hope it is ok to include a little bit on it. I would highly recommend a TAT using something along the lines of:

Step 1 : "Everthing that contributed to my ongoing overwhelmed and grieving state happened"

Step 2 :  "All this happened, but it's over now.  I am ok and can relax now"

In my experience, TAT and EFT are very complementary and work beautifully together.  TAT takes away a lot of the "impact" and EFT clears away remaining, associated or new issues that emerge.  This combination is particularly useful in cases involving a specific incident(the accident) and/or grief.

As Sylvia said, do give us feedback.  I am sure you will receive a lot of support and suggestions from this caring forum.

Sincere Best Wishes!

Sangeeta 

Thank Jasmine,

As I wrote before, I welcome any links to my e-books.  

Warm Regards,

Sangeeta

Well, thanks to you both Sylvia and Sangeeta.  I was surprised to get so much feedback and your insights are bang on.  That alone is so helpful...thank you.  

I haven't tapped on the accident because I wasn't there.  I don't have issues with blame or anything, it seems like a straight forward accident.  when I do think about it, one thing that sticks out  is the feeling he must of had while he was falling.  That can make my stomach do somersaults.  I don't know if that contributes to my anxiety, but I could try to clear that.

I did go through a few years of counselling and it was hard, tough work; very painful but helpful.  At least I think/thought it was.

I can vividly imagine events urrounding the accident; the phone call, going to the hospital, talking to the doctor, etc.  I can remember the sheer overwhelmingness of  the first few days.  I don't feel the overwhelm anymore. (Kind of like you don't remember the pain after you have a baby). I don't get any 'SUDS' on it now, so how would I know if I'm clearing it or not?

I do have strong feelings towards the people who failed in supporting us.  I'm speaking of incompetence from many hospital professionals and also from worker's comp.  I also at the same time feel guilt for feeling that way because I know that everyone (well most everyone) was doing the best that they could.  Specifically, without Worker's Comp, I would never have been able to bring my husband home from the hospital and supported him here because of the financial burden of his care.  My husband was in the hospital for 2 1/2 years, much of it in a totally inappropriate place where he didn't get 'worked' with to maximize his recovery.  I don't have specific movies for that either. Just a global 'they didn't do what should have been done'.  

The issues right now are surrounding the nursing care he receives at home.  We have this set up in the best possible way I feel, but there are times when I can't rely on the staff. Now, I find that I go straight into anxiety mode when things don't go right.  It's the lack of control I have over my life I would guess, but tapping on lack of control/support etc doesn't get me relief.  I get all into the I feel so sorry for me stuff.  Then I get mad at myself for it.  I know better.  I also see now because of what I've learned about EFT that my body is telling me otherwise.  I have other health issues (very bad back is one).

So, I don't know how to tap when I can think clearly  and I don't know how to tap when I can't think clearly. You both gave some awesome suggestions though. I am not going to give up yet. 

After 20 yrs of trying to stay positive despite a really unfortunate situation, I know I've stuffed a lot of my feelings down.  When I talk to someone, the feelings are more alive, but when I think of them on my own, they don't affect me much. When new/current feelings of frustration, sad, anger etc. come up, they are way to scary to even try to handle it alone.  I've tried a similar version of 'packaging' everything together and releasing.  I will look more closely at your suggestion Sangeeta and also about the TAT tip.  I've never looked at that, though I have heard of it.  

I've made an attempt to use the Personal Peace Procedure, but I find I can't focus on the incidents I can come up with...I went through so much 'talk counselling' that it's boring, then when anxiety is present, I can't focus because of the anxiety. 

I have a lot of hope for EFT and yes, doubts that it will work for me. I will gladly and appreciatively take any suggestions and support.  Thank you again for your kind and compassionate responses. 

Soobie,

My suggestion for finding if you still have a remaining SUDS level, is to incorporate some form of Muscle Response Testing. My personal preference is the 4U2C Energy Tester, but, you could use the Sway Test or a pendulum and a graph. Maybe someone else has another suggestion. If you are interested and would like more information, let us know.

Anxiety is a Stomach Meridian emotion. A Powerlessness feeling is a major factor. I wonder if you take one example a day, and tap. Example, "Today, I choose to just acknowledge, that I feel powerless about ________________, and I love, honor & accept those feelings and choose to be open for help!"

And as I sit here, that is my "gut" reaction, just as you have spoken about, you are in overwhelm and are entitled. And you have my permission :~)

That said................ In Carol Look's Newsletter today, she has the following exercise ~

 Sylvia, This is very helpful.   Thank you so much!  I had a quick look earlier today at Carol Looks newsletter and I had saved it for later when I might have  time to read it more thouroughly, so it's interesting that you 'recommended' it to me.  I will admit that I have mixed emotions about doing an exercise like that. 

I don't know if it's relevant, but the primary reason I sought help in the form of talk therapy before was because I became depressed.  I was responsible for becoming depressed because I was always looking at the bright side and I suppressed my negative feelings.  When I saw that newsletter, my feelings felt mixed up because I want to see the happy, but I'm feeling the sad inside. 

I am very aware that there is an abundance of really good stuff in my life for which I am so grateful about, but still I am sad.  Yes, I have moments of happiness, maybe even large blocks of time, but I am really sad I think. 

I tried your suggestion about "Today I feel powerlessness about and I filled in the blank with 'my sadness'.  I started to get light-headed feelings and also shivery cold.  That is exactly the physical feelings I can remember from the hospital (though I don't know exactly if it was the first day/week or month. 

This is what I need to tap on isn't it?(At least one thing)  Feeling sad about what I/we lost?  I feel like I'm having an 'aha' moment here.  Once I can accept and clear my sadness, I will leave some room for happiness.  Real happiness, not self-forced happiness.  I have a big lump in my throat; partly because I'm anticipating this might be painful, and partly from excitement that I might start clearing this!  Earlier this week I couldn't even have thought about tapping on this myself, so I guess I have made progress.

 I am very interested in the muscle testing stuff.  I've seen examples of muscle testing on the DVDs, but I've never attempted to self test.  I've never heard of the muscle testing you are referring to and it would be great if you wanted to share that info.  Thanks.

You mention the stomach meridian, I did a google search and I gather that I'm tapping on that several times when I do the sequence.  I don't always get the same feeling when I tap, but the point That I most often feel a release at is the chin point.

Some days I can't get on the computer, but I will let you know my results as soon as I can.  I can see this could be complex, but might as well get started one tree at a time. 

Thanks again, you are very kind to help me.