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Chronic anxiety for my parents

Amiral — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 20:27:34 GMT

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Good evening everyone !

First of all, please accept my apologies for my speaking. I come from France, and my english is not as fluent as yours ;) .

I have been practicing EFT for a couple of months now, and it works on pain, anger etc.... But now I am having some problems I can't put a name on it. And finding an EFT practitioner here in France is hard, because if you don't live in a big city, you have nothing. The nearest one is 350km away from me, and I can't afford to have an appointment with him (no cession by phone or skype). That's why I come here because I really need help.

I have been having chronic anxiety and a few panic attacks for a few weeks now. I think I solved the panick attack issues, but not the anxiety, because I don’t know what is causing me this anxiety. This is my story : I am a 28 years old man, I have a job since I am 20, but I still leave with my parents, and I can’t imagine my life without them (losing my parents is a big part of my anxiety). I tried to tap on this particular issue and it didn't work. So I asked myself why ? Maybe it comes from my low self esteem (I tapped on this one too), it didn’t work. I tried with self confidence, it didn’t work either (even if I feel better). I tried with guilt, because that’s true I feel guilty when I think about leaving my parents to have my own place, and I don’t know why. One thing I am sure about, is that I really want to have a normal life, not wasting my time worrying about my parents and what I would do without them and so on. I just want to live my life.

I tried lots of things to tap on, and now I am desperate because I don’t know what to do to find the core issue.

I have read the thread ‘Anxiety and EFT - Important Tips ‘ and one thing came up to me. I remembered my mother telling me that after my birth, she couldn’t take me in her arms, because I was full of blood and dirty, so she asked the nurse to clean me before. Anyway I don’t know if it’s the core issue of my ‘addiction to my parents’, because I have no memories and no feelings about my birth. And I don’t know what to do to check if it’s the core issue or not.

Now I am just lost, I spend all my time on internet to find new ideas, new EFT protocols which could help me

Please help me. I know it would be easier to see an EFT practitioner face to face, but it’s impossible, I lived in a small town far from everything....

Sneezing instead of a sigh

Floris — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 20:02:44 GMT

Hi there! This is my first post here and I'm really exited about EFT and other healing methods. My Crohn disease even seems to be healed (even though doctors think that's impossible).

Anyway, my first question is. I sometimes sneeze after a EFT round instead of sigh. What could that mean, is that normal?

Everything at once or one at a time?

carlymaree — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 03:37:07 GMT

I am new to EFT and already I can feel it making changes where other things I have tried have failed. I am all excited and like a little kid in a lolly shop, I want to tap this issue and that problem, oh and this one and this and this and this. My question is, is it alright to tap a bunch of different things every day, or should I pick and issue, deal with it, then pick another, deal with that and so on?

Thanks very much and take care!

My Daily Labyrinth Walk

Harry Chambers — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 20:44:12 GMT

Hi All,

For years, I wanted to walk a labyrinth, and years ago I saw one and when I tried to find it again, I was not able to do so, and may be the church got rid of it. Mentioning this to a lady friend, she told me of one in my community, about 3/4 mile from my apartment, and per advertised, it welcome that persons come only on tuesday evening after 7:00PM, that insure that no cars will be parted on it. On one evening is a farmer market.

So it hit me to go very early in the morning, a lady told me that it ok that I did this, before some arrive and part on it. Thus I now I been doing this each day and to my surprise, I look forward to doing it, and just getting there by walking, this incorporated my getting out the apartment and gettting some exercise.

For now, I can not EFT wise tell of any experiences per walking it, I walked it while tapping on myself and thought of other ways too that I may incorporate the two together, I looked over the net to see if any other EFTer use the two in some manner, so far nothing.

So and may be today and now, that I just value that I look forward to doing this each day, this may be a one good and redeeming value of it.

Harry

PS: I have finger one too, and I may in time have more to say about how the two may for me work together.

Guitleman's disease

Enys Evans — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 18:08:22 GMT

Hi,

Does anyone know anything about Guitleman's Disease. My friend's daughter is 17 years old and has been diagnosed with this syndrome. Apparently the body is unable to store Magnesium and potassium. She is on a cocktail of drugs at the moment with no improvement in her health. As far as her parents are aware there has been no trauma at all in her life. She has a stable family life and plenty of friends in school. The only thing I can think of is that her father's brother died suddenly at the age of 17 (a form of epilepsy) and I wonder if this has been carried over epigenetically? Also the mum's nephew had a brain tumour before her daughter was born and was a very traumatic time for the mother as she was very close to the 5 year old child at the time.

Any suggestions would be gratefully received.

Thank you,

Enys

Whats the biggest change you noticed using EFT?

BigBoi — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 07:05:41 GMT

Hi,

I would like you all to please share in this thread the success stories that were brought about by EFT, and how long the changes lasted. Also, if there was something you couldn't shift with EFT I'd like to know that also.

Best,

Andrew

New at EFT - Fibro, MG... Where do I start?

Angel777 — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 05:56:48 GMT

Greetings to everyone,

I stumbled across this Website yesterday and I am interested in trying EFT in hopes to get relief from my recent diagnosis of Fibromyalgia but don't know where to start. I hope someone can help me. I'll try to keep this short but please don't hold me to that. :)

I was diagnosed with Myasthenia Gravis 15 years ago and have been on medication for this disease since diagnosis. I was in remission for many years but I relapsed in 2006 and had to go on disability. The disease was kept under control with more aggressive medication until about 8 months ago when the symptoms became worse again. There was also something else going on in my body that I knew wasn't right but just couldn't explain. This caused me to get very depressed in addition to being very sick. I have always been a very sensitive, insecure, shy person and fear has always been my nemesis. I also am very intuitive and tend to take in peoples energy whether good or bad. I have been told that this is the main reason why I developed Myasthenia Gravis. I took in everyone's emotions and problems which caused my immune system to short circut and turn on me so to speak. My energy flow went haywire. Well, the past 8 months has been very, very trying becuase I have been so sick. I began having pain all over my body and now have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I know that this was caused by my physical illness but also by the mental state that I was in.

I have realized that the Mind, Body and Spirit connection is very important to optimal health so I have made some serious changes in my life. I have been able to get through the depression and I feel much better mentally because I am now doing progressive relaxation and learning how to let things go instead of keeping everything inside. I'm also back on the right path Spiritually and have changed my diet completely because I have eliminated all the foods that my body is sensitive to as well as all the "junk" food. But I am still having pain from Fibromyalgia and I want to try EFT because I don't know what else to do.

Would someone please give a little advice as to where I should start? I have pain in my arms, legs, neck and a few other areas. Am I supposed to use an affirmation for each part of my body that has pain individually? Or can I just say all pain in my body? Am I supposed to address the emotions I had (fear, anger, hopelessness, denial etc) that I have had all my life and over the last 8 months that contributed to my Fibro pain?

I am sad to see that this website will be shutting down because I am very interested in EFTnow that I have found the site. Hopefully someone will be ale to help me before everything is shut down.

Thanks to any and all who are willing to help me out.

anyone need help with anxiety?

freedomwitheft — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 23:14:44 GMT

If you need some advice or help with anxiety and how to tap, I am offering free sessions. I can help you try to figure out what your limiting beliefs are that is causing so much anxiety, and we can start to clear away some of them by tapping on them. If you are interested, please contact me at eftpulse@gmail.com Best of luck to all of you!

Core Issues?

arum — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 01:24:44 GMT

OK, this is my question. I heared someone say that unless you find the core issue, you're just not going to get rid of the problem. There are some issues that I cant; seem to clear, because I really don't know the core issue, but I do know it can be cleared with EFT, because when I tap on it, it temporairly clears,-then comes back. Will these issues NEVER go away because I don't know the core issue? It does seem that if I went back and did the PPP I might be able to get rid of it, but I really dread THAT. I have disasociation, and that makes getting to the core issue even more difficult. What to do? :) Arum

Will Trade copy of Foundational or Honors library for Intermediate library

dewiniaeth — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 17:26:05 GMT

Hi everyone, I would be glad to make copies of the Foundational or Honors libraries in exchange for a copy of part of the intermediate library I don't need the whole intermediate library; I believe I have all of the doing business with EFT, borrowing benefits, and weight loss and addictions stuff. If you do not want to trade, I would also be happy to pay you generously for your time spent making copies of the intermediate DVDs and for postage. Thanks so much, Jason dewiniaeth@gmail.com

Please help me...

John84 — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 11:33:39 GMT

As the title says, Im in a dreadful state of mind. Last night I had a panic attack which seem to last the whole night, feelings of coldness, chills, then warm again, a deep pain in my stomache and an overall anxious feeling. Also the feeling I was not in my body.

How it started? I did an EFT session with my practicioner yesterday. We havent made any real results and this has been my 4th session. After the 1st session I felt really good and experienced no panic attacks and only a little anxiety that week. During the 2nd session, my mind began to question everything that was going on like: "Am I saying the right things, are we tapping on the correct things, will this work, the feeling doesnt change, why doesnt it change, etc etc." I couldnt bring up any emotions and after the session I started pondering negative thoughts. The next day I feel weird, like really self conscious about how I feel. This fuels the pondering and some days later I have a huge panic attack.

Now, the 3rd session, I explained my therapist how it worked in my head and that there is some form of self sabotage going on, I said Im thinking that nothing works on me, I have tried everything. The session went alright after that, but Im having a hard time bringing up emotions from specific events. After this session I went home and layed on my bed, the negative pondering started again, questioning everything that happened in the session and if I can do anything else that will improve my state and fasten the process. I noticed a negative feeling in my stomache again and said to myself to stop pondering, it worked.

When I entered the room for my 4th session I immediately started to feel really strange again, panicking, but also couldnt think properly anymore and felt I wasnt grounded in my body. This feels so scary, I have no idea what it is, is it also a panic attack? Anyway, we talked about our improvements and that he felt that I was resisting and that it wouldnt work. I started crying and said I really want it to work and hate the fact that there is something inside of me that resists. He started tapping on me and the session went fine after that. When we ended it, I felt relieved, but also felt I was able to fall back into the weird state any moment.

On the way home, it went fine, I dropped by a friend and it seemed ok, allthough I still felt that every second I could fall back into that weird state. Later on when I went to bed, the thought came: "I need to think about what happened during the eft session, i have to analyze it." "I have to see if I can remember things I have to do to improve" It was hard to remember and I felt I shouldnt have done it, but I tried harder and started to remember things, turning them negative and pondering hard on them. I couldnt stop the thinking anymore and then started panicking again. It was horrible, I couldnt get out of it and it lasted the whole night :(

What is the matter with me? What is the weird state I experience? Isnt EFT supposed to get rid of negative feelings? I know I want to test it after a session and I try to think of negative stuff and see if the feeling is still there. Is this a real bad thing? I seriously need some help, I cant do this much longer...

Is it normal that after an EFT session other stuff comes up and new intense feelings come? Is it because I have blocked my emotions for years?

I would love some answers on how to proceed.

Yours truly,

John

Compendium of emotional principles and practices

Namaste — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:59:43 GMT

Hi everyone,

I came across this website today and thought it was really excellent and this is definitely the place to share it. Well worth reading and ideal for use with EFT.

http://cushnir.com/one_thing/compendium.html

Noreen.

By Our Own Terms

Harry Chambers — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 21:49:16 GMT

Hi All,

I very casually mention dirty electricity on autism forum, and it got no response, I will do the same with another matter and see what response is given to it. On the autims forum there are many mothers, fathers too, that dearly love their children and many in their own mind and hearts to will go the end of the earth and beyound to do things to help their own children, but it is more the truth be this, those things must be of their own terms. Which should be perfectly good and great.

What I did was to just mention and say that reports show that when devices was put in home to negate the effect of dirty electricity, kids with autism got better, not healed and whole, just got better. What basically happened was that one lady asked me to submit a link to the list, and she very likely be a parent that in her mind willl do what ever for her child, yet, there was nothing in her to just out of curiosity on her part to google and read about dirty electricty. Yes, most would assume that in things like this, when there is something possible to gain, loving parents on their own would look into some matter that may be casually thrown their way.

Me? I look at this just as the whole dynamic nature of human nature, on list that was many that be envoirmentalist and had a child with autism, they likely in second google to know more about dirty electricity. This as I am saying is just plain old human nature.

Even with in the community of EFT, some willl in seconds look into one matter X, but not other matter X that a EFTer suggested to them. I use to be more like that till one day I had this wake up call that what was posed to me, that how could I just in seconds make a choice on some matter that may can help me greatly, and have very easy resources to know more about it, and just not do it? It was like this inner voice asked me, look at the history of mind made up choice track record, and was it so great that you/I should let your mind and inner feelings, even gut too> So was they was so great in your doing the right thing? I answer was a resounding "no", this from that day on, put me on a course of, if I can access some imformation on the matter, do go and look and read what it is all about. I had to tell that part of my mind that was saying I am so busy doing this and that, to just shut up and pick a number before it sit down.

Oprah, Dr.Phil, and their staff, even us, each of us, at least most of us daily in our mind make what could be possible major choices on things that some we reject only because it just for moment do not resonate with us/them. Some of the past things that did not resonate with me, it was due more to some inner charge or a part of me that was not whole that led like years ago not to take a serious look at EFT. Call it wounded spirit or inner child, for me, they at times of my life , things spoke to me, and I mistaken it as my gut feelings, yes, my true gut seem always right, but it took me lond time to come to know and have some idea of what is more speaking to me, be it my gut feeling versus some wounded aspect of myself. Or too, just my ego period.but that is whole new chapter.

Back to the autism list, one person say of some new drug or educationl program with alot of research behind it, there be a long thread on either of them. dirty electricity, no response. I think that internally that again, many would look into things that resonate to them in critical way, that too fit with that person "in their own terms". Years ago, I remember many doing their own self informing on shuld they remove fillings that had mercury in them, and took months and months, some took it out, some did not, I read one article and just knew that I had to take they out, this time my gut feeling was correct, but and well, it was some times, I mistook my the speaking of wounded feeling than that of a gut one.

I think that for me, I should had tapped upon those things and issues that may effect most of my inner and initial feelings on some matter, this is to insure that what if my gut feeling do speak to me, I may better know it, versus, my assuming that a wounded part of me, ego too, but more so that I not mistake and follow a wounded aspect of myself, and be thinking that I am following my gut feeling.

In a day or more, I may say more on this.

Harry

anxiety from birth ?

Adi Tillett — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:18:12 GMT

Hi,

I've been chatting to a friend who has asked for my help in clearing a number of issues or in her words "declutter my lifepath-to-date"

I am a newly qualified level 2 practioner and this friend is more-or-less as experienced as me (2 years with EFT).

This friend tells me she has never felt like she was "fitting in" and even questions "what the f___ am I doing here" and has always felt this way throughout her life.

My friend remembers being born.. She used to wake from a nightmare, particularly during childhood with the "weirdest feeling" - "like the most immense crushing feeling" in her limbs (no pain), complete paralysis (breathing was fine) but unable to do anything for several minutes until the intensity passed.

Visually, everything had a redish/orange tinge, a feeling of being in a tunnel and in front of her was something, a shape possibly but despite a feeling of distance, it also felt incredibly close.

"overwhelming and sure as f___, somewhere I did not want to go but it is getting nearer".

(Apologies for the language but these are her words and I want to convey her intensity)

Her childhood was spent with two parents who "shouldn't have stayed together - dad hid in the TV and mum tried for mine and my brother's sake" and from her dad's part, she felt no encouragement or "genuine" interaction.

No major incidents during childhood although a regular yearning to run away but "never got further than across town".

Teenage years were spent getting drunk, smoking cigarettes and "smalltime" crime but this led into early adult life which was spent "on a podium up to my eyeballs in weed, LSD, coke and anything else I could get my hands on until I lost the plot".

The last ten years she has cleaned up completely but has "big" feelings of anxiety about "nothing in particular" or "imaginary scenarios that have not occured" or the "smallest thing like going to the shops becoming a huge deal".

She also feels "really threatened" and "under attack" if someone criticises her, even; in the case of her partner, who has the best intentions.

She has had major money issues in the past so is quite fearful in this area but is actually relatively okay financially at the moment

She skirted around some complusive behaviours, particularly in the latter stages of her drug use but these occasionally "pop up in mild form" during prolonged "stressful times".

She also had a stillborn baby four years ago.

She finds when she taps on specifics, there are releases so this is not about getting EFT working but she is really struggling to come up with specifics for this "vague" anxiety feeling and she tells me she is becoming quite confrontational when it comes to the criticism aspect.

She loves her partner but feels a part of her is really lashing out - again for reasons unknown.

However she "feels" these issues go back "way before" her baby's passing and she is relatively at peace with this, despite the natural intensity that would occur.

She does not want to see another practioner as she feels we can work through this which I am fine to do but we'd like some advice on the anxiety/confrontational aspects - she has no idea where they come from but feels they go back considerably, "possibly all the way".

She is worried about the confrontational aspect - it is becoming quite draining for both her and her partner and she has made no head way with this or the anxiety, despite trying specific events, in the moment as it happens and on a general "ET I have this anxiety.." level.

We known the being born aspect needs to be tapped on and we are both comfortable with tapping scripts but there's a lot here and she's a "good procrastinator".

BTW she has a real dislike to using the phone other than talking to her partner. Again though, no particular events have come up on that.

Also she channels and is Reiki attuned but these seem to have switched themselves off of late. She feels she has a "noisy mind" and also does not sleep well.

Finanl point - she has a real foreboding sense that is starting to scare her around how much stress can she handle (she's reading this and tapping as I write)

Do you think the being born aspect is the key? (Her question)

Do you have any other advice advice please?

WIll the matrix reimprinting technique help do you think? I have ordered the book and research so far suggests I have already been (unknowingly) working a curtailed version of this already)

Sorry for the length of the post but you thoughts much appreciated as always

rdgs Adi

Dirty Electricity

Harry Chambers — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 21:05:40 GMT

Hi All,

Some you and I too, say of Gary saying of in some things, EFT wise, we need to be very specific, get to that specific one thing that may may be a root and very supportive matter that say a core issue will not collapse. Let me take a page from that one point, but defer to an apple, away from the oranges, and try an make a possible point of and reality of dirty electricity. Dirty electricity? I just learned of it as 2 weeks now.

That said, some of you remember Gary's story of for some time he was getting up 5 or more time at night to urinate, and he took a battery of tests and nothing came back as reason for this, and he too likely EFT wise, did a lot of work to get this matter remedied. And then one day he read of an article of how aliminum was not good to be in cooking pans, he read of this in a Mercola news release. So got rid of his aliminum cooking utensils and then he was able to go may be only once a night.

Thus some things being as they are, Gary remedy in this case was not an EFT one, nor too, with broken bones, it just good to have them reset and put in a cast. And all this lead to dirty electricity, and what it seems to be is this, the moment that electricty is used up at a source, a computer or appliance, there is dead form or ghost form of energy that once living and live electricity, it is like this ghost form or dirty electricty that may be harming the health of many in our nation. But the sad truth is this, we have products that can be put in homes and building to fix this problem.

I read that all the computers we make and sell to Europe, they make us put an special RF chip in it to fix this problem, but why not to and for us, this is done? There is much on the net about this problem and too stray electricity, but this happens more on the farm and rural area. There too is much on the net about stray electricity too. Again, I am feeling I may be living in cave per not to just know of the two of these things.

Now what it seems is that some persons are more what is called electrical sensitive, the energy of electricity effect them badly, but too there many that daily to some degree from minor to major degrees do suffer from dirty electricity. And when they put devices that are designed to correct this problem in their home, they sleep better and some of their other body symptoms too lessen, a few go away.

A few medical researches are coming to belief that dirty electricity may play a and some role in some health conditions from A to Z of things, autism to MS and other things. And with this possible being so, this may EFT why some their own EFT work just may not help them better with some of their health issues. Thus as with Gary and to the matter of specifics, that one specific for some of you may be dirty electricity?

Harry

do you need help with eft?

freedomwitheft — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 23:13:15 GMT

Hello there! I am offering free eft sessions to help anyone who is in need of some healing and advice. If you are interested, please contact me at eftpulse@gmail.com!

Need help with my situation

Nevergiveup — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 18:58:41 GMT

Hi there ,

I have some difficulties getting to the core issiues I have. Let me start at the beginning . I have a depression and aviodent personality disorder. I have gone trew therapy with only limited succes until the day I have discovered eft.

Have to admit that I had some unrealistix expetations when I frist started. I wrote down all of the issius I had , tought I would tap on it and I would be myself again. Unfortunalty that dindent happen . That being said it has def helped me alot .

One of the things that has been present for many many years if the great anxious /uncomfertbale feeling when im just walking among poeple . It would be so bad that when I saw any idication that poeple where talking about me , I would just tramble in fear . Now I can walk among popel without these uncomfertbale feelings whatsoever, It has even come to a piont that I can walk in the presence of some really shady looking caracters without having these feelins I had for so long .

Being with groups of poeple is tought but it has also somehwat decresed. Still pleanty of feelings I rather not have but then again much less severe then before .

I have two long term goals

1 On of the symptems I have regarding the depression is. I feel dead inside , nothing that touches me , nothing that motvates me , the amount of emotion I can feel is very limited ( close to none ) . It has maken it really hard to get to my hurt/rejected/critised part . I can replay these events in my head but more often then not I would not get any emo response to it with two expetions :

When I was a chiled I was not liked and bullies tremedously . I was glad to get in tought with that part . I stated tapping it till it depscred to zero

Other one is that im terrified that people will see the real me ( the hurt rejected boy with no the self esteem whatsoever ) that hit a sensite nerve as well

But I still feel dead inside , is there something that I might have forgotten to top on? Have I not been presistant enough? I have even made a list of any bad event that I could recall , strarted taping on it. But since there was no emotion when I did that I dont know if im free of the other past experiances . Any advise would be much appriciated

2e goal I have is to get in tough with the ''inner child '' . That part of me that is still there but really wel hidden but the part I love so much . Even tough I made whole list of bad things that happend in my chilhoud and stratred tapping on it . It did not bring out the real me . Was I not presistante enough, are there way to get in tough with your subcontoius mind , mabye there are hidden parts still there that I forgot about. Is there a way or technique to get in tough with your emo side even tough you feel dead inside? Sould I start looking things from a diffrent angle in order to get the results im looking for ? Am I inpatiant and should I stick to the list I had even when it would meen I would be tapping on the things for months to come?

Slowly but gradually I want to get rid of the false self I have been living with for as long I can remember to make room for the real me( the inner child ) . Im kind of stuck right know couse I cant think any more things that I can adress. Please help :(

Kind regards,

Nevergiveup

Movie Suggestion

Harry Chambers — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 22:02:18 GMT

Hi All,

Recently I saw Extrodinary Measures, it is a movie of true stroy that show how a new and major drug make itself to the public market, I show more to the culture of the drug indsustry itself, the top persons that how they make their inner choices on the profit end of drug versus what other things that may effect that one end. Because of the stakes of many children, this had me cheering for this new drug to be a success. This caught me be surprise but I do and am for drugs, just that be safe and make to the market the right way, not hidding of efidence that later show and led to that a drug being taken off the market

Harry.

Thoughts for Haiti

Adi Tillett — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 18:46:31 GMT

Hi all,

If there ever was a good time for some remote healing, the Haitians really could do with our positive focus..

Be it tapping, remote reiki, meditation; all or by any other means.

Best regards

Adi

Starting out

Coastiejeff — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 01:37:16 GMT

Hello,

A little background on myself. I have been in public service my entire adult life, about 22 yrs, with the military(search and rescue) and Law Enforcement. A couple years ago at a training session we were shown a very raw, disturbing and graphic video having to do with terrorists and what they do to people (beheadings, torture, executions, etc.); apparently the instructor wanted to scare us into not getting caught by them, then it was "See you after lunch". Well, a couple months later I had a very bad nightmare dealing with the video where I was the one committing the senseless acts the terrorist were committing. As I woke up from this nightmare, and while still in the haze of it, I had a thought of doing the same to my wife as she lay next to me. As you can imagine this disturbed me greatly as I have spent my entire adult life helping people in harms way and love my wife very much. The next day at work, while trying to figure out what had happened the night before, I had a thought of, "Before I ever hurt my wife, I would take this gun on my hip and take myself out." HOLLY COW!! WHAT IS HAPPENING!! I went home early with a terribly upset stomach, my wife was out of town for a few days, and I was curled up on the couch unable to eat for about two days.

Throughout the last couple years, I have been trying to figure out what this all means as it literally came on overnight, and it has manifested it's self into thoughts of things like turning into oncoming traffic while driving, violent act's against my family and others, and myself. Even questioning the meaning of life, and my own mortality. I have seen 4 different therapists, the first two were a little to cooky, and the last two have been much better. My current one introduced me to TFT. I still see him once a month as he lives about one and a half hours away. No one has really been able to diagnose the problem, Some think it may be a minor form of PTSD, but I think we narrowed it down to stress anxiety, and "Compassion Fatigue". I guess the years of putting others before myself have caught up to me. I have good days, and some not so good, but throughout the last couple years things have gotten better. I still, though, get these fleeting thoughts of doing harm to others and myself, and being the caring person that I am, it disturbs me to think that way and causes anxiety.I have recently now begun to be terse and edgy, and not very patient, which is the complete opposite of how I was before the nightmare. I have begun to question my love for my wife and family, and again, this disturbs me as I know I love them very much, so why do I think this way? They have been a rock of support for me throughout this ordeal. I also have developed a bit of a fear of heights as I had a fleeting thought once of jumping off a friends balcony about 5 stories up, this is weird too as I am a private pilot and enjoy flying. A bit ironic, eh?

Anyways, I've stumbled onto EFT, and like what I am hearing. I am trying to figure out though where to start with all this stuff running around in my head. Is it best to start off with more general affirmations, or try to get specific right off the bat? What have been some of your experiences?I'm sure I will have more questions, but that's enough for now. Thanks in advance for any advice.

Where do I begin

bforrest — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 02:25:03 GMT

I am fairly new to EFT. I learned about it a couple of years ago, but thought it was kind of strange and did not further investigate it. Every where I go, it seems that I am told to check out EFT. So I decided to do just that. I read through the free download, etc. I decided to focus on my most pressing issue. Insomnia. I have been working on this issue for about 3 weeks now. Obviously, I still have insomnia. When I do wake up in the middle of the night or wee hours of the morning....I do 3 rounds of tapping and it usually relaxes me enough to go to sleep.

I also have a lot of repressed memories that I probably need to deal with. (Father abused, mother rejected, etc) My problem is that I don't remember specific incidences any more. I have tried to "move" past it.....but realize that some of my issues are related to unresolved things.

I created a spreadsheet with what I thought some of my issues were...but truthfully, they seem generic. (Self esteem, anxiety, abuse, rejection, etc)

If I have not been able to free myself of anything....and I have been doing EFT for 3 weeks now....with no resolve.....what is the next step?

Trying EFT for 2 Years, no Improvement.. Can't concentrate on the feeling

Nameistaken — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 15:56:44 GMT

Hello everyone,

I am writing this post because I feel helpless. For a very long time I have been working with EFT, seeing it as this huge help that could improve my life in every direction. The improvements I had were often very small and there were a lot of times when I thought that I understood how EFT works. Every time when I kept on doing it a similiar way I had to find out that these improvements only adressed the surface. No matter how persistant I used it on an emotion it always kept coming back. Every time this happend I changed the method in a way that made me feel like I could now adress the feeling better.

I have tried a lot of things like saying the emotion loud, whisper it or just even say it in my thougts. I also tried imagining it. I tried different types of breathing. Breathing in deeply, saying the words while breathing out, saying the words after breathing out or breathing in, saying the words when I hold my breath. Also I tried breathing in deeply or not even focusing on the breathing.

Unfortunately now I am at a point where I think that none of these things helped my concentrate on a particular emotion. I still believe that EFT can work but somehow I was not yet able to concentrate on a feeling or getting an emotion to come to you.

Has anyone of you experienced something like that? Is there something I do completly wrong? Are there any suggestions what I could try to focus on an emotion?

I really hope that anyone can help me to finally get some results. Right now I am very sad that all my efforts seem to lead to nothing and I really fear that EFT might not be working and this would destroy some of my dreams of improving in certain areas of my life.

Regards,

Michael

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Fear and Safety

BettySue — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 13:04:45 GMT

Coming across a lot of "fear = safety" in regards to victims of stalking..

I hadn't read this anywhere else so I thought I'd post it here.

The victim's fear causes two problems, both of which work to the advantage of the stalker.

First, it physically maintains an energetic connection that triggers the Law of Attraction.

Second, whenever the fear is triggered, the victim becomes less than conscious - i.e. part of the mind leaves the present and returns to a past trauma, leaving the victim vulnerable because they become less than conscious regarding their current surroundings. This can harm them in two ways. It can cause them to miss a threat that is present, right now, and leave them open to attack AND/or it can cause them to perceive threats that aren't there, leaving them paranoid. Neither is safe.

If one is triggered, one is not fully aware of one's current surroundings.The result can be anything from an auto accident to physical assault (as perpetrator or as victim) to murder.

When they're triggered, they are not only not paying attention to present surroundings, but they are also attracting the same frequency of energy they encountered during previous traumas, like a magnet.

I suspect, that breaking the energetic connection could also be of benefit to the stalker.

I do NOT recommend surrogate tapping on a stalker or any other types that may be dissociated.

The evidence collected via the use of EFT strongly suggests that all people are good at the core. If a stalker or a serial killer or any other such threat to society were not good at the core there would be no need for them to dissociate. What happens when you tap on such individuals is dependent upon too many variables to cover ranging from who and how many are aware of their crimes to whether or not they've experienced talk therapy in the past. Suicide is a possibility and, in some cases, a probability. How they would go about it is entirely up in the air. Others could be harmed. Tapping on or with such individuals should be considered a first step in a longer process. If you're not willing to see it through or take responsibility for the consequences, don't do it. Refer the matter to someone else.

If your actions inadvertently cause harm, make no mistake, you've been traumatized. You should consider yourself a victim of trauma and treat yourself as such and as soon as possible. That type of trauma is the "hell" to which the path paved with good intentions leads. The soul remains intact but the mind is not the soul.

Another thing EFT teaches us is that we are not dualities of body and soul. We are trinities of body, soul and mind. It appears the soul (core) is pure, the body neutral and the mind, the only source of "corruption".Sort of like a protons, neutrons and electrons. The electron (mind) makes up less than .06% of the mass of an atom but creates 100% of the "havoc" - just a thought

Celebrity client victims could easily create the income necessary to help those who can't afford help when it comes to stalkers. There are a LOT of victims of stalking out there. All scared and all inadvertently contributing to the problem via the Law of Attraction. Let's put an end to this cycle and the cycle of abuse, in general. Each victim cleared of trauma breaks a chain of perpetual abuse. The younger, the better, when it comes to victims of sexual and other forms of physical abuse.If we can break that chain...well...that would solve a great many problems, I suspect.

Another specialty could be called "Tactical Advantage" for military personnel and first responders. Police, fire and emergency medical personnel all hold the erroneous AND DANGEROUS "fear = safety" mindset, to some degree, and, more importantly, do NOT seek assistance following their own traumas. It is simply not done. They are often required to undergo psychological evaluation, following certain traumas, but it is useless with the lack of participation within the ranks of those who intend to continue in service as first responders and in the military. They just don't participate in the assistance that is offered.Suicide rates are high in first responders and very high in the current active military.

"Tactical Advantage" would not only, literally, give them a tactical advantage in the field - it would also give them a tool to deal with their own traumas, instantly and privately.

Other possible specialties: Credit card debt sufferers (EFT & LOA), victims of bullying (a fast growing problem in both schools and the workplace), unemployment AND the OTHER employment victims i.e. those who suddenly feel trapped in jobs they hate (due to the economy and apparent loss of options), senior citizens (Gary scoffed at his first speaking engagement but they could use more joy and less fear).

I've also been wondering about both jet lag and sea sickness...not sure how that would work but airlines and cruise ship lines would probably like that.

Ok, I think that's about everything. I will be focusing on something unbelievable that I suspect EFT is trying to tell us and going underground on a project I can't really recommend to others. Wish me luck.

Take care, be safe and spread the wealth!

Betty

I have lots of problem and some of them are preventing me from fully using EFT

Hopeful — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 12:18:09 GMT

Dear All,

I'm new here and hope you guys can help me.

I have a lot of issues I need to clear but, I'll tell you guys the high priority ones first.

I've diagnosed as having depression and anxiety by my psychiatrist but I couldn't take any of the conventional medication like anti-depressant and anti-anxiety pill. My anxiety will go to high gear whenever I take these stuff and causes unbearable reaction (my psychiatrist said it's not the side effect of the medicine but my anxiety playing tricks). One anti-depressant caused me to have chill spell for 3 days like I have a freezer inside my body and the chill intensified when I was falling into sleep mode (imagine putting your hand on ice for a long time and feel it getting painful). The second anti-depressant made me have hot flushes and sweating until my mother can see my bulging veins on my forehead. Anti-anxiety pills made me even more easily shocked and the shock last for the whole day. So, I have to look for alternative and hope EFT can help me.

My most pressing issue is I feel/see the urge/image to kick, punch, straggle people and most of the time the target are my family members, myself or friends I really care about and people I'm grateful for (who give me good advice and support during my severe depression period. People who I would never want to hurt or see hurt, people who I love dearly. In fact they are the people I want to protect and want to give happiness to. Less frequently, the urge is on acquaintances or people I don't know. This scares me. When I see 'weapons' like steering wheel lock, I will feel the urge to pick it up and knock the person beside me or knock myself. Sometimes, I'll see image of my head getting bloody and sometimes I feel something around my neck. 99% of the time, I feel no anger or hatred towards the people I have urges on. I was not in angry more or anything, but, I just have this urge. Also, I'm not a violent person. In fact, I feel compassion for a lot of things. I don't even want to kill ant if I can avoid it and I feel bad pulling out weeds. I value life greatly. I feel bad for a long time after I accidentally hit a cat who rushed out in front of my car. I've never have any of these urges before my emotional breakdown (my emotional breakdown is not because of this). However angry I was, I never thought of getting physical. Only after my emotional breakdown during the end of January, I started having this urge and see myself hurting people. Luckily, my body has never listen to this urge of mine and I thank God everyday for that. Before the breakdown, I have only experienced the urge to jump down the balcony sometimes (not to commit suicide, just want to jump). I've look around the EFT official site to get guidance and came upon this article.

http://www.emofree.com/Anger-management/murderousimpulse.htm

This made me afraid to try EFT on my urges. I'm afraid of what will happen. My mom asked me to try dealing with other issues and maybe my urge will go away on its own. I'm currently using EFT to help my panic attack and it sometimes help, sometimes doesn't. I also do a bit on forgiving past mistake and on fear. But, I don't dare to go too deeply into it. I'm afraid of being too relax and losing all inhibitions and then losing control and really do something regrettable. I read a lot about how EFT healing past traumas or memories that inhibit your live and decision. Will I lost my sense of moral and value after I do EFT? This sense of right and wrong that keep me on track?

Btw, I'm also doing Ho'ponopono. I have anxiety attack yesterday, but, after a few rounds of EFT (following the clips on youtube) and repeat the Ho'oponopono mantra I can sleep soundly. I felt quite good when I woke up, but, when I still felt the urges, I started feeling hopeless and a bit depress and wanted to cry. I did a round of EFT again and able to relax and laugh. I don't really know what to say, so, I always just follow the clips on youtube (may God bless those kind altruistic people who put up the videos).

I'm also helpless because where I live, EFT is not widely practiced. Even psychiatrists are not many. It's hard to find a therapist I can do EFT with. The therapist I'm seeing that knows EFT and hypnotherapy has a tight schedule and practiced in another state.I only managed to have 1 appointment with him last month and the next appointment hasn't been fixed yet. He is very kind and gave me guidance through emails. He told me that I should be OK doing EFT on the urges because my condition is not the same as the patient http://www.emofree.com/Anger-management/murderousimpulse.htm, but, I'm still not confident doing EFT without the presence and guidance of a professional. I'm also afraid of saying wrong things that imprint the wrong message in my subconscious mind. For example, I'm afraid to say 'although I have these violent urges, I completely and totally accept and love myself' because I'm afraid my brain will get the wrong message and think it's ok to feel like that and then act on it.

I'm not taking any psychiatric medicine now, but, taking nutrients prescribed by a clinical nutritionist/naturopath who diagnosed me having hormone imbalance, immune system going haywire and slightly anemic.

Please help.

God bless everyone.